cessna Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 Went on a date for the first time in many, many years. Went okay I thought, she was pretty but I wasn't swooning over her. Had a nice personally and I thought we had a laugh. Didn't go for a kiss at the end, I could tell she was wasn't interested. I sent her a message to make sure she got back home safely. Got a generic response saying that she did and thanks for the night... I replied and never heard back from her. I'm genuinely not fussed with this one but the ignoring seems to be a recurring theme that really pisses me off. I can't think of anything I'm doing that would put off every women in the last six months so much so that I get the dreaded radio silence. This is more of a rant than anything else, I apologise.
GTR King Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 Radio Silence means they are not interested girls are like that keep trying till you find the right one..
aloneinaz Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 Yup.. radio silence means NOT INTERESTED.. I received it as well and have gone silent when girls have texted me after a date. I think it's more polite than having to explain to somone you're not interested in them. People can read between the lines. It's the same thing on dating sites. You send a "what's up" to someone you're interested in. If they are not interested, you don't get a reply. Dating is like making sell's calls. You have to make a lot of calls to close a deal. Keep getting in front of people. It will happen.
KatZee Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 Welcome to Online Dating. This is what you're going to get 99.9% of the time. I was doing the OLD thing for over 3 years. At no point did I ever meet a person who said, "Hey it was nice to meet you but I don't think there was a connection." It's always, always, ALWAYS, the fade out. The ghost move. The Casper. It's a huge reason why I stopped OLD. It's so impersonal, so forced, and people tend to think that just because they're on the end of some electronic device, that they're not talking to or engaging with an actual person on the other end. I think this type of behavior is rude, cowardly, and it shows just how little social skills people actually own these days. Sad.
Author cessna Posted May 16, 2015 Author Posted May 16, 2015 Oh I totally understand this means she's not interested! This want from online dating either, I don't do online dating. This was more of a rant than anything else because I always think being honest is better than ignoring.
jen1447 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 I agree. It's sh*tty behavior that's almost never justified. It's just easy.
lucy_in_disguise Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 What was your response that resulted in silence? Did u ask her an actual question or out for a second date? Uf not, she may not be ignoring u so much as expecting u to take the initiative again.
Author cessna Posted May 16, 2015 Author Posted May 16, 2015 Sadly, I've accepted that this is how women now behave these days, Ignoring seems to be the norm. It's a sorry state of affairs where I go into a situation with a woman and can almost guarantee with certainty that after a short while she'll vanish never to be heard from again.
neowulf Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 It's hard but I'm slowly conditioning myself to understand that in the world of online dating there is but one universal truth; No one owes you a damn thing. You are a stranger, you don't travel in their social circles, you're not a friend of a friend. You are literary no one to them. On the upside, the same goes for them. If people blow me off, I simply shrug and move on. What do I care what some random I've met once thinks? If they're rude, then that's their cross to bare. Work on taking the process a whole lot less personally. It'll help.
phineas Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 you will get used to it. I personally will tell a women when i'm not interested in them but very rarely do they ever tell me. they just ignore. Like I said you get used to it.
Mrlonelyone Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 The OP said this wasn't an online date so the online dating related replies are ... unrelated. Anyway.... they are right. In this day where online dating is prevalent even if you don't meet online that behavior will still influence your dates. It is a attitude towards dating in which it is a numbers game. Men and women both play the numbers game date around, find a mate but don't try to hard to keep the RLship going. Break up, divorce, so what! There are thousands if not even millions of possible mates. Move to China or India to find her. I read that in the near future 1/5 people will be some part Chinese or East Indian. So keep on trucking OP. You'll find someone who won't go radio silent. (The one who said she could be waiting for you to initiate does have a point though.)
Jame22 Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I agree. It's sh*tty behavior that's almost never justified. It's just easy. I disagree, as a guy I'd much rather hear nothing over "I don't think we're a good match." Radio science is very straightforward. Giving a reason seems unnecessary. To me at least
Author cessna Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 I disagree, as a guy I'd much rather hear nothing over "I don't think we're a good match." Radio science is very straightforward. Giving a reason seems unnecessary. To me at least Really? You sound awfully sensitive.
Author cessna Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 Well why else wouldn't you want a women to tell you that she thinks you're not a good match then?
Jame22 Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Well why else wouldn't you want a women to tell you that she thinks you're not a good match then? You said it yourself "Didn't go for a kiss at the end, I could tell she was wasn't interested." Why did you even text her after that? That should of been radio silence on both ends.
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