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Hello, I stumbled upon this site and thought it would be a good way to get some advice. I am processing a recent breakup and none of my friends have been through one and I kind of wanted to seek advice from someone close to my age. I am nineteen years old and was in a relationship with a guy for a year and a half. We met at work and were friends for a while but were both in unfulfilling relationships at the time. We decided to take the jump and end the relationships and start one with the two of us. We had a great relationship and he started college a few hours away six months into the relationship. From then on, we had a long distance relationship and it was extremely difficult on us. We did fight here and there and debated breaking up, but we always ended up choosing to fight for the relationship. I haven't seen him for a month and when he returned last night, we had plans to talk about our relationship. I was aware that this past month he has been battling a very intense attack of depression. He struggles with depression but this past month, he's been in a rut. Last night, he told me that he doesn't feel like he should be with someone right now and that he wasn't sure if he was in love with me anymore. He was nice about the whole thing, telling me he still cared about me, but hearing that he fell out of love was the hardest thing I've ever had to take.

Even though I saw it coming, I am still in complete and utter shock. I am still completely in love with him and I cannot fathom his feelings changing so quickly and strongly. Even though I am frustrated and angry and crushed, I do understand how depression works and I think he made the right decision. This, however, is my first serious breakup. I have been in two other relationships but ended both of them because of connection issues within a few months. I have never connected to another person before - it's been a big issue with me my whole life, and when I met him I felt new. It's crazy to think about never seeing him again or calling him again when I need someone to talk to. I not only lost my love, but lost my best friend.

So what I'm seeking today is not only venting - but some advice. If you have been broken up with, how do you get through it? I have not been able to leave the bed since it happened and I have tried and tried but getting up actually scares me and makes it worse. When does it get a little easier? Do the memories always hurt when you think of them afterwards? I would love to hear some experiences of other people since I don't have anyone to talk to about it right now.

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