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My girlfriend and I dated for about a month and everything was great. The problem was that finals and the end of our semester were always looming on the horizon and the timing truly was awful.

 

 

There were multiple factors that contributed to the break up. I would be living in Los Angeles while she stayed in Nashville over the summer. This caused her to pull away (she was afraid of falling in love) while I tried to force us to become closer (I didn't mess anything up, I just tried to see her everyday). We both agreed that trying a long distance relationship while starting out so fresh in the relationship would not end well for either of us. I started to probe her a bit more and found out that she is still was healing from being betrayed in a past relationship from around a year and three months ago. I am her first true boyfriend since (she's had flings before me), but I know for a fact that she's not in love with the guy. As a consequence, she has some DEEP seeded trust issues.

 

 

Despite the breakup, we ended everything on very agreeable and positive terms. She kept reiterating how much show liked me and that I did absolutely nothing wrong (I knew I didn't which is key). EXCEPT that she didn't know if she would still want to date me when we got back to school. That pissed me off and made me nervous about our chances of getting together when we get back to school. I know she's being realistic when she says that, but I don't feel we would have ended things so positive and open if she wasn't intending on getting back together.

 

 

My question is how much do I contact her over the summer? I already shot her a text after giving her some space for a period of time and I got a sweet positive response back. Only now I have no clue what to do, and I don't want the door to close on my chance to get back with her once the summer is over. Any thoughts? Normally I would move on, but we share this amazing connection and this is the first relationship where I don't see the end in sight. I see myself falling in love and being in a long term relationship with her. Well hell I already love her, but ANY thoughts would be appreciated.

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Also just wondering if there is such thing as right person bad time for a relationship? does that exist? it just sounds like a fairy tale, but I have to admit I want it to be true.

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