GH101 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I'm not driving right now, so if I start dating a guy, he'll have to pick me up for our dates, then drive home afterwards. So would a guy be willing to drive like an hour once or twice a week to come see me? What's the farthest a guy will drive?
StalwartMind Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 That depends on the guy. One would cross oceans, mountains and spend days just to take you on a date. Another would not bother, regardless if you lived next door and he even owned a google driverless car, just the mere thought of him having to put information into the GPS system would take too much time for his liking.
johndoe2 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 As far as the bus will take me. I don't own a car. I'd be willing to go as far as the bus lines go literally to meet her. But not owning a car is apparently is a deal-breaker for some women.
madjac74 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 regardless of how far a person will drive initially, eventually they will likely get tired of doing all the "leg" work to maintain the relationship.
Rko28 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 you have to be honest with yourself and think can the travelling last long term? For example right now its summer, lovely warm weather, an hour drive isnt a deal breaker, but say you get to winter, the cold, the snow, frost, that will maybe stop you from travelling then that could have an impact. id be willing to travel 45-60 minutes away but would like them to come my end sometimes too or at least half way on occasions.
Diezel Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I'm not driving right now, so if I start dating a guy, he'll have to pick me up for our dates, then drive home afterwards. So would a guy be willing to drive like an hour once or twice a week to come see me? What's the farthest a guy will drive? If this were the case, I probably wouldn't date you. It's not that I mind driving someone, but if I had to travel an hour and then add on extra time to get wherever we were going for twice a week, that'd be too much of a hassle for me. But that's just me.
Tribble Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 My friends boyfriend doesn't drive and it doesn't seem to bother her. Then again, he makes an effort to get places for dates, she doesn't always have to pick him up/ drop him off, although she does sometimes. Why is a prospective date having to pick you up, take you somewhere and drop you off all of the time? Can't you get anywhere by yourself? The problem isn't that you don't drive, it's that you can't get anywhere independently.
Author GH101 Posted May 16, 2015 Author Posted May 16, 2015 I can get some places on my own, I just thought that once you start dating a guy, that's how it works even if I did have a car, they pick you up, you don't take separate cars. So is dating someone that lives like an hour away realistic?
angel.eyes Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 (edited) Generally, it's about convenience. If what we're doing is closer to his, we'll drive from his place. To get back to your OP, a lot of this will depend on how much he likes you. If he's meh about you, his choices will differ from those he makes should he think you're the best thing since sliced bread. Either way, though, relationships are two-way streets. The most stable (and happy) relationships are those where both partners feel their needs are generally met and the "workload" is equitably shared. If he's doing all the driving, think about what efforts you might make to have things feel equitable. Edited May 16, 2015 by angel.eyes
fred123 Posted May 17, 2015 Posted May 17, 2015 That depends on the guy. One would cross oceans, mountains and spend days just to take you on a date. Another would not bother, regardless if you lived next door and he even owned a google driverless car, just the mere thought of him having to put information into the GPS system would take too much time for his liking. yh but the one who would cross oceans just to take you on a date you would think he is a desperate creepy loser so those guys don't exist! i learnt it cos i was that guy! so now i wouldn't travel more than 10 mins for any girl
Tribble Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 I can get some places on my own, I just thought that once you start dating a guy, that's how it works even if I did have a car, they pick you up, you don't take separate cars. So is dating someone that lives like an hour away realistic? So it doesn't make any difference if you do drive or not then? If this is the way you think it should be, even if you did drive, they would be picking you up? I don't think it's necessarily the distance someone would be willing to travel, it's the kind of guy you're after. Some will be fine with picking and dropping you off all the time, others will want more equitable travelling. It is a bit daft to travel in separate cars everywhere, but in your case, your expecting him to do ALL the driving. I think that will be difficult to achieve. And I think until you are seriously dating, you should make an effort to get to dates on your own and not rely on them straight off the bat. But at the end of the day, there is no answer to this question. Some people will travel and hour, some people won't. My friend used to travel 3 hours most weekends to see her bf who very rarely did the same for her. Different horses for different courses.
Syberia Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 400 miles, apparently. For a first date. Of course, the "date" lasted a week.
d0nnivain Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 I can get some places on my own, I just thought that once you start dating a guy, that's how it works even if I did have a car, they pick you up, you don't take separate cars. So is dating someone that lives like an hour away realistic? Some will some won't. You will have to understand that he might not want a 2 hour R/T drive on a work night.
alphamale Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 What's the farthest a guy will drive? about 50 miles round trip
empresario Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Depends on how long it's been since he's had sex, I guess. I'm sure there's a 'Silicon Valley'-esque way of calculating this mathematically. I still recall the time my business partner and I (before the show) spent an afternoon figuring out how long it would take him to finance our 'seed' round by going around and giving random people blow jobs. But I digress...
alphamale Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Depends on how long it's been since he's had sex, I guess. indeed....
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