katiegrl Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 (edited) Haha.. Well I find funny is this. Pages and pages back I was the one person to call BS on her "inexperience". But others were saying that sexting is way too common these days to indicate anything. Now that she's a hot aggressive girl blowing a stranger on a first date, her "virginity" is called into question. But based on her actions from the get go, it shouldn't have been a surprise. I think many of us called BS on her experience (or lack thereof). I know I did, as well as jen and elaine just to name a few. Sexting IS common, but it often coincides with provocative behavior as well (such as she behaved with hunk), and one (sexting) usually does not exist without the other (provocative aggressive behavior). And believe it or not, sexting and sexual activity among girls as young as 12-13 is in fact becoming more common these days, shocking as that sounds. What happened on the beach was hardly a surprise given the sexting and the aggressive language she was dolling out prior to. I think all (or most) of us have acknowledged that. Edited May 15, 2015 by katiegrl
El Pallasso Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 And this is what people call 'men' these days? NICE. People who can't be upfront? Have to be a weasel? Teach her a lesson? What's THAT about? To SCARED to ask the question? Wha, you might not like what you hear. Is that it?? Oh, it's not your fault... hmm... interesting. Use her for what you want... interesting... If someone dropped their wallet in front of you, would you steal it, or would you stop and give it back to them? If someone left their car door unlocked, would you go inside and take whatever they had sitting on the dashboard? Do you make a habit of shoplifting? Letting other people pay your bills? Kicking small animals for fun? How would you feel if this was your sister? ... and OP, really, Here's the funny thing about teaching people lessons through your own selfishness and vindictiveness... it usually backfires and you are the one who gets schooled. In a bad way. Better to be upfront and end things if your goals are diverging. Anyway, there is no such thing as FWB. That's just people trying to put frosting on a turd and dress things up. What you want is a f*ckbuddy. You don't want to be her friend at all. Admit it. She didn't drop her wallet and she didn't leave her door unlocked. She gave him her wallet. She begged him to take it and she invited him into her "home". She offered him sex. He has the right to take it and rightfully so.
guest569 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 The OP was asking 'how do I tell a girl (woman?) I only want sex?' not 'how do I be a prick and deceive people to teach them lessons by wronging them?'
johndoe2 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 She didn't drop her wallet and she didn't leave her door unlocked. She gave him her wallet. She begged him to take it and she invited him into her "home". She offered him sex. He has the right to take it and rightfully so. Are you actually saying that she can think and make decisions for herself and he doesn't have to do her thinking for her? What a mindf*ck!
katiegrl Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 I was strongly considering just putting it out there and telling her i'm not interested in a relationship, I'd happily have a casual thing with her (if she wants to lose her virginity to me, mess around and get some "experience" etc) but I'm not looking for anything else. If i tell her that straight up I don't think i'm being a bad guy. I think she'd be pretty straightforward in her answer, despite this insane sexual episode she seems somewhat emotionally mature Okay hunk, as long as you are straight with her, I think that's cool. My only concern here is that if she is as emotionally unbalanced as I, and many of us suspect, once you grow tired or bored of her, or meet another chick, or just want to end it for whatever reason, she may become unhinged making life VERY difficult for you. Ever see the movie Fatal Attraction? Michael Douglas was married but nevertheless the woman he had an affair with was EXTRMELY UNBALANCED (to say the least) putting his life and his family's life in danger...nearly killing him, when he ended the affair. And SHE was a professional woman, and upon first glance, seemed quite together and emotionally balanced. Unlike THIS girl, who has already demonstrated how unbalanced she is.... I know it was just a movie, but stuff like this does happen in real life. So that is all I worry about for you. That when you decide to end it, she won't take it lightly (putting it mildly)... hell hath no fury as a woman (or very young and immature girl) scorned. She has shown you her colors. Your call....
loverboy69 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 If you just want NSA emotionless sex then there are plenty of places to find it online. Or just masturbate to porn. Looking for just sex on a dating site will be tricky. No need to string along a young girl who might want more.
Popsicle Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 It sounds to me like you don't want just sex. Yet, you are trying to get just sex. Crazy.
Author hunk Posted May 16, 2015 Author Posted May 16, 2015 Well if she's very juvenile and immature, manipulating or using her would be shameful. But if she's already been around the block, she should be equipped to make those decisions for herself, and hunk wouldn't be obligated to assume any real responsibility for her. hunk actually sounds a little juvenile himself tbh. No offense hunk but you just got thru this crushing breakup and here you are running around doing this similarly silly stuff? I get where you're coming from - but i'm past the break up and don't see much point (and never really have) in sitting around for a predetermined amount of time until it's deemed acceptable to go and have sex with someone else. I have an idea about life and doing things that is basically me trying to fit as much experience in as I can, which gets me into these situations, and is ultimately, in many instances in the end selfish and I can see that. Before LS the amount of times i'd got into these unnecessary situations with girls was countless, i wouldn't even give it a second thought, but it was all because i was unsure of myself and insecure and saw all these opportunities as validation. Besides my last relationship they never ended up in any girls hating me or me ruining their life however. I'm inclined to agree with the posters who are saying she's equally responsible here - she's blowing a stranger on the first date, in her right mind she CAN'T be thinking this behavior would lead to a relationship. She specifically asked me to come over and bang her on specific days of the week (because i'm in the area on those days). Everything she talks about is sexual. I believe she's a virgin and just wants to lose it to someone she's attracted to and at least likes a bit, but I also believe she's insane and very naive. I'm going to message her when I get home today in no uncertain terms telling her we can have sex and that's it. Will keep the thread posted
Toodaloo Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 A girl that's really inexperienced would not send such a suggestive picture like she did. So I'm calling BS on her so-called "lack of experience". Girls as young as 10 and 11 are "sexting" these days... So no she may not be all that grown up at all... From my guess she is acting around 14-15 yrs old... Hunk I will say again. Do not sleep with this girl. For some unknown reason girls these days use sex as a substitute for affection and attention. Do not be drawn into it or you could wind up in a whole heap of crazy. 1
veggirl Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 She sounds psycho. I would not let her know where you live. I would also not get caught at her parents house by them, who knows what she'd say or what they'd do. 1
darkbloom Posted May 20, 2015 Posted May 20, 2015 Hunk, she is waving a ton of BIG red flags in your face. This has crazy and consequences written all over it. Don't let your insecurities keep putting you in these situations.
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