Gloria25 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 I don't know, I've never really "thought" of my age I guess when it comes to dating or anything...I mean, I get up every day...wash, rinse, and repeat. Today I was just thinking about how I'm moving into a different "bracket" if you will... I mean seeing Betty being called 'Mrs. Robinson' and some recent interactions I've had with younger guys sorta made me wonder if that's how I'm seen to some guys. So, I guess I'm coming to terms with my age and how its perceived by guys in the dating world - regardless of age... Do you ever see yourself as being perceived as "this or that" according to your age and dating/marital status? 1
compulsivedancer Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 No, but it's interesting how wide the net is now age-wise. I had a guy in his mid-20s that seemed interested, up to a guy in his 40s who asked me out (I'm 30). The last time I dated, I was 19-ish. I think the oldest guy interested was mid-20s. 2
jen1447 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 I get a bit of 'career lesbian' and 'career player,' but those are actually accurate so I don't mind. Other than that, I have noticed being referred to as a cougar a couple times now, which is a little unexpected but it's all relative. To 19 year old man-boys, I probably am a cougar grandma. 2
Author Gloria25 Posted May 16, 2015 Author Posted May 16, 2015 I get a bit of 'career lesbian' and 'career player,' but those are actually accurate so I don't mind. Other than that, I have noticed being referred to as a cougar a couple times now, which is a little unexpected but it's all relative. To 19 year old man-boys, I probably am a cougar grandma. Oh yeah.... I think some people think I'm a lesbian and/or a "spinster"...or something 2
Satu Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 I look at it this way: If I feel well, I am well. If I feel young, I am young. I feel well. I feel young. QED. My feelings are the last word on anything to do with myself. "Give me another slice of life, and a side order of risk." 1
hotpotato Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I have been thinking of this. In two years I turn 30, better known as expiring on ls. So far I havent seen a big difference in the guys attracted to me. Sometimes a little younger, usually much older. Its just a day in the life. So far I can still hang with whippersnappers. As far as being this or that...Im still fairly interchangeable with a early 20s, except I havent blown up and dont have 3 kids and an ex husband. That beung said, im sure many 19, 20 year old dudes think im an old biddy, and thats ok. 1
hotpotato Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Oh yeah.... I think some people think I'm a lesbian and/or a "spinster"...or something People have been asking if im lesbo for like 12 years lol 1
BC1980 Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I have been thinking about the age thing for the first time. I started dating my last ex when I had just turned 29, so I was ready to settle down, get married. I was still in my 20s technically. I figured he was it for me, and it seemed like everything was coming together at the right time. I'm now 34 and single. Over the past year, I've been more and more aware of the fact that I'm single and in my 30s, with no children. I'm the odd man out with most of my friends. I guess I just always thought I would be married or at least settled in a relationship at this point. Overall, I don't get bothered because I feel great, and I'm becoming more open to falling in love again. But yeah, I'm aware of my age in a way that I haven't been before. 1
Author Gloria25 Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 People have been asking if im lesbo for like 12 years lol Well, duh, if you're not married and/or preggo by graduation from high school or college, then "something's" wrong, right? People just act funny if you don't follow the "herd" I guess... 4
blackcat777 Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Realizing I'm at the end of my twenties was a huge kick in the butt to get serious about life. I went back to school and I started a killer fitness routine I've stuck to for the better part of a year... I'm the fittest I've ever been in my life. I'm okay with a few wrinkles (don't have them yet) as long as I'm indestructible on the inside. I never want to lose being able within my body. I watch the videos of women turning 50 who join pole fitness classes. All of them are finer, fitter than me, and could kick my ass. Finding something to engage my fitness/happiness that actively offsets decay melts my worries. It makes me more determined to rock. I also eat really well. No processed foods. EVAR. tl;dr I've become proactive about self-care to the point where it's empowering. I'm doing my best and made my peace. I also made the decision long ago to not bear children until the 11th hour (38-39), so I have to stay healthy. When I go out with my younger boyfriend, we're always carded. I'm also in school for skin care therapy, but part of my education includes a super-fun chapter on photography makeup... This will come in handy when I'm 60. I feel like I'm on this weird precipice of enjoying the scraps of my youth, and realizing it's about to leave, so I need to look and plan ahead... I would rather die than let myself go. I'll die fighting. One thing I DO appreciate about my age is that I'm realizing my decision-making skills are SO much better than ever. I'm feeling the first smatterings of wisdom. I can see things around me and have so much insight without being told. It's awesome. And when I finally turn 100, I'm going to disappear into an Ewok-style treehouse and become a crazy medicine lady. 1
preraph Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I had some young men attracted to me right up until I was 50, at least during the times I had my weight under control. In fact, I always had mostly younger men attracted to me at all ages. But once I got past 35, even though they were attracted, they were not about to stick around for anything serious. They want someone young and fertile if they're going to marry, most of them. If sex is all you want, as long as you keep yourself attractive, you can get that up until you hit the wall (I definitely hit the wall) but that's really the extent of it. It becomes not worth it. You might find someone in your 40s. I mean, my beautiful aunt found someone when she was right at seventy. I think he'd always been after her though and had to wait in line until her sixty year marriage ended due to her being widowed. If you are vivacious and fun loving and bubbly and not crabby, it goes a long way to attract men as you get older. Unfortunately, I am none of those things.... 2
still_an_Angel Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 gee, now that I think about it, I do attract a lot of mature men (still under the retirement age thank god) specially in the 50-60 bracket. Then I get attention from the young ones, late 20s to mid 30s. Not sure what happened to the 35 - 49 age group, I hardly attract the ones in my age bracket.
misspond Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 gee, now that I think about it, I do attract a lot of mature men (still under the retirement age thank god) specially in the 50-60 bracket. Then I get attention from the young ones, late 20s to mid 30s. Not sure what happened to the 35 - 49 age group, I hardly attract the ones in my age bracket. This is something I'm thinking about too. I'm 48 and get attention from much younger men, and then from those a lot older (although to be fair that's in the scary world of OLD on both counts). But none really around my age either IRL or OLD. It's such a minefield.
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Try to look at Christie Brinkley for inspiration
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