Anom Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 (edited) In short, I was dumped (by text) after a 1.5 year relationship with the reasons being things feeling different and her not being as happy with her life anymore. However, judging from her actions following the break up - and her past - I get the impression that she doesn't want to be tied down with a boyfriend and miss out on all the attention etc her and her single friends get when they go out together, another thing to mention is that personally I'm not one for going out clubbing or anything but she definitely is and it took over a year for this to become an issue which seems strange. After the break up she wouldn't meet up in person so all communication was over text. For the first few weeks I was at my lowest point, desperate for reconciliation and opened the door for this to happen instantly but obviously this was a mistake. Now around 10 weeks on from the break up and I'm not sure what I want at all, some days I feel desperate for her back but in equal measure there are days where I don't want anything to do with her at all. I know for a fact that she has been out clubbing most weeks getting with other people and this no longer makes me depressed, I feel more anger than sadness - somewhat at myself for being quite a quiet individual. I want to give confidence to recent dumpees, it does get better. I have to see my ex most days because of school and whilst it's hard to hear her talk about her seemingly amazing single life I don't get upset over it. Sorry for the length of the post, the main issue I have though is if she did come back as unlikely as that seems I wouldn't know what to do. I mean the relationship was great but the aftermath of it has made me see her in a different light and because of that I'm torn between wanting her back and wanting to move completely on. Any advice would be greatly appreciated Edited May 17, 2015 by Anom
d0nnivain Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 You seem to have good insights & the ability to be self aware Those are very helpful qualities which will serve you well in life. You want the happy stuff back, not necessarily her. There's no reason to take back somebody so callous as to break up over text & then refuse to talk in person like a mature adult. You will find somebody who wants to be in a relationship.
Author Anom Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 Thank you for replying, yeah I think it is just the happy stuff I miss. I'm quite an independent person and spend most of my time on my own so I would agree it's the concept of being with someone rather than the specific individual I'm missing. 1
Author Anom Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 I'd like to add for those going through a similar thing, whilst I'm not necessarily happy 10 weeks on, things are definitely looking up so whatever you're going through just keep moving forward and things will definitely start to improve, you'll see your own worth and not need to be convinced by the opinions of someone who couldn't
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