Author Jonp219 Posted May 18, 2015 Author Share Posted May 18, 2015 Because theres something bigger out there for me, i can feel it, i just havent reached it yet. I believe that to be true with anyone going through a break up or anything for that matter; life is pulling you in another direction, so cry, grab a tissue, and then get moving. Sometimes I feel it too, but I just can't imagine ever replicating a love or a level comfort like the one I felt in my previous relationship. The idea of it seems impossible to me, I just can't imagine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonp219 Posted May 18, 2015 Author Share Posted May 18, 2015 Ugh God... I was going through my Dropbox and saw a picture of her that I forgot to delete long ago. Ugh that sent a jolt right through my heart :'( Link to post Share on other sites
Shetland Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 Sometimes I feel it too, but I just can't imagine ever replicating a love or a level comfort like the one I felt in my previous relationship. The idea of it seems impossible to me, I just can't imagine. Same here. I cant even fathom having something like that again. They say its possible, but honestly if its true, its gonna take a while cause im still hurting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonp219 Posted May 18, 2015 Author Share Posted May 18, 2015 Dude, I don't expect you to believe me, but that girl wasn't the Love of Your Life. She was probably your first big significant relationship -- but you're going to have relationships that far surpass what you had with her. Not to minimize what you're feeling and going through right now, but if at all possible it's really helpful to hold onto a bigger picture perspective. You loved her, it didn't work out. You WILL love again, and it'll be every bit as powerful and significant. Moving forward, getting yourself back, working on improving yourself and your life... these will help you get to a place where you're ready to meet your future new way-better girlfriend. Keep going, you're doing great. What scares me the most is when I hear people in here say something like, " It wasn't until I got to my 4th girlfriend did I realize my 2nd was "the one". **** like that scares me. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 What scares me the most is when I hear people in here say something like, " It wasn't until I got to my 4th girlfriend did I realize my 2nd was "the one". **** like that scares me. Those people are misguided I lived with some guy for 10 years. We were together for 12. Most things about that relationship were dysfunctional, especially our incompatible views on marriage. Yet I was sure he was The One. When I finally got engaged to DH I finally got confirmation that other guy & I never would have made it. When it's The One you will stay together not be broken apart by petty BS 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 What scares me the most is when I hear people in here say something like, " It wasn't until I got to my 4th girlfriend did I realize my 2nd was "the one". **** like that scares me. I believe there are many ones, but we have to be open and in a good place to see and being able to meet them. Feeling good again can take a while, do not fake it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jonp219 Posted May 19, 2015 Author Share Posted May 19, 2015 I believe there are many ones, but we have to be open and in a good place to see and being able to meet them. Feeling good again can take a while, do not fake it. I guess. There was a girl I loved before her. I guess there will be another one after her. I guess since this was my first REAL relationship it just feels this bad. Link to post Share on other sites
SheleftmeforMichael Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 I finally got pissed at myself and said enough. Why give so much power to someone who doesn't want you in their life? F-them. There's millions of women looking for the same as you. You need to say enough.. No ones worth feeling this way, especially someone who doesn't want you in their life anymore. You then need to start looking forward in your life and stay positive thinking that right now, your future love is out there. I agree with this. Whether it be family, friends or future partner/mate, find and recognize there are other people in your life that are worth/ will be worth your time instead of your ex. Its so important that we concern ourselves with people who matter in our life and who actually want to spend time with us, contact us genuinely and think of us and not just in passing. The person / ex we knew is gone and we have to accept that they are not coming back and even if they did its not like the problems and past negative history would disappear to allow us to begin anew so easily. Link to post Share on other sites
HowMightI-live Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 Sometimes I feel it too, but I just can't imagine ever replicating a love or a level comfort like the one I felt in my previous relationship. The idea of it seems impossible to me, I just can't imagine. I have days where i feel that way too. Its almost unnatural to image yourself with someone else, let alone in love. Nonetheless, i believe i'll find love again. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariess10 Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 Because without them, I had the Will before. After them, I called back on that Will. Nobody is worth stopping living over. I'm worth a lot more than that. It's just a break up, and in the "grand scheme of things", they happen all the time, I'm not unique. Sod it. That's over. And on..... "Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, start all over again." that first sentence is the best advice I have heard Link to post Share on other sites
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