Why does my ex girlfriend tries to make me jealous?

[Amadeus90]

Hello everyone!

 

First some background information to understand the situation better. I was with a girl for like 10 months. In the meanwhile I was 4 months abroad. In the beginning everything went fine and she was totally in lovew with me. But somehow I thought I was not that much in love and that it was normal. She was the first girl I have spent so much time with and my first gf. She always said baby, miss you etc. I almost never said those things. So when I got back home again, for a month or so everything was normal. But after that it went bad quickly. I noticed something was wrong and somehow I managed to get a good conversation with her. She told me everything. She felt bad that I never said those things and she said I think you weren´t in love with me. If you were you would have said that. And to be honest, I think for me it was some of a ´comfort zone´. To have a girl you can go to and to some things together, but I never had those love feelings to be honest. It´s weird to explain. So after that conversation I tried to say more nice things to her etc. But she noticed she didn´t feel happy when I said those things to her. Because she knew that I said those things after that she explained me that I never said those to her. So she felt more irritated. Then it went bad. We tried to take a ´break´ for two weeks to she if we will miss each other. And I thought it will be fine. But then after those two weeks she said I think it´s not gonna work and I was confused. Somehow I convinced her to come to my place to say each other at least ´goodbye´. She agreed to do it.

 

 

When she came over we had a conversation again and she basically said, I tried everything to let you know that I loved you. I always said how much I miss you etc. And I hoped you will notice it and do the same back but you never did. She told me that I never was trully in love with her. I convinced that I liked her, but I never was really in love the same way as her. She started to cry and said: '' Is this what I was waiting for the whole time?''. I didn't know what to say to be honest. After a while we talked a little more and then she left. I walked with her to her car and a strange thing happened. I gave her a hug and sait thank you for coming, at least it is a nice way to say goodbye. And walked back. Then I heard something from behind, it was her calling me back, and I walked back to the car and she began to kiss me again for like 30 seconds or so. I was confused, what did that mean? I send her a message that night and wrote: thank you for coming, I think I will miss you a little bit. Maybe we will see each other again some time. Goodnight. She replied with: Yeah, I will miss you to. We had something together it was not 'nothing' and said maybe we will see each other, good night.

 

 

 

I knew that I will see her maybe at the same festival in 1,5 month or so after our last meeting. I did no contact because I felt that is the best thing to do.Fast forward and this is where the strange thing comes! Last friday I came back home and my sister told me (she still has some contact with my ex, they had a good connection with each other), did you know that your ex has new boyfriend? I was amazed when she told me that. I thought literally, wtf is this? So the day after I went to the festival with my friends. I thought the best thing to do is just to ignore her. But a really strange thing happened. I was just dancing and enjoying the music and then I noticed she walked by just in front of me. I knew she had recognized me. I noticed she was standing at the right side with her friends and her new bf. I walked to the left with friends and after a while she came with her bf and her friends were we were standing. Just a few meters behind me, like literally behind me. So weird. I kept ignoring her and just showed I had a really good time. I was dancing, smiling and hanging out with friends.

 

 

 

It seemed like she really tried to make me jealous or something. I just can't think of something different. Why would you come to stand to your ex ON PURPOSE with your new bf? Later on I saw her sitting with her new bf and he was behind her and she just looked really sad, not happy at all. She was staring at the ground with no emotion whatsoever. But later on she posted a photo on facebook with him with a title like: ''with my love''. Like she tried to show me she already has someone else so soon. So the things I don't understand, how can she have a new bf just 1,5 after out break-up, JUST BEFORE the festival where she knows she will probably see me. She also asked my sister if I was still going to that festival. Strange as well, right?

And then, why the hell would you try to make your ex jealous that way? For me it's just looks impossible to fall in love with a guy so soon after all the things that happened. It seems like she wants to forget me or something.

Anyways, I totally ignored her and had a good time. I knew what she was trying to do, to evoke somme kind of emotion. I refused to do that. So I hope some of you can explain this to me. Especially girls, because you would know better how women would behave.

 

 

 

Why would she has a new bf so soon, eventhough the last time she still wanted to kiss me etc.? And then trying to make me jealous with her new 'bf'? It seems more like a rebound relationship to me, but I could be wrong.

The thing is, after the no contact I forget almost everything and now it seems to confuse me a little bit again. I just want to know it. Anyways, thanks in advane for your comments! Sorry for the long story haha

[Ruby65]

OP, please pardon me for only skimming your post, it was a little long.

 

I think what you are HOPING to hear is that she's deliberately trying to make you jealous because she's still in love and secretly wants to reconcile.

 

However, if she wanted to reconcile.... she'd simply reconcile. I've been there and it's much easier to ask for another chance than it is to break up with someone.

 

WHY would an ex try to make you jealous? Because it's flattering. It's an ego-stroke to be around you because you want to be with her and she knows it. She enjoys the attention.

 

In short: because she's an immature creep and you're well rid of her.

 

Just stick to your No Contact, it sound like you're doing great.

 

Here's a guide that will help you: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com

[PegNosePete]

Because she is a heartless, callous biatch.

 

Block, NC, move on.

[Amadeus90]

I know what I have to do. But somehow it is still hard. Eventhough, I was not really in love, she was the first girl I have spent so much time with. So I think it's kinda hard to feel kinda lonely again. So maybe I'm missing just some company?

 

But what I don't understand, why would she have a new boyfriend so soon? She was not satisfied with out relationshop, because I didn't show love. But she was hurt when I told her I was not that much in love with her. But after such a short period she is 'in love' again.

 

Is it possible this is just a rebound relationshop to forget the pain I caused her? And if she was over me, she would not try to make me jaelous right? I just want to understand.

[PegNosePete]

Who gives a flying flip what she does and who she does it with?

 

It's NOT your problem and NOT your business any more.

 

NC. Ignore. Move on.