willduggan Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 hey everyone, its been quite a while since i was dumped by my fiance of a year and a half and ive got to say im nervous as hell to go on a date with this lady i met online. i really like her, its fun to talk to her, and shes really pretty. i guess what im looking for is any advice on things to do during the date, were actually going to be hanging out with her friends and going to a movie together and then probably bowling or something. ive never been great at the dating scene so any and all tips would be awsome! thanks a bunch.
Merin Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 Don't Change Who you are when you're with her... It's normal to be nervous for a first date... just breath and keep in mind she already likes you! Have a great time
reservoirdog1 Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 Best advice I can give you, especially for a first time meeting after doing the online thing: Do something that is conducive to a SHORT first date. That means meeting for coffee or for a drink, rather than dinner & movie -- save that for the second date. The reason is, if it goes badly, the expectation is that it's a short meeting anyway. The idea is to see if the online chemistry translates well into face-to-face. Often it does, but sometimes it doesn't. If it doesn't, you've got an out. If it goes pretty well, then you should still consider keeping it short -- it's often better to leave her hungry and wanting more. Just make a point of setting up the next meeting if she's clearly interested. And if it goes REALLY well, e.g. detectable sexual chemistry, then keep it going and have fun.
alphamale Posted April 23, 2005 Posted April 23, 2005 Originally posted by willduggan were actually going to be hanging out with her friends and going to a movie together and then probably bowling or something. yes here are some tips: 1) 1st date is to get to know one another, don't meet up with her friends, bad idea, it increase the possibility of something going wrong. 2) a movie for 1st date is bad. you can't talk during it and if the movie puts her in a bad or negative mood then u are screwed. 3) bowling is boring. take her for dinner and dancing instead.
Nocturnal Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Your plans for your date sounds great, they're all laid back things to do that will hopefully keep both of you less stressed out than a long dinner at some fancy restaurant would. Originally posted by alphamale 1) 1st date is to get to know one another, don't meet up with her friends, bad idea, it increase the possibility of something going wrong. Actually, chances are bigger that the mood will be more relaxed from her point of view. It might be a bit more nervous for him and chances are, depending on his personality, he might 'drown' a bit in the people as a whole, but I wouldn't say it increase the possibility of something going wrong.. Originally posted by alphamale 2) a movie for 1st date is bad. you can't talk during it and if the movie puts her in a bad or negative mood then u are screwed. The talking part I agree with (and I personally loath people talking during movies), and I agree with you that movies are mood altering to some degree, however, if they pick a decently 'average' movie mood wise, it could be a good filler for discussion later, which is something that can be tricky to come up with. Although seeing that they talk online, they hopefully will be able to strike up a conversation in person. But, still, it's a subject to talk about. Originally posted by alphamale 3) bowling is boring. take her for dinner and dancing instead. Bowling is fun and relaxing and when you're up there with your bowling ball, you get a small 'time out' from the date itself, which will make you calmer overall, a dinner and dancing is is a tad too personal and intimate and could possibly lead to a bit too stressful moments, if he's already nervous. Unless they hit it off great, the latter two things might not work out as great.
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