How do you get a girlfriend without being needy or desperate? how to be assertive

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

Not just kill it, murder it, premeditated, and bury the remains, haha.

 

 

Unfortunately I think this is likely fairly true. Despite the purportedly enlightened age we live in, a man's ability to suppress his emotions will probably always be a key train by which he's measured. A female hominid from the neolithic era looking for a mate isn't going to want the guy who cries and emotes a lot; she's going to want the guy who can kill a mountain lion with a stick and carry the carcass 8 miles back to the cave without so much as furrowing his brow. And our brains really haven't changed much in the last 12,000 years.

 

This is all just a solid reminder that we're animals; some species have some not altogether dissimilar methods of vetting their mates from humans. Female kangaroos, for example, will often reserve mating privileges for the male that successfully wins a (or multiple) fight(s) to the death with other male kangaroos. Female kangaroos are also, like female humans, attracted to males with large biceps.

 

But it's all still a competition, same stakes as ever, just a different kind of tournament.

 

lack of confidence makes sense in terms of lack of belief in oneself, lack of courage, on why this would NOT be beneficial to a woman back then seeking a mate, but I wonder why neediness, clinginess, desperation is a huge turn-off to women, does that show a woman he can't protect either?