ZA Dater Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 There is someone I like (FYI I seldom ever like people), met up with her twice, she unfortunately didn't really like me or so it seems. I got given a Spa voucher, $500 for a very upmarket establishment. None of my family are into Spa's and I don't have any other female friends. Thinking of giving her the voucher as I know its something she may enjoy. Is this a bad idea, sounds stupid but I don't want to look like I am trying to buy a date, even though I would really like to spend some time with her. Should I or shouldn't I?
carhill Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 500 bucks? Ha, go yourself. I used to think that spa stuff was hokey until my exW, who worked in the industry, shared how many men use it, either solo or with their spouses, and actually tried it a few times with her. Not bad! In any event, IMO, don't reward people whom are lackluster in appreciating or returning your 'like'. Try something else. 3
Author ZA Dater Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 500 bucks? Ha, go yourself. I used to think that spa stuff was hokey until my exW, who worked in the industry, shared how many men use it, either solo or with their spouses, and actually tried it a few times with her. Not bad! In any event, IMO, don't reward people whom are lackluster in appreciating or returning your 'like'. Try something else. Not too keen to use it myself to be honest. I just always had a vibe with her, for some reason there is just this personality attraction.
preraph Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Terrible idea. Give it to someone who likes you, like your mom. She will only think it's weird. 1
Author ZA Dater Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 Terrible idea. Give it to someone who likes you, like your mom. She will only think it's weird. My mother isn't interested in Spa's at all. Will just throw it away lol, problem solved. PS: nobody likes me lol!
CarrieT Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Don't give it to her. Really bad idea. But you could always sell it on Craigslist - no need to throw it away! Just make sure it is transferable... 4
La.Primavera Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Perhaps you could contact the hospital and ask if they could give it to a patient or something? That would be a wonderful thing to do for someone who is going through a hard time. It is not appropriate to give it to that girl but you could still make someone's day which will feel nice. 1
Author ZA Dater Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 Perhaps you could contact the hospital and ask if they could give it to a patient or something? That would be a wonderful thing to do for someone who is going through a hard time. It is not appropriate to give it to that girl but you could still make someone's day which will feel nice. I don't want to sound bitter here but one of my mottos in life is to always try do good each day, even its opening a door for an older lady, assisting people, I have given money to people who needed it more than I did. Tried to help people I don't know. Then I realised something, I can give what I want because I want to help but ultimately the world is a cold place, when I ask for help everyone runs for the hills so I ask myself now each day if its really worth helping anyone. Will just give it away to some random person, part of me just hoped I could give to someone who I could connect with.
Author ZA Dater Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 It is not appropriate to give it to that girl. Any particular reason why if its just a "I got this am not going to use it, you can have it" kind of gift.
Versacehottie Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I'm assuming if it's like most spa certificates, it won't expire right away. Save it for a girl in the future or someone who crosses your path who may appreciate it, but do not give it to this girl. It would be weird and yes look like you are trying to buy her affections and interest which will actually do the opposite of what you want to happen. 1
preraph Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I hesitate to point this out, but you might meet a woman if you went to the spa yourself. You say you don't like it, but there are many options at spas. If you don't like massage, there is face facials and back facials. There is body exfoliation to get all the dead skin off and make you feel great. There is getting your hair done or a manicure or pedicure. You could get a Brazilian. 1
j_mysterio Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Dude... Use it for a date with a girl. May be a little weird... But when's the last time someone did that? Never. Lol do it.
Author ZA Dater Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 Dude... Use it for a date with a girl. May be a little weird... But when's the last time someone did that? Never. Lol do it. Clever idea except I tend to never really meet anyone of interest its extremely rare I meet anyone that wows me. I'd love to do what you suggest but besides this seemingly hopeless case there is nobody I am interested in.
carhill Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I hesitate to point this out, but you might meet a woman if you went to the spa yourself. You say you don't like it, but there are many options at spas. If you don't like massage, there is face facials and back facials.That's a good point; I ran into all kinds of women at my exW's shop and, yep, some were single. Additional good point about services. Usually the spa has a menu to choose from and some are geared more to men. I recall trading some work I did on the facialist's table for a few sessions and must say I found them very relaxing and they definitely improved my skin. Some guys might call this kind of personal grooming attention to be feminine or gay but hey, it's free in this case and worst case is the OP won't like it and won't do it again. Heh, live a little
j_mysterio Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 There's been a lot of girls that haven't wowd me... Until you have 1on1 interaction. People can surprise you once they let their guard down. Others can suck. Lol
fred123 Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 why is it weird if he gives it to her? isn't it sweet and thoughtful?
jen1447 Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 I don't see any problem with giving it to her personally, but I wouldn't try to 'buy' anything with it. It may be a bit over the top at $500, but the truth is the truth and you don't have anyone else to give it to. I'd just say "hey, I've got this $500 spa cert and I don't really want it and no one else to give it to - you want it?"
La.Primavera Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Then I realised something, I can give what I want because I want to help but ultimately the world is a cold place, when I ask for help everyone runs for the hills so I ask myself now each day if its really worth helping anyone. I think it is. We don't always get a pay off for doing a good deed but our actions may have a profoundly positive effect on someone else who might carry on the cycle of kindness. The world will always be a cold place if we don't bring warmth to it. 1
La.Primavera Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Any particular reason why if its just a "I got this am not going to use it, you can have it" kind of gift. Because of what you said: part of me just hoped I could give to someone who I could connect with. This indicates you have an ulterior motive. You want something out of it. It is worth $500! It comes across as desperate and overstepping boundaries. Its not a good way to build a connection with someone. There are better ways.
La.Primavera Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 You could get a Brazilian. I couldn't keep a straight face after reading that! 1
La.Primavera Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 why is it weird if he gives it to her? 1)It is worth $500. 2)They only met twice. 3)He doesn't think she is interested in him. isn't it sweet and thoughtful? No.
Author ZA Dater Posted May 18, 2015 Author Posted May 18, 2015 There are better ways. I'd sure like to hear them.
fred123 Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 1)It is worth $500. 2)They only met twice. 3)He doesn't think she is interested in him. No. But what if he gives it as a friend? How would the girl see this gift? Id love to know Girlss???
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