solong123 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 My most recent ex and I broke up about 8 months ago. I realized I had alot of insecurity in the relationship but that was just me personally, and we werent a good match together anyway. Unfortunately all of this self reflection has reopened an old wound for me. I had been dating a guy before my recent ex who Im not trying to be dramatic was like the first love of my life. However, one day we saw each other, texted that night and I kid you not...he vanished the next day and was never to be heard from again. No phone call, no text, nothing. I was blocked in all forms of communication with no explanation. We also went to the same college and I was forced to pass him like a random stranger..It really messed me up mentally because I never got any type of answer or closure..and that is when I ended up with my recent ex, fragile as can be. Now that we have been broken up I am realizing how much I am still hurt and affected by my other ex. It is all I can think about lately and I know that isnt healthy. I have tried reaching out once but no response. This is now years later and it is still making me sad to think about because I guess I never really dealt with it. I do go to therapy but wont have an appointment for another week so I needed to get this out. I just feel terrible..if someone that I thought truly loved me could up and leave without a word what does that say about me? I hate him but still love him at the same time and it sickens me..has anyone else dealt with someone doing something similar like this to them? How do you cope and finally accept it?
Lokin4AReason Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 my wife walked out on me .... and it was rough for the 1st couple of month(s). with the coping, it differ(s) with each individual because of it not being the situation for each case I tried to set myself in a positive atmosphere along w/ hanging out w/ close friend(s) and families ... just don't text, call, or even reach out. let it be and move on it wont be easy but its has to be done for the healing to begin IMO
minimariah Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 i'm sorry, sweetheart. when people vanish out if the blue they usually have someone else on the side. he probably wanted to break - up but was too cowardly to do it face to face. maybe he thinks you did something so he got mad... either way, it doesn't matter. vanishing like that never has a good excuse. it's horribly cruel & emotionless and just... immature. you need to open up to your own self and find a closure inside of YOU. don't let him mess you up - try to accept that it simply something that has happened and the reason isn't really relevant to you anymore. it happened, you know? it's over... who cares what was the reason? it is done. one day a time, work with your therapist on this and be open and honest. *hugs* 1
darkmoon Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 ppl like you and i fall in love too easily, all ready to love the first nice-looking guy
loveweary11 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 No contact like that is pure evil. Everyone deserves an explanation. 2
Itspointless Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 if someone that I thought truly loved me could up and leave without a word what does that say about me? Nothing. Really!
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