liove Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 (edited) I am falling deeply and blindly in love with a co-worker without wanting it! His office is next to mine (roughly 20cm space between us) and he is an intern, 3 years younger than me. We see each other EVERY DAY and we spend 8 hours a day together. We get along extremely well and the sings say he likes me too. He gives me a particular attention and I really feel a connection. The problem is that until now he did not propose something outside the office and i begin to think he is not interested at all. one of my collegues told me he might have a girlfriend in the same company but i have never ever heard him mentioned her in front of me. everytime he is doing something, he is doing it with "a friend". I do not know if it's up to him to do the invites or not (due to his "intern" position). He is quite intelligent so i dont think he didnot notice the obvious. Almost everyone in the office noticed something (even my boss). i tried to ignore me (even if it is quite hard due to our "distance") but he always starts a conversation...he will finish his internship next month and i am really scared that he might have a work offer from the same company, whcih will make the situation worse (but i will be glad for him anyway) what should i do? i begin to lose patience and think he is not that into me after all. is he maybe shy? or scared? are there any particular obivious signs? i am a good looking girl and honestly i always seduce guy easily. am i intimidating? friends told me to invite him to drink something but i wont do it because i am not capable of it (i have never did the first step with a guy). so any advice? ideas? anything...please. how can i show him (in a subtle way) that I want more? by the way, his birthday is at the end of this month... if you dont have any advice, at least tell me how can i move on with him being next to me all the time? thanks a lot! Edited May 13, 2015 by liove
neowulf Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Flirt. How To Flirt ? 9 Effortless Ways To Flirt With A Man Seriously, that's all a woman needs to do. You flirt with him, then you wait to see how he responds. If he's interested (and confident enough) he'll flirt back. If not, he's probably not interested in pursuing anything with you. Or As mentioned above, just take the leap and directly ask him on a date. Men do it all the time. I promise, the rejection won't kill you
Author liove Posted May 14, 2015 Author Posted May 14, 2015 I have to remind you that we are at work so we cannot flirt even though we already kind of do it. So I think that if I flirt, he flirts back and we will be playing like this indefinitely...it is complicated since we are right next to each so If something turns bad, it will be awkward.. And yes, I prefer to be killed than be rejected... So other advice? Maybe how to move on?
madjac74 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Don't mix work and pleasure. There are plenty fish elsewhere. Work romances can get messy and end up making your job miserable or losing it! 1
minime13 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 I have to remind you that we are at work so we cannot flirt even though we already kind of do it. So I think that if I flirt, he flirts back and we will be playing like this indefinitely...it is complicated since we are right next to each so If something turns bad, it will be awkward.. And yes, I prefer to be killed than be rejected... So other advice? Maybe how to move on? Move on. You expect him to initiate what you feel, but won't do it yourself. And, you should never view work as a dating pool. How do you get it out of your mind? Accept that you are not willing to make a move, and take responsibility for that.
Author liove Posted May 14, 2015 Author Posted May 14, 2015 Move on. You expect him to initiate what you feel, but won't do it yourself. And, you should never view work as a dating pool. How do you get it out of your mind? Accept that you are not willing to make a move, and take responsibility for that. i have never viewed work as a dating pool! this one came unexpected and fell for him after knowing him better...before, i didnot even care so the next question is : what are the steps to be made in order to forget about someone you see daily?
Satu Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 i have never viewed work as a dating pool! this one came unexpected and fell for him after knowing him better...before, i didnot even care so the next question is : *what are the steps to be made in order to forget about someone you see daily? *Think rationally about the possible consequences. Forgetting is not possible, but a change of behaviour is definitely possible.
Author liove Posted May 14, 2015 Author Posted May 14, 2015 consequences ? yes i might be able to concentrate on my work if i move on... how can i change my beaviour without being a freek? we are nonetheless co-workers... when i try to ignore him he either start making conversation or leave me alone for a moment thinking that i am too busy and then start again...
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