I4givehim Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 When I start thinking maybe I can forgive him, I go and look at pictures or letters the OW sent me from their relationship. I know I shouldn't. I know I should forget it and just move on but I find myself going back to these items and torturing myself. 1
I_Give_Up67 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Very understandable. It sounds like you are still having trouble processing the level of betrayal. In time, your need to remind yourself will fade. I hope that you will soon be able to move forward and put this all behind you. Has done anything worthy of being forgiven by you? At some point it may benefit you to forgive him, but when that takes place is strictly your call.
Author I4givehim Posted May 14, 2015 Author Posted May 14, 2015 Very understandable. It sounds like you are still having trouble processing the level of betrayal. In time, your need to remind yourself will fade. I hope that you will soon be able to move forward and put this all behind you. Has done anything worthy of being forgiven by you? At some point it may benefit you to forgive him, but when that takes place is strictly your call. The only person I am hurting is myself. I'm so angry and that is not good for the soul. I keep asking myself WHY!?!? Out of everything he could have done to me WHY CHEAT. I know time heals all wounds. I pray it's soon.
sandylee1 Posted May 16, 2015 Posted May 16, 2015 He was so selfish in his reasons for cheating and the recent 'I forgive you for not being there ' from him, would really seal divorce for me. Your H is not remorseful, just peeved he was caught out. Spending money you earn on his sidepiece. He's just wanting you to be his retirement plan. Cut loose. Any spouse who starts blaming the other is not reconciliation material. You had to work 2 jobs because he was financially irresponsible, then he cheats because you weren't there, instead of realising how lucky he is to have you. Can you say what he's done to make you think he's remorseful? That he won't do it again? Because if you've got to make money for the family, he'll get lonely again. What has he done to convince you that he loves you?
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