darkbloom Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I don't know how this stuff always happens to me. Yep, i'm definitely insecure which is why i kind of "let" myself fall into these situations. I openly told her that she shouldn't feel pressured into anything, that I wouldn't pressure her or make her sleep with me or anything, and she should only go for it with someone she's comfortable with. I also asked if she would prefer to do it with a boyfriend (sly) and she said "just someone i actually like and get along with, doesn't have to be a boyfriend i suppose". I don't think she's lying, i feel like i would've been able to tell. The way she was explaining it was really hesitant and she kept asking if i cared/it turned me off and she was sorry etc etc. But ****, i dunno, she could be lying. While all this was happening i was just thinking about posting on LS :lmao::lmao: Okay. We do the same thing then. When something is happening to me, I think about what my LS friends would tell me to do. She probably just wants to lose her virginity. If you've been upfront with her then there is no reason to feel guilty if you take it. Beware though that she doesn't become a stage five clinger. Sex makes girls emotional and they feel attached. She may think she can handle a casual hook up but won't feel that way after the deed. You are in very dark and murky waters here. 1
katiegrl Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Ouch, c'mon i'm just a confused young man lost in the world Oh please...spare us from your pity party. You are perfectly aware of what the right move is here...you just don't want to and are scrambling around looking for justification to alleviate your guilt. I mean come on now... 1
Author hunk Posted May 15, 2015 Author Posted May 15, 2015 Oh please...spare us from your pity party. You are perfectly aware of what the right move is here...you just don't want to and are scrambling around looking for justification to alleviate your guilt. I mean come on now... Hahah katie i was joking around:D. Since I don't actually KNOW what she wants from this and this is all speculation, i'm just trying to get opinions on whether a FWB proposition is alright, whether her behavior is absolutely insane, whether i should take advantage of this situation or run away etc. FWB DO exist and don't always result in heartbreak, i feel like it's just a matter of communication. I'm going to tell her tomorrow. I will "tutor" her but she has to know it's not going anywhere. It's win-win, if she accepts we both have fun, if she wants more she knows where I stand and knows it's not going to happen.
katiegrl Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 She's 100% telling the truth about her age/going to uni i've seen her uni ID and her drivers license:D unless she's some sort of illegal alien Well that's good at least you won't end up in jail... But she still sounds unbelievably immature and emotionally unbalanced. You on the other hand are older, wiser and hopefully at least a little more emotionally balanced....and thus should know better than to allow your d*ck to dictate your actions....especially when you know those actions are wrong and have the potential of hurting another person (her). 1
katiegrl Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Hahah katie i was joking around:D. Since I don't actually KNOW what she wants from this and this is all speculation, i'm just trying to get opinions on whether a FWB proposition is alright, whether her behavior is absolutely insane, whether i should take advantage of this situation or run away etc. FWB DO exist and don't always result in heartbreak, i feel like it's just a matter of communication. I'm going to tell her tomorrow. I will "tutor" her but she has to know it's not going anywhere. It's win-win, if she accepts we both have fun, if she wants more she knows where I stand and knows it's not going to happen. Okay glad you were joking. In that case, a haha, an lol or emoji at the end of your post would have been helpful .....:bunny:
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Hahah katie i was joking around:D. Since I don't actually KNOW what she wants from this and this is all speculation, i'm just trying to get opinions on whether a FWB proposition is alright, whether her behavior is absolutely insane, whether i should take advantage of this situation or run away etc. FWB DO exist and don't always result in heartbreak, i feel like it's just a matter of communication. I'm going to tell her tomorrow. I will "tutor" her but she has to know it's not going anywhere. It's win-win, if she accepts we both have fun, if she wants more she knows where I stand and knows it's not going to happen. You're overthinking it (not entirely your fault all the women here are too) You haven't even had a first date yet (as of the original post), so you have NO OBLIGATIONS YET. Go on the first date, if you have Sex, GREAT!!! Just don't lie to get there. If you want to keep seeing her, then it would be proper to discuss Relationship Track VS FWB Track... But if you bring it up before you have Sex (let alone your first date), you're dooming yourself to fail.
fitnessfan365 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 In all honesty man, it's got nothing to do with you. She's just desperate to finally lose her virginity. If her body is as hot as you say it is, she'll have some other guy lined up if you turn her down. Now on one hand, it's hot from an ego standpoint. You get to be her first, introduce her to new things in bed, and she gets to be your "pupil". So sexually, I can see why you'd want to go there. But man, she sounds like she has trouble written all over her. To make matters worse, since she's never had sex before, her emotions will probably be all over the place. Grown women with experience know the score. They're able to handle casual sex better. But she's younger and is losing her virginity. So it's a whole different ballgame. My advice? Run...
