zachsack Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I have been recently clingy to my gf. And I have reasons to that are too personal and emotional to explain, other than that life at home with my family is very very hard. Should I apologize to her for being clingy and also give her my reason? Or would she not appreciate me dumping a huge load of my issues on her shoulders.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 What have you done that could be interpreted as clingy? And has she complained about it? You could apologize but I don't think you need to give some detailed explanation. Simply start giving her space and work on your insecurities.
Gaeta Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I have been recently clingy to my gf. And I have reasons to that are too personal and emotional to explain, other than that life at home with my family is very very hard. Should I apologize to her for being clingy and also give her my reason? Or would she not appreciate me dumping a huge load of my issues on her shoulders. She is your girlfriend, you are suppose to talk to each other about those things. If your girlfriend cannot understand you are going through some tuff sheet at home then what's the use of having gf ! Don't apologize, a good gf will understand and be supportive. Talk to her. 1
Author zachsack Posted May 15, 2015 Author Posted May 15, 2015 What have you done that could be interpreted as clingy? And has she complained about it? You could apologize but I don't think you need to give some detailed explanation. Simply start giving her space and work on your insecurities. I have at first and she said that I never did anything wrong and it was mostly her fault. Then, yesterday her sister said she was talking about me and saying how I was too clingy and she didn't like it, but stilled loved me. I texted her last night telling her i needed to talk and I seemed to got on her nerves. Then I told her what she meant to me, and how much more it meant with what's going on at home. And told her I loved her. Since then she has not replied but I know for a fact that she's read my message. (Kik).
todreaminblue Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I have at first and she said that I never did anything wrong and it was mostly her fault. Then, yesterday her sister said she was talking about me and saying how I was too clingy and she didn't like it, but stilled loved me. I texted her last night telling her i needed to talk and I seemed to got on her nerves. Then I told her what she meant to me, and how much more it meant with what's going on at home. And told her I loved her. Since then she has not replied but I know for a fact that she's read my message. (Kik). I dont think she is being fair to you.....part of being in a relationship is the fact you do have someone to talk to when things are rough not just sweet as all the time.....if she isnt there when you need her when it gets a bit uphill.......do you think she will expect you to be there for her when she has to face a hill......the answer is yes... if i were you and it will probably be hard for you...spend time with good friends who are there for you give her some space that she actually failed to mention she needed.....and surround yourself with people who care ...because thats what you need....if she comes back.......and starts the contact......be chill.....if i were you i would stick to people who want to help you out when you need it...who are honest with you...deb
Author zachsack Posted May 15, 2015 Author Posted May 15, 2015 I dont think she is being fair to you.....part of being in a relationship is the fact you do have someone to talk to when things are rough not just sweet as all the time.....if she isnt there when you need her when it gets a bit uphill.......do you think she will expect you to be there for her when she has to face a hill......the answer is yes... if i were you and it will probably be hard for you...spend time with good friends who are there for you give her some space that she actually failed to mention she needed.....and surround yourself with people who care ...because thats what you need....if she comes back.......and starts the contact......be chill.....if i were you i would stick to people who want to help you out when you need it...who are honest with you...deb Should I still explain myself though? I realize that she needs space.
Guitarisgood Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 You've already apologized. If you've given your reason (and it's a good one) then you've done enough. Time to pull back and give her space. The problem with couples these days is some are so intertwined at times it can be a bad thing though good mostly. What you need to sit find or throw yourself into some other interests - reading, art, music, fitness or career things. These are important things so that you need to have so that you are not only a more well rounded person but your relationship is better balanced.
El Pallasso Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Here's the thing, man: Wtf? Absolutely do not apologize to her and don't tell her sh*t. It will only make her despise you more. Don't try to explain your behavior. Just put it behind you and move on. With women, it only becomes a problem when you verbalize it with them. Just don't. You were clingy. That's bad but just move on from it and sort it within yourself not to be clingy. Actions speak louder than words.
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