confusedmandi Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 I was married now divorced to a guy the same age as me. He was emotionally immature.. He cheated. Since I began dating again I've only dated men much older than me. I'm. 35 and the men have been in mid to late 40s. One in his fifties. I don't want to. Play games. I own. My own home and it's paid for so financially I don't need anyone. I want a guy who is secure as well. I met a guy whose my age and we had been talking bit I can't stand how immature he is. He will be sweet and call me and talk then get drunk with his friends and Act annoying. He wants to. Txt and Cal constantly and I can't stand that either. He plays xbox and laughs at dumb stuff like farting lol. And this seems to be the mentality of most single guys my age. However with older men Im kind of intimidated and let them lead so sometimes I don't speak up and tell them what I want. Should I give guys my age another chance or r older men more mature? Link to post Share on other sites
Price2Play Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 You are not alone Mandi! I'm 36, I put the video game controller down years ago. I dated a woman 33, she played more video games than I did! She wasn't immature so to say but jesus she watched waaay too many cartoons for me! After awhile it felt like I was dating someone in HS minus the fact she was 33! Not kidding 1 Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 Maturity should be evaluated on a case by case basis. My parents were married, built their own home had 2 kids by the time they were in their mid 20's. My father had his first full time job at 16. I assure you, there are people your own age who are at the same point in their lives as you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 Age is not a reliable indicator of maturity. Plenty of older men cheat.... Also, if you own your own home and it's paid off at 35 (after a divorce) you probably took your ex-husband for all you could lol 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Auspecial Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 You see, there are generality pitfalls with each age group. 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's. They all have their pro's and con's for both men and women. The trick is to not typecast individuals and to look for quality, not demographic statistics. Link to post Share on other sites
El Pallasso Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 Stupid generalizations. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedmandi Posted May 15, 2015 Author Share Posted May 15, 2015 Age is not a reliable indicator of maturity. Plenty of older men cheat.... Also, if you own your own home and it's paid off at 35 (after a divorce) you probably took your ex-husband for all you could lol Actually I have a higher paying job than my ex and it was my savings alone that I used to buy my house with cash. Was a dump when I bought it but slowly fixed it up while renting. And while it's small it's entirely mine with no mortgage. Ex h had nothing to do with it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 Actually I have a higher paying job than my ex and it was my savings alone that I used to buy my house with cash. Was a dump when I bought it but slowly fixed it up while renting. And while it's small it's entirely mine with no mortgage. Ex h had nothing to do with it. My daughter’s girlfriends and the young women I’ve worked with are in similar positions and face the same problems and outdated assumptions. The demographics are changing and there’s been a lot of discussion of this in the past few years, especially since the 2008 economic crisis. Just keep dating older men but be open to mature and established men of any age. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 15, 2015 Share Posted May 15, 2015 Its about the person not their birth year. My husband is younger than me but he's very mature. Don't let age be your only criteria 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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