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 OK just caught up on your latest meet with her... Wow! lol. If she's telling you she is a virgin she was probably nervous.. The last thing you should do is have sex with her and leave her.. Probably wouldn't a bad idea to get on the same page. She sounds incredibly horny though and most likely just wants to lose it... Lol. You probably could have had sex with her and been OK. 1
katiegrl Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 You're overthinking it (not entirely your fault all the women here are too) You haven't even had a first date yet (as of the original post), so you have NO OBLIGATIONS YET. Go on the first date, if you have Sex, GREAT!!! Just don't lie to get there. If you want to keep seeing her, then it would be proper to discuss Relationship Track VS FWB Track... But if you bring it up before you have Sex (let alone your first date), you're dooming yourself to fail. BC, this chick is not interested in *dating*. She just wants to *f*ck*, twice a week at her house while her parents are working... This, after literally attacking him on the beach and telling him she's a virgin. The girl is unbalanced. hunk, proceed at your own risk, but be prepared for some heavy drama/histrionics when you decide you've had enough and want out... Good luck...
Author hunk Posted May 15, 2015 Author Posted May 15, 2015 You're overthinking it (not entirely your fault all the women here are too) You haven't even had a first date yet (as of the original post), so you have NO OBLIGATIONS YET. Go on the first date, if you have Sex, GREAT!!! Just don't lie to get there. Read a few pages back man, just got back from our first "date" ... very interesting turn of events FF - you're completely right man, deep down i know all this. It's just the idea/fantasy of having casual NSA sex with a hot younger girl. Obviously that's all it is - a fantasy, because it will never be that simple especially if she's a virgin. I'm also feeling bad now because if I do turn her down without even having sex with her I know she's going to think I just thought she was a complete slut, used her for a BJ and was disgusted by her and will probably feel terrible about herself. Maybe this is the wrong way to think though. I dunno.
Author hunk Posted May 15, 2015 Author Posted May 15, 2015 BC, this chick is not interested in *dating*. She just wants to *f*ck*, twice a week at her house while her parents are working... This, after literally attacking him on the beach and telling him she's a virgin. The girl is unbalanced. hunk, proceed at your own risk, but be prepared for some heavy drama/histrionics when you decide you've had enough and want out... Good luck... Thanks katie. I know you are right, by the way. I have a feeling this is all going to make an interesting story regardless of the outcome:laugh::laugh:
Author hunk Posted May 15, 2015 Author Posted May 15, 2015 OK just caught up on your latest meet with her... Wow! lol. If she's telling you she is a virgin she was probably nervous.. The last thing you should do is have sex with her and leave her.. Probably wouldn't a bad idea to get on the same page. She sounds incredibly horny though and most likely just wants to lose it... Lol. You probably could have had sex with her and been OK. Yeah she kept saying how much she wanted to but "couldn't" with someone she'd just met. (but she'd gladly put my junk in her mouth). I'm still really really confused, obviously.
katiegrl Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 (edited) Yeah she kept saying how much she wanted to but "couldn't" with someone she'd just met. (but she'd gladly put my junk in her mouth). I'm still really really confused, obviously. hunk, your *confusion* is your gut screaming something isn't jiving here. She's incredibly hot, aggressive as all hell (verbally and physically)...she literally attacked you sexually and gave you the ultimate blow job. But yet she *says* she's a virgin??? Sorry, her words and actions don't jive. She is NOT a virgin. Not that it matters, she is still clearly unbalanced. Proceed with caution. Edited May 15, 2015 by katiegrl
stillafool Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I was strongly considering just putting it out there and telling her i'm not interested in a relationship, I'd happily have a casual thing with her (if she wants to lose her virginity to me, mess around and get some "experience" etc) but I'm not looking for anything else. If i tell her that straight up I don't think i'm being a bad guy. I think she'd be pretty straightforward in her answer, despite this insane sexual episode she seems somewhat emotionally mature Why didn't you tell her you only want sex and not a relationship? Why waste time? 1
El Pallasso Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 If you won't give her a good pounding, someone else will. Keep stalling and acting like a clueless, insecure little boy and she will lose interest in you faster than a speeding bullet. Take this girl back to your crib or somewhere private, give her a good pounding and kick her out. Don't get into relationships with these types. Don't even talk about relationships. Just f*ck and get out. Don't get attached to her either. She is giving you an emotional high right now by literally worshipping you. The next second, she will pull the rug from underneath your feet and go cold on you. Leaving you wondering what happened. The only thing these types of women are good for is a quick nut. Nothing more. Nothing less.
