1986steve1986 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 I met this girl last summer..she really seemed into me, but i was still in a on and off relationship with my ex sadly. she asked me to be her boyfriend and because I still liked my ex, I rejected her. Soon after (2 months after), I realized my ex wasn't the one for me. I ended things once and for all with my ex and I messaged that girl on facebook once I found her. I realized we had a genuine connection and I wanted to re-connect. She responded after 2 months (which is really awkward, she is on facebook every day, but I think she wanted to punish me for not contacting her for those previous 2 months where we had no contact)and she sent me a reply over facebook giving me both her home phone and cell telling me to call her and text her and let her know when I want to meet. A week after, I texted her to meet and have lunch and she said she was busy for lunch, but would be okay after work. She then texted me at 4 pm to meet up. I ignored her, I was hurt that she was busy before and I was also trying to play a little hard to get. Then she sent me a friend request on facebook,even after I ignored her text. I was drunk at the time at my friends birthday party and i (stupidly) sent her a text saying "why did you add me on facebook" and she removed her requests and I haven't heard from her since. That was a month ago. Im still hurt and I miss her. Im depressed because I really miss her, but I wont message her after I saw all of the guys pics she liked on facebook and wrote comments on them such a "hot" and "sexy", which clearly means shes over me. I just deleted my facebook account.I'm wondering if there's a chance that she will message me in the near future or ever again? I can't stop thinking of her but I don't won't contact her. She has my number.
Satu Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 *I ignored her, I was hurt that she was busy before and I was also trying to play a little hard to get. Then she sent me a friend request on facebook,even after I ignored her text. I was drunk at the time at my friends birthday party and i (stupidly) sent her a text saying "why did you add me on facebook" and she removed her requests and I haven't heard from her since. *You were caught out by your own game-playing/emotional manipulation. If you'd acted with sincerity, it might have gone better. 2
cessna Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 You were hurt that she was busy at lunch even though she offered to meet up in the evening? The evening date is always the best option. You shot yourself in the foot big time by acting childish and immature. 2
Gary S Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 So you rejected her, then played games with her. I think you have beat her up enough. Go find a new girl, you bruised her ego too much. Sometimes you have to start with a clean slate. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 Why would she come back? She probably wants a mature adult relationship. Your behaviors do not indicate that you are capable of that. Game playing was the wrong way to go. Being busy is one thing. Acting like you don't care to punish the other person is something else all together. She was straightforward with you, except for the waiting 2 months. Even then she was probably concerned she couldn't trust you & guess what, her instincts about you proved to be correct. 1
chelsey Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 it was god you were honest about not being over your ex. she probably still thinks you're not fully over your ex and she doesn't want to be a rebound. i say give it more time and don't reach out to her for a while. it's possible she has written you off as not being available in the way she wants. is there a way to contact her off facebook? or to hang out in a non-datey way with friends? sometimes timing just doesn't line up. don't pursue her to hard after what she's done she's shown you she's not interested right now. go and live your life, maybe date around a bit. she might come back into your life later when the timing is better. be patient but go live your life!
ExpatInItaly Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 So you rejected her, and then you played games, and then were rude to her afetr you ignored her. And you wonder why she doesn't want to talk to you anymore. Really? And you are crying in to your Cheerios so much you deleted your entire FB account? Come on, OP. She can see you have a lot of growing up to do and aren't ready for a girlfriend. I wouldn't want to talk to you anymore either.
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