No Limit Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 (edited) No, I wouldn't. While I wouldn't mind being around a HIV positive person (the fact that people get fired and excluded because of HIV is just ridiculous, it's not airborne people! -_-) I'd never get (knowingly) sexually involved with one. Normal intercourse is impossible; once the condom breaks you'll have to rush to the hospital immediately to have a chance to not infect yourself with the virus. Anal sex is completely taboo, as the virus enters the body much faster (hence why the gay community was hit so hard). Oral sex is an option so long as semen is kept inside the mouth for a while (saliva is quite able to take the virus out) or not swallowed, but even then it's risky if you have a wound spot in your mouth. Women have the crucial disadvantage that their vaginal fluids come out of a larger area (while for men it's only the head of the penis). Really sorry this happened to her. Should I ever get infected from a cheating partner; oh boy, he better never cross my path without able-bodied bodyguards again. Edited May 19, 2015 by No Limit
amaysngrace Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Yea I could "date" them like go to dinner or go catch a show or something but be intimate with them? No way in hell.
BC1980 Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 The thing is that I feel extremely bad for saying I probably wouldn't date someone with HIV. It's about me not wanting to get HIV. It's not about me thinking there is something wrong with them because they have it. So it's not a judgement on the person, just on the fact that I don't want to get HIV. There have been threads asking if a you would date a person with a mental illness, and a lot of people will say no. I think it's a similar concept, but the fact that HIV is an STD is the difference. I work in healthcare, so I don't attach a stigma to HIV but there are so many that do. Mental illness as well. Still, I feel guilt over my feelings. I feel empathy for that person with HIV who knows how difficult it will be to find someone to date. Because many of us know what is feels like to be rejected for one thing or another. It seems like a rejection of who you are as a person, and that is going to cause deep pain.
mrs rubble Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 I Used to take blood from HIV positive people it was really sad to hear how some of them contracted it. One person was a Gardner & got a needle stick injury from a discarded druggies needle. I Risked myself taking blood so yes I probably would date someone HIV positive, especially now that I'm getting older, life is too short to sit around thinking about dying, & as others have pointed out. People live long healthy lives these days with HIV.
lollipopspot Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 A new co-worker of mine started with our company last Tuesday. She told me on day 3 that she is HIV positive (contracted from ex husband who cheated on her with everyone and their mother) and has had the hardest time over the past 6 years finding anyone to date her. She is heterosexual. I don't know where you work, but I'm curious why she would feel so comfortable telling someone at work who she doesn't know that she is HIV+. Some people are very open with their lives, and I wonder how it's working out for her to be so open.
gaius Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 I don't know where you work, but I'm curious why she would feel so comfortable telling someone at work who she doesn't know that she is HIV+. Some people are very open with their lives, and I wonder how it's working out for her to be so open. If lover told her he was gay that might have offered a comfort factor for her. Knowledge and experience with people who have it seems to be way more prevalent in the gay community.
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