mortensorchid Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 For the last few months - no wait, a year and a half or so - I have been dating a lot of guys, 3 to be exact: 1) Wishy Washy - One is wishy washy, he doesn't want to dedicate himself to anyone or anything. I asked him just tonight how he would feel if I left the city for a job, he said he would keep up with me through Facebook. I said "But I mean would you miss me?" He said "Ok." I said "Ok? I want you to say either yes or no!" He said "I don't know, maybe." This is what it's like talking to him most of the time. I asked him once "How do you feel?" and not like a shrink would ask "how do you feel about this/that?" I mean I wanted to ask him if he wanted it hotter or colder in the room. He just said "Ok." I specifically asked if he wanted it hotter or colder in the room, he said "Maybe." I just want a black and white answer here, that's all I'm asking for! Talk about frustrating. 2) Divorced guy - We were together for a few months last year, then all of a sudden the communication started to get odd. At some point I said "I'm just going to ahead and do things without him, if he wants to see me he can call me." Last summer we did not speak, then I bumped into him at Halloween. He said being divorced is weird, he didn't feel this or that or whatever else. I knew that was speak for "We were coming up on the six month marker and I didn't want to take it to another level." He came back in November, we'd had our regular Friday night get togethers, then he's about to go poof for the same reason. I'm fine with it. 3) Younger man - In November of last year this guy I had known for a bit asked me out because he wondered what it would be like with an older woman. He's 14 years younger than me, he's a good guy. I'm not attracted to him much physically, but I didn't want to turn into one of those women who didn't give the "nice guy a chance". After a few weeks / months, I am afraid that we aren't going to be anything more than good friends. This is what's out there. I'm done with all of them, this is as far as it's going to go with each of them. I'm 40. This is how it is.
madjac74 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 I think I may have been all of these guys at one time People change with time. Be happy with being your own person and someone will probably just surprise you.
aloneinaz Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Um, it clearly sounds as if you're spending WAY TOO MUCH time with guys you know have no long term potential. After my last GF and I split, I casted a LARGE net for dates. I was on two dating sites. I had probably 3 different dates a week. I went out w/a few girl a few times but after a couple of weeks, if red flags appeared, they were gone. I met my GF I've been with now for closing in on two years w/in 3 months of my break up w/my ex. I had to kiss a lot of frogs in a short time to meet her. It's like making sales calls in my mind. You have to get infront of lots of prospects to make a good sale.
Author mortensorchid Posted May 14, 2015 Author Posted May 14, 2015 I've tried just about anything and everything possible. I don't want some dirty scene boy, I want a real man who deserves me. And that man is not around. I have dated may guys in my life, from working class, blue collar types to college educated, yuppie, white collar types and ALL of them have proven something to be true to me: they don't want me, they would rather have trashy girls or women who are lesser than they are (not as educated, less personality, etc.). They say so and so is beautiful and why don't they have a man? Because she was thrown over for trash. Well ... What can I say except that the man went for trash because he is trash deep down despite his so called education and social status.
Krieger Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 OP I know what you going through most of all the good woman are taken and the ones that are left are trash and too fat or have kids with multiple men and run around saying men are not crap but does that make them crap as well? Dating sucks why is it so hard to find someone worth a dam.
madjac74 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 I've tried just about anything and everything possible. I don't want some dirty scene boy, I want a real man who deserves me. And that man is not around. I have dated may guys in my life, from working class, blue collar types to college educated, yuppie, white collar types and ALL of them have proven something to be true to me: they don't want me, they would rather have trashy girls or women who are lesser than they are (not as educated, less personality, etc.). They say so and so is beautiful and why don't they have a man? Because she was thrown over for trash. Well ... What can I say except that the man went for trash because he is trash deep down despite his so called education and social status. That guys advice and approach is terrible. salesman really? And a new woman in 3 months? But why do you need a man? I think you need to just enjoy yourself and your freedom and see what happens. Usually good things come when you least expect it.
madjac74 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Many men won't turn a woman down for being less educated or having "less personality." You have little faith in the male gender. It is important to many of us.
madjac74 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Ok that isn't what your post insinuated so my apologies. I assumed you meant a man wouldn't turn down a less educated or less personable woman for the simple fact that "she was a woman and he was a man"
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