Author Kkw99 Posted May 17, 2015 Author Posted May 17, 2015 Update: got a message from him today, saying it isn't going to work between us. I feel awful... I didn't see this coming at all. Everything was wonderful for both of us before he went away. I'm not going to reply for a bit, I think I'll ask to sit down and talk with him in person. I guess the problem of him ignoring me is over at least. It just sucks because we are in a big group of friends who don't know we were together, and we all routinely hang out so one of us will have to be excluded I feel. Thank you to everyone for the replies.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 Update: got a message from him today, saying it isn't going to work between us. I feel awful... I didn't see this coming at all. Everything was wonderful for both of us before he went away. I'm not going to reply for a bit, I think I'll ask to sit down and talk with him in person. I guess the problem of him ignoring me is over at least. It just sucks because we are in a big group of friends who don't know we were together, and we all routinely hang out so one of us will have to be excluded I feel. Thank you to everyone for the replies. Wow. I'm sorry to hear that, OP. But consider this: any guy who ignores you and then breaks up with you over text isn't a good candidate for a relationship. I wouldn't reply for a little while either. This is going to be a difficult split since you have the same group of friends. Take time for yourself to process everything.
preraph Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 I wouldn't reply, period, unless it was to say you agree but had been putting off letting him know.
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Update: got a message from him today, saying it isn't going to work between us. I feel awful... I didn't see this coming at all. Well, if that isn't an open demonstration of what a jerk he actually is, then I don't know.... I think we urged you to seriously consider this relationship in light of how differently he behaved from 'best friend' ---> 'Boyfriend'... So really, don't feel too awful. Let's be honest: if he hadn't got first pitch in, you might well have done it to him. And rightly so.... Everything was wonderful for both of us before he went away. I'm not going to reply for a bit, I think I'll ask to sit down and talk with him in person. Don't reply at all. And honestly, really: let it go. Don't even discuss it face-to-face. I mean, to what end? What would be the point? What would it resolve? It hasn't worked. you already suspected that, he confirmed it. Why revive and re-hash? Trust me, there are better things to focus on, really there are! I guess the problem of him ignoring me is over at least. It just sucks because we are in a big group of friends who don't know we were together, and we all routinely hang out so one of us will have to be excluded I feel. I will repeat ad nauseam: "He who cares the least, controls the most." Act like "you don't care, so what, it's done, I'm fine, your problem." Shrug it off - and keep faking it until you make it. It's nobody else's business, and you need to just get on with life. Greater tragedies will befall you (sadly!) so this will pale into insignificance. Do you think this will matter a whole lot, in a year's time? I suspect not.... Then why let it matter now? Thank you to everyone for the replies.[ keep well, be strong - and be the better person. Don't contact him, let it go, and sail on by.... 1
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