thorin Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 (edited) I wonder if I made a mistake going NC, or did she manipulate me into thinking so? 1 year first relationship, not the best one I think, but ok. She dumped me saying she doesnt love me, but wants to stay friends. I went NC. 2-3 months later, I can tell I was avoiding her, responding to her breadcrumbs like "get out of my life, forget about me, delete my number, **** off". Until yesterday she told me she didnt make it with this new guy she was dating, that she misses me, etc. But when I told her she can come back, she told me that not after all my avoiding her and those harsh words... I mean, I feel like if I stayed friends with her, I could have a second chance. Why do I feel this way? I think I still care if she has good opinion about me at the end. I feel like she was good girlfriend, even though shes been not - dating other dudes in the early stages, dumping me so early, spending much of my money, come on. How can I finally forget about all this? How can I convince myself that she wasnt worth it? Edited May 14, 2015 by thorin
pidgeon1010 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Manipulation Manipulation Manipulation. She broke up with you and now won't give you a second chance because you were hurt about the break up and acted accordingly. It's not like you responded unreasonably or hurled insults at her or became violent. Seems to me she is playing mind games with you and wants you to chase her to make herself feel better. If anyone should be trying to win the other person back, it should be her trying to win you back! You've given your power to her and need to reclaim it. No contact.
Moley87 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Manipulation Manipulation Manipulation. She broke up with you and now won't give you a second chance because you were hurt about the break up and acted accordingly. It's not like you responded unreasonably or hurled insults at her or became violent. Seems to me she is playing mind games with you and wants you to chase her to make herself feel better. If anyone should be trying to win the other person back, it should be her trying to win you back! You've given your power to her and need to reclaim it. No contact. Have to agree with that , She left you and then she contacts you after you move on and then says she wont give you a second chance , just ask yourself why did she message then? She is hurting and needing attention, you fit that role and she knows you will likely fill her gap until she is healed. Your intentions are good and obv you have feelings but she isn't worth the time or effort I'd say.
PegNosePete Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 I went NC. Did you? Because for someone who is no contact, I see a lot of contacting going on. You do know what NC means, right?
aloneinaz Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 OP- you need to read what you stated on your post. You then need to work on your low self esteem. How could you even consider getting back together w/a doche bag girl like that? To recap- She dump you. She then screwed with your head by staying in contact w/you, stringing you along while she was trying to make it with a new guy. It doesn't work with him so now she's falling back to you, Mr. sloppy seconds.. Really? Tell her to f-off and block her on everything... 1
lolablue17 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 The only reason she says she misses you is "you avoiding her". If you've stayed her friend she wouldn't feel the need to tell you that. You see? She wanted you not to move on, but to desire and admire her. And when you didn't dance according to her flute, she made an extreme step, telling you she misses you. If you'd ignore this... She would probably come to your place crying and begging eventually. But the minute you said you want her back, she got what she wanted, and she doesn't need you any more. You are being played...
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