ManyDissapoint Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 It is the girl's responsibility to set her boundaries before having sex. Hunk should not lie or deceive but that doesn't mean that he has to go out of his way to try to put out fires which may or may not exist. 2
jen1447 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I'm a little confused ....did you actually have PIV sex with her? And if so, was there any blood? Seems unlikely she is/was a virgin, just bc a hot girl who was in a state like that going around advertising wouldn't stay virginal very long. Watch it hunk, she may actually be playing the would-be player. ps - she's "in uni" - does that mean 18-22? We really need to know how old she is to advise on conduct. 2
ManyDissapoint Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I'm a little confused ....did you actually have PIV sex with her? And if so, was there any blood? Seems unlikely she is/was a virgin, just bc a hot girl who was in a state like that going around advertising wouldn't stay virginal very long. Watch it hunk, she may actually be playing the would-be player. ps - she's "in uni" - does that mean 18-22? We really need to know how old she is to advise on conduct. No PIV yet just a blowy, CMON JEN.
jen1447 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Well if she's very juvenile and immature, manipulating or using her would be shameful. But if she's already been around the block, she should be equipped to make those decisions for herself, and hunk wouldn't be obligated to assume any real responsibility for her. hunk actually sounds a little juvenile himself tbh. No offense hunk but you just got thru this crushing breakup and here you are running around doing this similarly silly stuff?
fitnessfan365 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Haha.. Well I find funny is this. Pages and pages back I was the one person to call BS on her "inexperience". But others were saying that sexting is way too common these days to indicate anything. Now that she's a hot aggressive girl blowing a stranger on a first date, her "virginity" is called into question. But based on her actions from the get go, it shouldn't have been a surprise. 2
guest569 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 I was strongly considering just putting it out there and telling her i'm not interested in a relationship, I'd happily have a casual thing with her (if she wants to lose her virginity to me, mess around and get some "experience" etc) but I'm not looking for anything else. If i tell her that straight up I don't think i'm being a bad guy. I think she'd be pretty straightforward in her answer, despite this insane sexual episode she seems somewhat emotionally mature Yep!!!! Perfect.
minime13 Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Hahah katie i was joking around:D. Since I don't actually KNOW what she wants from this and this is all speculation, i'm just trying to get opinions on whether a FWB proposition is alright, whether her behavior is absolutely insane, whether i should take advantage of this situation or run away etc. FWB DO exist and don't always result in heartbreak, i feel like it's just a matter of communication. I'm going to tell her tomorrow. I will "tutor" her but she has to know it's not going anywhere. It's win-win, if she accepts we both have fun, if she wants more she knows where I stand and knows it's not going to happen. She sounds crazy and emotionally unbalanced. This kind of situation is how men end up losing their junk. So, be aware of that.
wheream_i Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 This has just turned stupid. All this over a immature little virgin who's all of a sudden going to manipulate you?
RedRobin Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 (edited) Go for it. Teach her a lesson. Use her for what you want. If she wants love and commitment, then she can get that from someone else. She sending you those pics and hints and you're getting the message loud and clear. Tell her after you've had sex so she can't trap you. If she gets upset about it, it's not your fault. And this is what people call 'men' these days? NICE. People who can't be upfront? Have to be a weasel? Teach her a lesson? What's THAT about? To SCARED to ask the question? Wha, you might not like what you hear. Is that it?? Oh, it's not your fault... hmm... interesting. Use her for what you want... interesting... If someone dropped their wallet in front of you, would you steal it, or would you stop and give it back to them? If someone left their car door unlocked, would you go inside and take whatever they had sitting on the dashboard? Do you make a habit of shoplifting? Letting other people pay your bills? Kicking small animals for fun? How would you feel if this was your sister? ... and OP, really, Here's the funny thing about teaching people lessons through your own selfishness and vindictiveness... it usually backfires and you are the one who gets schooled. In a bad way. Better to be upfront and end things if your goals are diverging. Anyway, there is no such thing as FWB. That's just people trying to put frosting on a turd and dress things up. What you want is a f*ckbuddy. You don't want to be her friend at all. Admit it. Edited May 15, 2015 by RedRobin 1
joseb Posted May 15, 2015 Posted May 15, 2015 Anyway, there is no such thing as FWB. That's just people trying to put frosting on a turd and dress things up. What you want is a f*ckbuddy. They are not the same thing??? So much to learn these days! 2
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