Author XNemesisX Posted April 25, 2005 Author Posted April 25, 2005 This guy sounds just like me. Most of my friends are in their 20s. Well, the ones I have left after the Ex. Yeah it seems like I don't have that many left after the ex. Funny how when I was in a relationship all of my friends would get mad and/or tell me how much I should be single with them and then after my relationship ended they pretty much fall off the face of the earth because of their relationships! But anyway, no you don't look 36 ConfusedinOC! I told my mother about this guy and she said that kids and marriage age you so someone who has had neither will probably look much younger!
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by XNemesisX Yeah it seems like I don't have that many left after the ex. Funny how when I was in a relationship all of my friends would get mad and/or tell me how much I should be single with them and then after my relationship ended they pretty much fall off the face of the earth because of their relationships! But anyway, no you don't look 36 ConfusedinOC! I told my mother about this guy and she said that kids and marriage age you so someone who has had neither will probably look much younger! Haha. That explains it! No real stress in life. It might have something to do with my genes. My mom and grandmom both look very young for their age. I never met my dad so I can't say on that side of the family.
tokyo Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Originally posted by XNemesisX So is the major consensus here that I should just forget this idea? YES!
erika2610 Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 I say, what the heck.. go for it. 14 years isn't too bad. My parents have 13 yrs. between em and it doesn't bother them. And even if he does reject you, you graduate soon, and you probably won't see em again anyway It could turn out really well though. I say go for it
simon_uk Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 I am also 36, no kids, never been married and not Gay! and I would also say 'go for it' too, what have you got to lose? nothing! and everything to gain if you like him and he likes you!
erika2610 Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Exactly.. and you don't wanna keep wondering 'what if?'..
Author XNemesisX Posted April 26, 2005 Author Posted April 26, 2005 Ok so I have some differing opinions here. Erika~ And even if he does reject you, you graduate soon, and you probably won't see em again anyway Good point! So if I end up looking stupid then I can just think to myself "oh well, it's not like I will have to ever see him again!" I like that idea... Ok guys now I'm getting really nervous just thinking about how I should approach this. I think my presentation will be next week (and he will be attending) so I now need to think about how exactly to go about this. I like a lot of the ideas on here about email and such but I'm a little worried/nervous to ask him out to coffee or something like that. Maybe I should bring my puppy with me to the presentation so I have something to break the ice a little easier!
sami Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 When you finally graduate just go and tell him. You got nothing to loose anyway.
moimeme Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Yeah, you have plenty to lose. He could easily do what a lot of profs do - get some free poon for a while and then dump you for the next crop of hot young things. It's one of the perqs of that particular career. Think of it this way - if he was really into you, he'd make a move. It's not like he's some shy young boy who has no contact with women and so is too afraid to ask you out. He's awash in women all the time. What you have to lose is your heart.
erika2610 Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Yeah, you have plenty to lose. He could easily do what a lot of profs do - get some free poon for a while and then dump you for the next crop of hot young things. It's one of the perqs of that particular career. Think of it this way - if he was really into you, he'd make a move. It's not like he's some shy young boy who has no contact with women and so is too afraid to ask you out. He's awash in women all the time. What you have to lose is your heart. But what does she have to gain? A potentially good guy.. Is there a rule that all professors are just skirt chasers? And so what if he hasn't 'made a move'. That doesn't mean anything.. She has a crush on em.. I say go for it. You only go around once.. gotta take a chance.
tokyo Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 erika2610, I think you need to know the details of XNemesisX personal situation first before you encourage her to jump into another relationship. If she was a happy confident girl now, having a crush on her professor, then I'd say: Go for it. But she's not and I don't see any reason to encourage her to pursue another relationship that has only a slim chance of working out. The risk of getting her heart broken and putting her into a deeper emotional mess weighs out the risk of missing an opportunity. She has told him already about her breakup and how many problems it caused her. Any guy with enough common sense will be careful about rushing into things with her right now. She also may move now to another state. And he's her professor, so there's another reason not to date her. You can bet if he starts a relationship with her, it's not really with the intention of this leading to something more serious than a fling. He may feel flattered, he may feel attracted to her, but it doesn't mean at all that he wants a serious relationship with her. Ok, I think I'm just repeating her what I have already said in my previous posts, so to make it short. Do not date him! I can only agree with Moimeme.
erika2610 Posted April 26, 2005 Posted April 26, 2005 Originally posted by kooky erika2610, I think you need to know the details of XNemesisX personal situation first before you encourage her to jump into another relationship. If she was a happy confident girl now, having a crush on her professor, then I'd say: Go for it. But she's not and I don't see any reason to encourage her to pursue another relationship that has only a slim chance of working out. The risk of getting her heart broken and putting her into a deeper emotional mess weighs out the risk of missing an opportunity. She has told him already about her breakup and how many problems it caused her. Any guy with enough common sense will be careful about rushing into things with her right now. She also may move now to another state. And he's her professor, so there's another reason not to date her. You can bet if he starts a relationship with her, it's not really with the intention of this leading to something more serious than a fling. He may feel flattered, he may feel attracted to her, but it doesn't mean at all that he wants a serious relationship with her. Ok, I think I'm just repeating her what I have already said in my previous posts, so to make it short. Do not date him! I can only agree with Moimeme. We all put our hearts out there at one point or another..with the risk of getting hurt. I just told her going for it would be better than wondering 'what if?'. And he's only her professor til she graduates.. and she graduates pretty soon..
mental_traveller Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Just go to his office, flutter your eyelashes, sit on his lap and then start ripping his clothes off. Seriously, just arrange to meet with him privately, then make your move. If he likes you, he'll return the favour. If he doesn't, he'll be very flattered and politely decline. There's really no need for dozens of agonized posts about it!
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