kturner16 Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Hey guys! I was posting this maybe just to get some words of encouragement and even some thoughts on some questions I have. My boyfriend of about a year and a half and I broke up the beginning of March and ever since then I've been an emotional roller coaster. One day I find myself doing well, and some other days I find myself crying again because I miss him. Is this normal? I've been talking to about 2 other guys trying to move on but it's not easy whatsoever. I often find myself thinking about my ex when I'm hanging out with them. Is this normal also? I feel so bad because I know it's unfair to the new guys. My ex and I have unfollowed each other on social media but he often still tweets about me without actually saying my name or mentioning me, and the things he says are often really mean. Like calling me a b**** and things like that. I understand that me cheating on him was bad, and I did everything I could to make up for it, but he cheated on me also with his ex girlfriend, so why does he only blame me? Also, my ex is a music producer and he has old voicemails of me crying and has added them to songs and has been posting them to social media and it's very embarrassing, should I talk to him about this or even try speaking to him mother about it? (We've been NC for about a month or so and I'm afraid of breaking NC because he is so disrespectful towards me). I feel like speaking to him would boost his ego and that's the last thing he needs... At this point, I just want peace between him and I. I'm so tired of him saying mean things about me indirectly. He left me for his ex, so why is he still worried about me and saying such cruel things? I've been ignoring all of his indirect comments about me, is that a good thing or do I look weak by not responding? Will he eventually come back around and see that I'm not fighting back and want to make peace also? Btw, we are both 18. I'm sorry for all the questions. Thank you all so much! 1
SLee Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 What you're feeling is completely normal. I'm on my own roller coaster myself. Some days you'll be doing fine, others you'll crash and burn. It's not a linear process. It completely SUCKS, but it's normal. It's normal to think about exes post break up. I would really advise against dating if you're still thinking about the ex. If you're looking for a rebound, go for it, but make sure you're honest with the other party about your feelings and stuff, and don't be too offended if they reject it. There's nothing wrong with being alone for a while. Did you just unfollow each other or did you completely block each other? You need to completely block him, especially if he's saying mean things. How did you know he was tweeting that stuff? If someone told you or showed you, ask them not to do that. Otherwise, completely block him, if you haven't. I don't what to tell you about the voicemails he's sampling for music. That's just really, really cruel. The first thing is to block him all together and make sure you have no access to anything he posts. If he's so hostile, I wouldn't suggest contacting him. He sounds like a major douche who has no respect for you and wouldn't hear you out anyway. YES keep ignoring all his comments. He needs to disappear from your life. Any acknowledgment is only going to boost his ego more. He doesn't sound like he wants peace. He's just going to keep being a tool and try to make himself feel better. That's not your problem anymore. You're both 18, so you're both pretty young. I'm in my early 20s now and the amount of maturing I did in that period of time was HUGE. Not saying I'm perfect over here, but the world is a lot different at 18 than it is at 21 or 25 or 30, etc. Let yourself be alone if you have to and mature for your benefit. This guy has major growing up to do, like it's crazy how immature he sounds, but again, that's not your problem.
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