xpaperxcutx Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 My relationship has been really drama-free so far. I see my bf once a week to hang out and we are getting to know each other more and more. Just yesterday we spent half the day in the city, walked around and had lunch at a hookah place. we bonded over our love for music. It was memorable and greAt. And then this morning i woke up from a dream about my ex. Why is that? Just when Im happy and it feels like Im moving on, my subconscious starts guilt-tripping me. Can anybody ExpLain this, becuase i have dreams about my ex everytime I finish an amazing date with my current bf.
Felix01 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 Yeah, you're not over your ex. I'd spare your current bf an emotional turmoil. I'd stop dating if I were you and then heal yourself first.
Gaeta Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 (edited) I went to a conference on dreams before because I had the same dream over and over for 10 years. There I learn what you see in your dream is a symbol of something, example if you dream of a cat the dream is not about the cat, it's about what your brain chose to represent with the cat. Dreams are also about feelings and not images you see. When you wake up you have to identify what it is you were feeling in your dream. Was it frustration? fear? sadness? joy? and once you've identified the feeling vehiculated in your dream you look in your current life and search where you experience this same feeling. When you find it, it's what needs to be fixed in your life. Edited May 16, 2015 by Gaeta
jen1447 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 I always understood it to just be normal emotional and intellectual processing. A lot of that goes on while you sleep. I dream about exes all the time, even one from 18 years ago, haha ....don't feel like you have to get over anybody before you can date again bc you'll be dateless the rest of your life. 1
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 16, 2015 Author Posted May 16, 2015 Yeah, you're not over your ex. I'd spare your current bf an emotional turmoil. I'd stop dating if I were you and then heal yourself first. Before becoming official with my bf, I told him about my ex and he understands that I've been hurt and that our relationship needs to be slow. We havent been physically intimate yet, save for kissing and i don't burden him with my emotions. I try to make him happy. I do things to make myself happy. But these dreams keep happening and i dont know why.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 16, 2015 Author Posted May 16, 2015 I always understood it to just be normal emotional and intellectual processing. A lot of that goes on while you sleep. I dream about exes all the time, even one from 18 years ago, haha ....don't feel like you have to get over anybody before you can date again bc you'll be dateless the rest of your life. Hi Jen, I definitely took significant time off from dating before I got together with my boyfriend. My ex is not a part of my life anymore.
chelsey Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 it takes some time and some new memories to form before you have a dream with your new guy in it. you'll have one and it will be awesome to wake up after one where he is the main character. think of it as your brain just processing the transition. you've probably had dreams with your ex while together, and some with people you have't seen in a while. dreams are based off memories and you'll have some with him once you've formed more together. don't feel guilty, just take some time and reflect on what you ca do to make this new relationship better than the last one then get back in there and enjoy it! 1
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 Okay this is bad.... I dreamt about my ex for three consecutive nights right now. This can't go on. It's been 5 months since the breakup and I really need to let him go.
El Pallasso Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 You're dreaming about him because you spend a lot of time thinking about him. You can deny this all you want but you know I'm right. I feel bad that your boyfriend is in a relationship with a woman who is still fixated on her ex. Eventually it will spill out into your interactions with him and he will see it your true thoughts.
j_mysterio Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I'm still kinda p!ssed at my ex for not being friends. I'm totally ignored now despite all love being lost... Besides the friend connection we had. I just had a dream I was with her and she was driving a car... I was passenger... She wrecked and it knocked out all of my teeth. I saved her from getting killed. Kinda fncked, right/? Lol whatevs...
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