Perrier Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Personally I'd keep it for a future date, if the date doesn't expire. I wouldn't give it to someone I'd just met twice who I didn't think was interested in me. As others point out, there alternative causes you can consider. Case in point, I met a gal recently for hanging out & going to dating events (we're both straight women). I was excited cos we share same music taste and were going to attend gigs together. A month ago she met a guy whom she's dating. Now it's excuses galore when I ask to go to music venues, tho she shows interest initially. She's also interested in art, as am I, and I'll be attending an exhibition running all week. I could have got her a free ticket (since I get in as press) but after experiencing her 'flakiness' again yesterday, I'm so glad I didn't consider her. OP If I didn't like a guy, I'd feel creeped out (and indebted) if he flung a $500 voucher my way when nothing has happened between us.
Author ZA Dater Posted May 18, 2015 Author Posted May 18, 2015 The opinions and advice here are interesting. Glad I do ask here because I probably would have gone and done the wrong thing! Going to put said voucher in a file and forget about it. If it expires then so be it. To those who say keep it for a future date, I have been chatting for people on Tinder and none of them interest me, there nothing wrong with them per se but there is zero wow about them, where is with this one I was wowed. Guess I am just fussy, oh well. Should I add I got this voucher because I went to an event and each person and partner got gifts, no prizes for guessing who the only single person there was.
strawberryshortstack Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 why is it weird if he gives it to her? isn't it sweet and thoughtful? Not if he has an ulterior motive for giving it to her, which it seems he does.
La.Primavera Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 I'd sure like to hear them. You're mind is already made up. You are as stubborn as a Springbok in a ruck!
La.Primavera Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 But what if he gives it as a friend? How would the girl see this gift? Id love to know Girlss??? You aren't listening. The answer is NO.
La.Primavera Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 The opinions and advice here are interesting. Glad I do ask here because I probably would have gone and done the wrong thing! Going to put said voucher in a file and forget about it. If it expires then so be it. To those who say keep it for a future date, I have been chatting for people on Tinder and none of them interest me, there nothing wrong with them per se but there is zero wow about them, where is with this one I was wowed. Guess I am just fussy, oh well. Should I add I got this voucher because I went to an event and each person and partner got gifts, no prizes for guessing who the only single person there was. Good, you should be fussy and wait for the right woman. Doesn't matter how you got it.
beach_girl Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 You can give it to me. I'm also from Cape Town. Hahaha Why don't you give it to a female colleague?
Author ZA Dater Posted May 19, 2015 Author Posted May 19, 2015 You can give it to me. I'm also from Cape Town. Hahaha Why don't you give it to a female colleague? Not giving it to colleague. Work is work and play is play. Feeling super down today.
GorillaTheater Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 You can give it to me. I'm also from Cape Town. Hahaha Why don't you give it to a female colleague? Not giving it to colleague. Work is work and play is play. Feeling super down today. I'm seeing a solution here. Do they still have that great Angolan/Portuguese steak restaurant at the big mall there?
Author ZA Dater Posted May 20, 2015 Author Posted May 20, 2015 I'm seeing a solution here. Do they still have that great Angolan/Portuguese steak restaurant at the big mall there? There are no single female co workers....
GorillaTheater Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 There are no single female co workers.... Dang dude, I was referring to Beach Girl, who also lives in Cape Town. I was about half joking.
fitnessfan365 Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Don't give it to her. Really bad idea. But you could always sell it on Craigslist - no need to throw it away! Just make sure it is transferable... Good post and idea! But a woman either feels it or she doesn't. No amount of gifts will change her mind and it will just make you look desperate in the process. I mean think about it logically. A $500 value for a woman you only had two dates with who you know isn't feeling it? Like Carrie says, as long as it's transferable to someone else, I say sell it on CL and make some money off it. No need to throw it away on a woman you know has no interest. I mean let's say you went in for a job interview that you really wanted to land and you didn't get the job. Would you give the interviewer $500 for turning you down? Of course you wouldn't.
Author ZA Dater Posted May 21, 2015 Author Posted May 21, 2015 Good post and idea! But a woman either feels it or she doesn't. No amount of gifts will change her mind and it will just make you look desperate in the process. I mean think about it logically. A $500 value for a woman you only had two dates with who you know isn't feeling it? Like Carrie says, as long as it's transferable to someone else, I say sell it on CL and make some money off it. No need to throw it away on a woman you know has no interest. I mean let's say you went in for a job interview that you really wanted to land and you didn't get the job. Would you give the interviewer $500 for turning you down? Of course you wouldn't. All valid points. Because of the way its made out I cant really give to anyone as the voucher is corporate and made out to those of us who attended the event at the hotel. When it comes to money, trust me I would trade money for a few great dates! I end up looking desperate anyway because in truth that's exactly what I am, 31 no relationships, no experience, yes I am pretty desperate! Just threw the voucher in a draw and hoping to just forget about it.
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