VictoriaB Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 Hi Everyone! Im new here and I was hoping to get some advice please. Ok so I have been texting with this guy for 4 months now, he found me through facebook and at first I didnt really care for him. He kept on texting me and I talked with him because he was pretty cool. I live in New York and he lives in Vegas. He called me once but I didnt pick up and left a message, that was when I left for a trip abroad. So we kept in touch. Now Im back hes asking me to fly to him he would love to take me out. hes very sweet and asked me when is ok to call me. I told him what day is ok and he was excited BUT the day came and nothing..nada. No call. Its 5 days after he was suppose to call and hes not texting. WTF happened?? Is he not serious after all? Of course I didnt reach out to him. Im waiting for him. Please help Im kinda disappointed Im not going to lie. Just when I show interest hes backing off?? thank you!
preraph Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 Catfish. He'll have some wild excuse if you do hear from him again. Car wreck, someone in the hospital. He's not who he's representing himself to be. For God's sake don't spend your own money on this. 3
Author VictoriaB Posted May 16, 2015 Author Posted May 16, 2015 I know for sure hes not a catfish, I know its him because he has a million photos on facebook of him and nothing is private. I see other friend communicating with him so I know its not that.
newmoon Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 you have never met, so this guy can tell you anything he wants. and pictures can be faked, altered, etc. there is no legitimacy in looking at a photo as proof of his life and what he's doing. your proof is in the fact that he isn't making any attempt to meet you, he wants you to fund the trip (if it even happens), and now he's avoiding you. how is this worth pursuing? do you really think this guy likes you and is being honest? 1
fred123 Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Hi Everyone! Im new here and I was hoping to get some advice please. Ok so I have been texting with this guy for 4 months now, he found me through facebook and at first I didnt really care for him. He kept on texting me and I talked with him because he was pretty cool. I live in New York and he lives in Vegas. He called me once but I didnt pick up and left a message, that was when I left for a trip abroad. So we kept in touch. Now Im back hes asking me to fly to him he would love to take me out. hes very sweet and asked me when is ok to call me. I told him what day is ok and he was excited BUT the day came and nothing..nada. No call. Its 5 days after he was suppose to call and hes not texting. WTF happened?? Is he not serious after all? Of course I didnt reach out to him. Im waiting for him. Please help Im kinda disappointed Im not going to lie. Just when I show interest hes backing off?? thank you! im in the same situation. you can PM me if you want
La.Primavera Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Four months and you have never even spoken on the phone. That should make you think twice about travelling to meet him. Like the others have suggested, photos can be fake. You can use take anyone's photos off Facebook if they have limited privacy settings. You could theoretically keep updating the new photos when the real person uploads them. He could also be creating "friend" accounts as well. Anything is possible. The fact is you don't know him well enough to trust him blindly. Why can't he Skype so you can see his face? Why did he tell you to fly to him instead of the other way round? Is he involved with someone? These are just a few things to consider before you get too invested in him. Now he is ignoring you which is really disrespectful, not to mention dodgy. Don't wait around for him. You deserve better. 1
lovexocoach Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 He's backed off. Move on to someone who has the time to treat you properly. Distance was a problem with this guy anyway.
CarrieT Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 im in the same situation. you can PM me if you want New members have to have a minimum of 50 posts and be around this site for at least 30 days before they have PM privileges. That said - what others have said: Total Catfish. Just because he has a FB page means nothing. Heck, I've got a good friend who made a Facebook page for her stuffed, toy Zebra and people all over the world are "friends" with this animal and post on its page. It means nothing until you have met in real life. 2
Fleur de cactus Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I think he is fake and this happens often online. This is typically scammer , please find someone else. You dont even know if he is where you think he is. This is serious . Pictures dont mean anything. Next time he will contact you with excuses. He may tell you that he is travelling and was robbed , and ask you to send him money. Asking you to travel to him is a way to see how willing you will be to do whatever he wants. The sudden silence is a red flag. He may not be in US but in Africa. Do facetime and check who he is. Please be careful! 2
ExpatInItaly Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Catfish or not, he's backed off. Let him go. It's odd that in 4 months of communicating you have never talked on Skype/FaceTime/etc. And he wants you to fly to him? Yeah, right. I hope you didn't really consider doing so. 1
Perrier Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Fantasy involvement. Do not fly to meet any man for the first time. It's a recipe for a non-relationship.
Redhead14 Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Hi Everyone! Im new here and I was hoping to get some advice please. Ok so I have been texting with this guy for 4 months now, he found me through facebook and at first I didnt really care for him. He kept on texting me and I talked with him because he was pretty cool. I live in New York and he lives in Vegas. He called me once but I didnt pick up and left a message, that was when I left for a trip abroad. So we kept in touch. Now Im back hes asking me to fly to him he would love to take me out. hes very sweet and asked me when is ok to call me. I told him what day is ok and he was excited BUT the day came and nothing..nada. No call. Its 5 days after he was suppose to call and hes not texting. WTF happened?? Is he not serious after all? Of course I didnt reach out to him. Im waiting for him. Please help Im kinda disappointed Im not going to lie. Just when I show interest hes backing off?? thank you! Just when I show interest hes backing off?? -- He didn't really want to connect with you. This kind of long distance thing from OLD is BS. They are lonely, want some kind of ego boost, are bored or all three. You telling him you're coming there scared him or just gave him the boost he wanted. And, never go to a man. Let him come to you. You will have spent a ton of money, he won't show up as planned or you won't even like him in person and now alone in a strange city with no family or friends for support. That is a bad position to put yourself in.
Toodaloo Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 He just wanted some attention for a bit. Now its becoming real he has realised he doesn't want that so he has gone awol. Time to move on. Nothing in life is ever "real" until you meet.
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