maggiecheungs Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 So I must warn that there is a reference to sex in here... kind of long lol Last fall I started school somewhere and was messaged by a fellow student about my facebook cover photo because he recognised the actors in it. We talked for a little. Several weeks went by and I messaged him to tutor me. This was in october or november... (i felt like he kind of thought I was cute when he met me..) Then the saturday night before easter he messages me again on facebook and sends me a friend request.. (kind of could tell it was because he liked me or something) we proceed to talk for a couple of hours on fb. We talk about music, movies...then he offers to drive with him down to san jose to eat dim sum with his sister. (back story here I was at this time seeing this emotionally immature 25 yr old who bailed again from our meet up this night). He then offers to watch a movie at his apartment for a couple of hours or so (hang out only). We watch Fresh off the boat, and I'm upset at the 25 yr-old who bailed on me cos he couldn't handle a relationship..I'm kind of stuck in this guys room because his scary white frat roommates were all in the living room, so I proceed to just spend the night in his room. (I had no intention of sex) I lay next to him and he tells me "I think you're really cute", and i say "I know" (HAHA..) and he kisses me. We have sex...but the whole night he kissed me...like off and on until 4 am..he kissed me so much my lips hurt for a week after!!! We proceed to talk to each other a fair amount..ok a lot...like a daily basis. I'm a difficult girl and I began to develop feelings for him when he starts to go a little distant on me the next week when hes away at coachella. I tell him I like him and he says he can tell that I do. He tells me he likes me too. He picks me up in his car to avoid his scary roommates to a church parking lot, where he kisses me and my forehead and holds me in his arms dawe and invites me to attend a concert the next day because its both our favourite band. (he bought an extra ticket for me). day of concert several hours before the concert I look at my phone in class and see he has sent me a text message saying "can I take someone else to the concert? My heart drops to my stomach and I start kind of freaking out in class. seriously WTF? He apologises for second guessing and being an *******, and tells me he has a lot of goals in his life right now and he cant have a distraction. (he wants to be someone who sets insurance prices..you take a lot of exams). Hes taking another girl. He wont drive me there but will drive me back. I go to the concert and he drives me back, we talk a little and he says that his insecurity are relationships. hes 21 and has only had one gf when he was 17/18. everything after has lasted at most a week. I start crying in the car because I was kind of hoping things would go well with him when he tells me things wouldnt last anyway why bother. I cry myself to sleep and he offers to call me the next day to talk about all of this. He cancels the call cos he is busy, says hell call the next day. Next day cancels and starts asking "is talking really worth anything?" I tell him I dont like him anymore and he says that solves all the problems. I start getting mean to him...I say very mean things and he won't go away. Most jerks go away when I say mean things to them... We try and meet up and each time he does he bails from it. We threaten eahc other with blocking one another, with we should stop talking etc and we both cant stop talking to one another. It takes a week or two for him to be able to see me in person, and when we do we have sex. He expresses concern when he thinks he made me upset, "are you upset? please dont be upset" as he cuddles me in his arms. We proceed to fight a lot and still talk all the time...no matter what is said we cant ignore each other. He tells me hes never been as honest with anyone before as he has with me...he tells me my learning disabilities turn him off, thats why he cant date me. We have sex again and this time, hes very distant and trying not to fall for me again as it seemed. He wouldnt kiss me. I will also add that after the concert, he started to insult me a lot, and I would call him out on it. He would tell me"I should be nicer to you", just a bunch of cat and mouse stuff. He would be mean, then nice then mean then nice then mean then nice He tells me he cant kiss me during sex because he doesnt want to develop feelings for me, and hes mean to me because he doesnt want me to be his gf and if he was nice that would mean he would want me as his gf. If I dont like it I shouldnt have sex with him anymore. ... days later then jhe says we shouldnt have xex anymore. days later then he says, we shouldnt talk anymore and blocks me on facebook, phone, instagram, snapchat. I get really upset and am hurt and I send him a lot of anonymous messages and he unblocks me when I ask him to say goodbye to me before he graduates this spring. He unblocks me to ask me "why do you want me to say bye to you?" I ask him to block me again because I didnt want temptation to message him. We later make this dramatic exchange of goodbye when he gives me the money he owed me and the gift I gave him that I wanted back. He offered me a hug because he only had 7/10 dollars and the gift, and I go up to him in tears (hes made me cry a lot) and when he steps forward to give me a hug he says hes sorry and I look down and say "its ok" as I proceed to walk away with my head down. A week passes, and I start sending him anonomous messages via text internet sites, then I send him several yesterday and he messages me on a different phone number telling me to leave him alone. He tells me how immature I am and asks me what he can do to make things better. I ask him to apologise for his ****tyness and he does so, but wont take accountability for his actions..and i refuse to accept his apology. I call him some names, and he says dont call me names...."may be someday if you accept my apology we can talk about mivies or music or something" so I accept his apology for that... *He told me he doesnt understand why he cant ignore my messages...he tries to but he cant *I feel like I'll always have feelings for him *we both are people who stay in our rooms a lot *He told me he likes me because I remind him of somethings of himself I dont expect us to be together, I'm just confused by his behaviour. Ive dated so many jerks, but none of them until him respond to my messages no matter how many times I message them... He went on my tumblr and looked through my pages He said hes only "bipolar with me", nobody else TBH I think hes scarred from his last relationship and is scared to date again. He likes something in me, and has low self esteem and is lonely so thats why he keeps me around...
CarrieT Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 1. You are both drama queens. 2. You shouldn't have had sex right off the bat - that is why he felt he could dump you at the last minute and take another girl to the concert. 3. You are both drama queens = stop seeing each other. 4. He is too young and isn't ready for anything serious. 5. You are both drama queens to the extent that you shouldn't even try to have a seriously relationship with anyone until you are out of this mess with each other. 2
Author maggiecheungs Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 He made me feel really young...i'm 25 hes 21.
Fleur de cactus Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Feel young! You are only 25! You are both immature. Stop seeing him.
La.Primavera Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 You think he isn't a jerk because he doesn't leave when you get angry at him but the reality is he sticks around because he knows you will still have sex with him. Sending him anonymous messages online makes you look like a stalker. That type of behavior should be beneath you. One day you will realize how bad this situation is and move on. You will be happier when you do. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 You think he isn't a jerk because he doesn't leave when you get angry at him but the reality is he sticks around because he knows you will still have sex with him. Sending him anonymous messages online makes you look like a stalker. That type of behavior should be beneath you. One day you will realize how bad this situation is and move on. You will be happier when you do. This. What went through your mind that gave you the impression that was a good idea? Yikes. Let him go. There's too much silly drama and it's unhealthy for you. He obviously doesn't want anything more from this.
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