purringout Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 To make a long story short, I had a relationship with a man who was very, very into me for 2 months. We had met last year. He is also a Doctor (and a resident). We are both in our late 20s-early 30s. Once he told me he was in love with me, a couple of days later, I told him information about me that he should know and that was very important to our relationship. I feared this information would be a dealbreaker, so I texted him several times asking him if it was. He ended up deleting and blocking me 2 days later. I called him on the phone, desperate. We did not argue, though... and immediately cooled off for 3 minutes. He told me he was a brutally honest person and that he DID NOT have a problem with the information I told him! Yet he never went back to me that time about it(the time before he blocked me), it turns out he was very busy with work and that is why he did not respond back or discuss heavily the information that I told him. What DID push him away, though, WAS THE FACT THAT I TEXTED HIM A LOT the day after I told him the news. He then said he still wanted a relationship but just needed his space. It's been 2 weeks since I have gone NC, but he has not contacted. I have not texted nor called him whatsoever nor sent him a message nor FB-friended him. I have been very faithful to NC. I regret being as needy as I was. Is it over for good?
PegNosePete Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Yes, it seems like he doesn't want a relationship with you. Sorry.
guest569 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 To make a long story short, I had a relationship with a man who was very, very into me for 2 months. We had met last year. He is also a Doctor (and a resident). We are both in our late 20s-early 30s. Once he told me he was in love with me, a couple of days later, I told him information about me that he should know and that was very important to our relationship. I feared this information would be a dealbreaker, so I texted him several times asking him if it was. He ended up deleting and blocking me 2 days later. I called him on the phone, desperate. We did not argue, though... and immediately cooled off for 3 minutes. He told me he was a brutally honest person and that he DID NOT have a problem with the information I told him! Yet he never went back to me that time about it(the time before he blocked me), it turns out he was very busy with work and that is why he did not respond back or discuss heavily the information that I told him. What DID push him away, though, WAS THE FACT THAT I TEXTED HIM A LOT the day after I told him the news. He then said he still wanted a relationship but just needed his space. It's been 2 weeks since I have gone NC, but he has not contacted. I have not texted nor called him whatsoever nor sent him a message nor FB-friended him. I have been very faithful to NC. I regret being as needy as I was. Is it over for good? By texting "several times" what do you mean? I find it odd that he admitted he loves you after having dated for just 2 months, only to delete and block you shortly afterwards (days later). He sounds a bit confused to me, I wouldn't fret over a guy that would break things off over something so small.
Author purringout Posted May 15, 2015 Author Posted May 15, 2015 (edited) By texting "several times" what do you mean? I find it odd that he admitted he loves you after having dated for just 2 months, only to delete and block you shortly afterwards (days later). He sounds a bit confused to me, I wouldn't fret over a guy that would break things off over something so small. I texted him about five times the day after I told him the news (and he seemed fine with me, but not overtly affectionate like he used to be) and the next day I texted him three times before BAM happened... the issue was really important and I wanted to know if he accepted or not and he did not say if he did until we argued that night over the phone... he told me that he did accept it, but just hated my texting afterwards (which were along the lines of "Are you mad at me?" "Is this a dealbreaker?", you know, needy-ish stuff). He then said over the phone that he still wanted a relationship with me but quote unquote "you need to give me my space". Edited May 15, 2015 by purringout
guest569 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I texted him about five times the day after I told him the news (and he seemed fine with me, but not overtly affectionate like he used to be) and the next day I texted him three times before BAM happened... the issue was really important and I wanted to know if he accepted or not and he did not say if he did until we argued that night over the phone... he told me that he did accept it, but just hated my texting afterwards (which were along the lines of "Are you at me?" "Is this a dealbreaker?", you know, needy-ish stuff). He then said over the phone that he still wanted a relationship with me but quote unquote "you need to give me my space". I dont think your behaviour warranted that reaction. You just wanted some reassurance and he has yet to give that, you're stuck in limbo for the past 2 weeks. I say stick to NC and if he ever contacts you again you can decide if he is worth it. 1
aloneinaz Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Without knowing what the very important information was that could of been a deal breaker, it would be hard to speculate. When I was single, I met some terrific women on first dates that after the date, shared they had herpes and would it be a deal breaker? Sadly, it was for me and I was honest about it. Again, we don't know what you shared but a lot of people don't want to take on things like that when there are millions of single people w/out issues like them. I'm a compassionate person but we all have enough of our own bagage and stress.
quattrob Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Sounds like you told him this information through text or over the phone? That's never a good idea, you should've told him that important information face to face so you'd know how he reacts more clearly. I'm not him but what you did, did not warrant his behavior. I doubt he loves you much if at all, you don't act the way he is when you love somebody. This guy seems to be just taking advantage of you since he knows you're so desperate and needy of him. You say he's a doctor? I guess you stroke that ego pretty well. 1
Author purringout Posted May 15, 2015 Author Posted May 15, 2015 Sounds like you told him this information through text or over the phone? That's never a good idea, you should've told him that important information face to face so you'd know how he reacts more clearly. I'm not him but what you did, did not warrant his behavior. I doubt he loves you much if at all, you don't act the way he is when you love somebody. This guy seems to be just taking advantage of you since he knows you're so desperate and needy of him. You say he's a doctor? I guess you stroke that ego pretty well. I agree that what I said did not warrant his behavior- in retrospect, it was not much of a big deal (what I told him). But the way he reacted was not the way someone who loves someone would react. I don't know about "ego". He is not an egotistical person who enjoys attention very much, and he was so stressed out at his work that we NEVER talked about it. I never called him "doctor" and he never seemed happy at his job. He was actually the most humble person that I met. He had problems and extreme stress at work and that seemed to be a trigger in terms of receiving my texts, but at the end, still confusing and irrational. Plus it has been 2 weeks. He was the one who was desperate and needy in the very beginning, but then later on, the tables turned (we did not sleep together either btw).
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