GTR King Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 (edited) i am feeling a bit sad/upset so need advice here (Same girl as last time) seeing her for month & a half (not official quite yet but nearly there) ok so she said she was busy this weekend (I understood that) & said she would let me know if she was free. yesterday she sorry for late reply been supper busy today then we texted quite a bit (In the evening) & she said she was in town with her friends & I was with mine. told her to have fun with her friends etc... When I 1st saw her (1st bar) she blanked me completely didn't even wanna say hi at all the time she was in there & did look at me i just left her to it. 2nd bar/club I let her be with her friends & give her space. when she went to the smoking area on her own (Been in club for 30 mins) I went to see her (Was gonna say hi give her hug/kiss then say have fun with your friends you know where I am & leave her alone for the rest of the night) I said you having a good time with your friends she said yeah thx & where ur friend gone she went home then I said shall I leave you alone yeah (She didn't even look at me in the face & was texting on her phone & tinder message came up) after that I left her alone to be with her fiends and about 1hur 45 mins later on dance floor I said do you wanna dance she said no i am with my friends & theses guys (don't think she kissed them but was dancing with them) after that let her alone. When I was at the bar she walked passed and I offered to buy her a drink she said no thanks got headache going home 2.30am (Didn't even look at me) and walked passed so I went & said i wanna talk to you she said I don't wanna talk going home will speak to you when i am sober. her friend said let her go home she will speak when she wakes up. then i texted her how I felt and gonna wait till she texts me. normally she will come to me and wanna kiss/hug me (When we are in town) Dunno why she blanked me did i do anything wrong? Edited May 17, 2015 by GTR King
ExpatInItaly Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 OP, how did you know which bars she'd be at? She may have been put off that you were at two of the places where she went after she told you she was busy. It sounds to me like she had plans to meet another guy and was uncomfortable when she saw you. Having said that, if you live in a small town and everyone goes to the same places, that's one thing. If she thought you were following her, that would explain her annoyance. One thing you did wrong: you continued to try to get her attention after she blanked you the first time. You said a couple times that you left her alone, but you didn't. You still asked her to dance, tried to buy her a drink and then texted her. What did you say in your message? It appears that she's not as interested as you. Take a big step back here.
Author GTR King Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 (edited) on the texts before we went out she asked where i was going & i said i might see you in town and she was happy about that. Ok well the 1st bar (We went there 1st) she came in after us. 2nd bar we saw her in there. I live in a small town (there is 2 main clubs one was shut i think) and usually we end up in the same place so can't help that. when i talked to her the 1st time (Smoking area) i knew something was up with the way she didn't look at me so left her alone. 2nd time i saw her was on dance floor & started dancing near her/asked if she wanted to dance she said i don't wanna dance as with my friends & these guys (Normally she would of said yes) 3rd time offered to buy her a drink she said no thx going home as got headache I then asked her if she wanted to talk as knew something was up she said will talk to u when I am sober.. normally she would of accepted my drinks and wanted to dance with me etc & be happy that i am in town (she said the weekend before why don't me & my mate join them in town) & she usually comes over to see me & hugs me.. all i wanted to do was see her once then leave her alone but when I knew something was up so I wanted to find out. I texted her how I felt & asked why she blanked me & that i really liked her & enjoyed all the time we spend together etc. she never done this before so I am now gonna not text her & let her come to me Edited May 17, 2015 by GTR King
Author GTR King Posted May 18, 2015 Author Posted May 18, 2015 (edited) Update she text me about 1.30pm & 9.20pm yesterday 1.30pm I'm sorry bout last, I feel awful bout it!!! Didn't want to talk when we had both been drinking it just wasn't the right time!!! It's totally me and I understand if u don't wanna speak to me anymore!!! But if u do maybe when I've got some time off we could do something and have a chat xxxx I texted her how i feel about us & what I wanted etc after she text me 1st 9.20pm Sorry for late reply, I've had no phone as battery died and no charger till now! I'm a bit confused about my feeling atm but I don't think I can c or am ready for a proper relationship! I genially like u but more as a friendship I think. I really like spending time with u to and maybe if u want to we could meet up sometime soon and do something as friends xxx so I am gonna move on. I was ready to be official with here but don't think she was ready & when she found out i was it freaked her out so that why she acted like that Saturday night as didn't want talk to me as didn't know what to say to me. think she only wanted to date (Not anything serious) i didn't want that so glad she told me now not 3-4 months down the line Don't think I want to see her again Edited May 18, 2015 by GTR King
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