chelsey Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 i've got a new boyfriend (2 months tomorrow) and everything has gone very smooth and we get along effortlessly. I can really see this lasting a long time or maybe forever. we haven't said "i love you" yet. I'm pretty shy about expressing emotions but i was the one to ask to make it official, and he was all for it. he's dropped "love ya" in a phone call and that's nice but i think the first real "i love you" should be face to face (and not in bed hahah) the thing is he is in the military and we will be seeing a lot less of each other over the summer as he has to travel for it. no real deployments for a while but stuff that will take him away for 2-4 weeks here and there. he is divorced and his ex cheated on him while he was deployed, and other exes have broken up right before so going underway is stressful because of those memories. he's awesome and fully worth waiting for so i want tosay before he leaves (in 2 weeks!) because i have been thinking it for a while now. no easy opportunity has come up yet so i'm going to have to make one. should i say it sooner or right before he goes? I don't want him to worry while he's gone but when would be better? if you were in his position which timing would make you feel like a million bucks and take away the worry?
d0nnivain Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 I'd wait until he comes back. A divorced guy with trust issues who is deployed doesn't need the pressure. When I was the 1st to say it I always hedged: I think I'm falling in love you with you.
Author chelsey Posted May 16, 2015 Author Posted May 16, 2015 I'd wait until he comes back. A divorced guy with trust issues who is deployed doesn't need the pressure. When I was the 1st to say it I always hedged: I think I'm falling in love you with you. thanks! i was actually thinking of saying it exactly like that. i didn't think to wait until after but that would be good to give him time to think. maybe one of those non-love words would be better like "i adore you" (which we've said) to reassure but not apply the pressure.
jen1447 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 I'd go for the whole thing myself, and whenever it feels spontaneous and right and not forced. If you say "I think I might kinda like you a little," that's not really a resounding validation and might deflate him thinking you're not really all in. The best impression if he's a damaged guy would be a very clear, unmistakable affirmation of his worth to you.
Art_Critic Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 (edited) When you feel it and not a moment later Edited May 17, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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