zeeetaar Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 My best friend has this really nice guy whom she is also best friends with. I met him a couple of months back and we hit it off really well. Hes exactly like me, down to what we believe relationships are to how friends should behave. We even have birthdays 10 days apart and have the same study intentions for next year, its really freaky. My best friend says thats why she and him are best friend too. He has sort of a flirty attitude where he does things without realising it can come across as flirty. Like he would message tonne of girls with loads of winky faces and I've asked him about it and he refuses to believe that it can come across as flirty but more of a friendly sort of thing. He also likes to tickle me A LOT, and has accidentally touched my butt, boobs and nearly pulled my shirt down all the way without apologising. Hes also said stuff about how my butt has touched him and joked around saying he liked it. He has also mumbled something like "imagine if we slept together" or "imagine if we went out". He just lost his virginity a few months ago so he talks to me about sex and stuff because my best friend is very shy about those issues. So I cant tell if hes trying to flirt or not but, its working. I also have the feeling it worked of my best friend too, even if she refuses to admit it. They traveled to japan together for a month and from what she tells me, they were tight. Throughout the trip tho, he was in to another girl and my best friend was shipping them to be together but, unfortunately it didn't work out. Whenever she was on the phone with me when she was in china all shed talk about was what they did together, it kinda sounded like he liked him but i cant tell and she cant tell me now. Im terrified of ruining anything. Shes has asked me sometimes about weather i liked him and, i said yes, i am attracted to him but i dont think i should do anything because we are best friends. She said okay, because it would be weird if you two dated being my best friends and all, i would have to choose sides if you guys break up. This was a month of two ago and now its just neeergh, i just want to kiss his face so much. I'm just so attracted to him. Now he is my best friend's friend and i don't ever want to ruin my relationship with best friend. So I haven't done anything at all until, i got outside opinion on this matter and set my head straight. I do like him and i am really attracted to him. I'm sorta scared about my best friend because i love her to death but whenever I'm with him, he makes me happy. Is if okay to sleep with him or date him? or is that too far? Its so confusing T-T If you have similar stories tell me, perhaps it will make my mind clearer.
CC12 Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 I'm sorta scared about my best friend because i love her to death but whenever I'm with him, he makes me happy. Is if okay to sleep with him or date him? or is that too far? Since she's already pretty much asked you not to date him, and you sort of said you wouldn't, you need to talk to her about it again. Tell her that he makes you happy and that you'd like to date him. Ask for her blessing. Promise her that you'll try your best to not put her in the middle of any of your issues with him. Hopefully she'll want you to be happy and tell you to go for it. If she doesn't, you'll have to decide whether you're willing to give up her friendship to date him. Personally, I would seriously consider ending a friendship with a person who is too selfish to get out of the way of two people who could potentially have a happy, fulfilling relationship. He also likes to tickle me A LOT, and has accidentally touched my butt, boobs and nearly pulled my shirt down all the way without apologising. Those were not accidents. He was copping a cheap feel. Don't let boys get away with inappropriately touching you, even if they're trying to be playful about it.
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