UnknownSoldier Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 I know this may seem a bit long, but please read it all to fully understand what's going on. Thank you. Back in 2009, I met a girl in one of my college classes. The moment I walked in the room, she walked up to me and gave me a business card with her phone number. We sat next to each other every class period, and I felt a very strong connection with her, kind of like a soul mate connection. I was already engaged at the time, which is why I didn't proceed with her. Its been 6 years, and she just recently messaged me on LinkedIn containing a message where she was trying to get a hold of me. I got very overly excited, but I'm angry at myself, because I think I blew my chances by coming on too strong. After I got her message from LinkedIn, I sent her an e-mail, but only hinted off I still liked her by saying in the e-mail that I wished I had a time machine. She didn't respond back. I sent her another e-mail with my photo along with my phone number, because I wasn't sure if she was getting my e-mails and messages. I sent her a message on Face Book telling her I e-mailed her, and I've been trying to get a hold of her. I also sent her a friend request, but I have a strong feeling she denied it, because the button turned back to "Add Friend" after 2 days I sent the request. This is a bad sign. I also called a school she tutors at, and I left my phone number with the secretary that sees her come in during the week. I know this all seems like I'm coming on too strong, its just that the reason I've sent all these messages is because I'm not sure if she's getting them. Based on what has happened, do you think she has blown me off? I'm really upset, because the green friend button on Face Book changed to gray, and I'm worried that's a bad sign. Is there any way to repair this, or is it too late? My mom said to show up to her in person at the school as a last resort, but said to be careful with this, because she might think I'm stalking her. What should I do? Thank you so much. PS: The reason why I'm not sure if she was getting my messages is because she has shown a large amount of inactivity. She hasn't touched her LinkedIn and Face Book pages within months last I checked. This is why I sent all these messages. According to her Face Book page, it says she's single.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Do not follow Mom's advice here. Showing up in person is a very risky move. I think calling the school where she tutors was also unwise. Let it go now.
Author UnknownSoldier Posted May 19, 2015 Author Posted May 19, 2015 Yeah, I just found out she's not interested. Going to move on. Thanks, guys.
mortensorchid Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 I was going to say, by what you said she sounded like she was just yanking your chain for the hell of it. Move on.
Author UnknownSoldier Posted May 19, 2015 Author Posted May 19, 2015 I was going to say, by what you said she sounded like she was just yanking your chain for the hell of it. Move on. Same here. My sister says she's not happy that I picked my fiancee over her 6 years ago. Both my mom and sister said she's not rejecting me because I came out too strong, its because I turned her down when we first met. I actually have feelings for this girl, and she's turning me down.
SycamoreCircle Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 My experience has been that if you ever have to ask other people what you need to do to gauge a woman's interest, the ship has already sailed. Those who need to know, don't know. Those who don't need to know, know.
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