Ashley S Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 (edited) I have this friend, and we are just platonic friends. He is really caring, and a good friend, but I notice that when he's drunk he always says "We should date!" He always brings up dating somehow. He said to my one friend "I would love it if Ashley were to be my girlfriend." He kinda acts like he is my boyfriend in a way. He said to me "We would have cute kids." So, with that said he does like me, and I am willing to date him, just not right now in my life. I have to many things going on in my life, and I am not ready for commitment right now too. So, anyways. This one day he wanted me to meet his mom, he was like "my mom wants to meet you!" I made up an excuse to not meet her because I only known him for a month. So, weeks later, we are out and I am in his car, and he stops at his house for no reason. He said again "Come in! My mom wants to meet you!" So, I went in, and his family was really nice to me, and then he kept saying "I can't believe my mom liked you! She's usually not that nice to people." Then he said "You're in. My family loves you." I said "In? lol" He said "Yeah you're locked in." He really wouldn't give me an explanation on what he means by that. Does anyone else know what he means? Do guys do that to get some sort of validation from the parent? Or is he trying to introduce me as his girlfriend? We're not dating, so I don't know why it was so important to meet his parents, and family, and why he was so adamant about me meeting his parents. What do you think about all of this? Edited May 18, 2015 by Ashley S
d0nnivain Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 He wants to date you so he's acting as though you are his GF in the hopes that you simply slip into that roll. 3
Redhead14 Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Ashley, you are saying it's platonic, he's behaving like he wants or considers it to be more. Be very careful with this. You have a history of being with people/guys that you either kinda are manipulative with or are just plain bad friends and not good for you and I know you know this. This one may actually be "good" for you. Don't let him rush it, but don't toy with him either. If you like him too, consider letting it unfold naturally and see if he can be a good match for you. You may have finally found a guy that should be in your life If you don't like him for a potential boyfriend, please let him know that upfront. 1
Author Ashley S Posted May 18, 2015 Author Posted May 18, 2015 Ashley, you are saying it's platonic, he's behaving like he wants or considers it to be more. Be very careful with this. You have a history of being with people/guys that you either kinda are manipulative with or are just plain bad friends and not good for you and I know you know this. This one may actually be "good" for you. Don't let him rush it, but don't toy with him either. If you like him too, consider letting it unfold naturally and see if he can be a good match for you. You may have finally found a guy that should be in your life If you don't like him for a potential boyfriend, please let him know that upfront. Yes, indeed I should be careful. I do like him, and I am willing to date him, but just not right now in my life because I just want to have fun in my life right now, without commitment, or being tied down. I am also busy with college, and I am taking summer courses soon, and I will be super busy with that, so I really don't have time for a boyfriend. I feel bad though because I can tell he really likes me, and I just don't want him to think I am stringing him along. I told him I am not ready for a boyfriend right now, but he still seems to do "boyfriend" things, so I am not sure. But thank you for commenting, and for the advice.
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