Gloria25 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Umm... All these threads about men wanting women to be more clear and/or assertive in their signals got me paying more attention on how I approach my latest prey... I notice that I have two modes and need to work on an "in-between"...My modes are "direct" and "nothing". I mean, I don't warm up to asking a guy out and/or letting my interest/attraction known...I'm quick to be like "here's my tel, call me sometime"... I'm trying a more smoother approach right now, but I think my prey is confused..so, I think that I gradually need to build it up before I make a direct move... I mean, I recently I started chatting with him and I wonder if he's saying to himself like "ok, she's been kinda monotone with me and now she's making an effort to talk to me? But, I think I'm getting a reaction, cuz after our little chat, caught him staring...so, I think that's a good sign? So, sorry if I ranted a bit, but I hope I'm doing it right this time...not too direct/fast, but not confusing him at the same time either. Also, I need to be more sweet in my tone...I'm very Katherine Tramell, with is dry and cold...I think I need to be more sweet and feminine when chatting up my prey... Any advice/experiences/suggestions? I mean, this is hard for me..I really have no real interest in men. I just want them for my pleasure. So, it's hard for me to chat them up cuz I'm not really interested in much with them. Plus, I have intimacy issues, so I wanna keep them at a distance...Funny, cuz once I get to know them, I'm as sweet as a big cuddly Rottie 1
gaius Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 You really make me laugh sometimes Gloria. Yes, it helps to pretend you're interested in us a bit. What we have to say, our opinions on things, how our day went. Once you put a little work into that its not that hard to get what you want. Just make yourself available when you want to and if the guy can handle it then he's the right one for you. 2
Author Gloria25 Posted May 13, 2015 Author Posted May 13, 2015 You really make me laugh sometimes Gloria. Yes, it helps to pretend you're interested in us a bit. What we have to say, our opinions on things, how our day went. Once you put a little work into that its not that hard to get what you want. Just make yourself available when you want to and if the guy can handle it then he's the right one for you. Well, it's not just making myself available, it's letting dude know I wanna boink him w/o being too aggressive and w/o confusing him...lol Cuz, I believe in the direct approach...I mean we're all adults here and no need to beat around the bush. But at the same time after that thread we had about that "experiment" of women approaching guys and being upfront and how some guys were uncomfy with that... Hope that better explains my dilemma
gaius Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Well, it's not just making myself available, it's letting dude know I wanna him w/o being too aggressive and w/o confusing him...lol Cuz, I believe in the direct approach...I mean we're all adults here and no need to beat around the bush. But at the same time after that thread we had about that "experiment" of women approaching guys and being upfront and how some guys were uncomfy with that... Hope that better explains my dilemma Some girl started talking about being horny just in a general sense with me and that's all it took. Signal your availability without directly mentioning him and hopefully he'll get the idea, and feel like it was his idea at the same time. 1
Author Gloria25 Posted May 18, 2015 Author Posted May 18, 2015 Some girl started talking about being horny just in a general sense with me and that's all it took. Signal your availability without directly mentioning him and hopefully he'll get the idea, and feel like it was his idea at the same time. Well, I must say I took your sage advice... I made myself "available" and I was excited when he did too!!! At first I wasn't sure if it was just coincidence, and I really wasn't up for chatting at that time, but figured "what the heck". And, we approached, had a casual convo and I wasn't as "direct" as I usually am, but laid out how it would be nice to get to know him better - one on one..... So, he smiled, said some sweet remarks, and we parted ways. So far, he hasn't said "yes" or "no" to an actual meet...so I'm gonna give it time and like you said - let him make the move as now I am clear that I have interest. Also, after our little "chat" I got some "signs" of him showing me what to look forward to and I must say that I'm enjoying what I'm seeing so far... So, gonna keep on playing cool... and sit back and wait, cuz if initially I gave the perception that I was on the fence about him, I'm sure now he's clear that I'm ready to pounce!!! In the meantime, since he's sorta "showing me his", I'm gonna start "showing mines" too I'm very excited about this prey...I think it'll be interesting.
gaius Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Good for you Gloria. Giving me images of a venus flytrap with that post. 1
Author Gloria25 Posted May 19, 2015 Author Posted May 19, 2015 (edited) Good for you Gloria. Giving me images of a venus flytrap with that post. Nah, the visual you should have is me wrapping my legs around him and pulling him in... Eh, but he appears to be quite strong...maybe will be like my last FWB and carry me... lol Edited May 19, 2015 by Gloria25 1
preraph Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Gloria, I think big smiles and neutral-area touching are the best way to convey interest without going too far. 2
Mr Carson Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Gloria Since you're not really interested in a LTR have you thought about, walking up to him, looking him in the eyes, grabbing his manhood and say I need you to boink me NOW! Who are these guys that are afraid of that kind of thing?
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