EX-GF Text Me She Wants To See Me Before I Leave. 2 Weeks NC. SRS Needed!

[trebrah]

So my girl and I broke up about 4 weeks ago, almost a month! The break up was easy, but not mutual, meaning she wanted the breakup and I didn't, so I kind of had no choice. I didn't put up a fight other than trying to explain to her that it can work and I love her etc. So, she said the reason for the break up is that she felt that we didn't mesh well together and we were different people, which is total horse sh*t to me because 6 months of dating and you just one day pull that out? But, I am also leaving for the USAF in 26 days and she knew this also, she said she'd stick around and wait for me to come back if I do and would be a supportive girlfriend. SO, it's been 2 weeks since I've contacted her and within those 2 weeks, last week actually, she contacted me with some small talk that I never replied back to. She said "Just to prove a point, I told you my boss would fire me, she did lol Just thought I'd tell you".. Now why would she care to tell me that if SHE broke up with me? Why does she care to inform me of her life if she was tired of me?... So this afternoon she JUST text "Can I see you before you leave in June?" I'm sort of in a daze because IDK what to say or do.. I mean, I still have feels for the girl, I loved her and all and I'm thinking she's realized what a mistake she's made (be mindful she hasn't said anything like "I MISS YOU SO MUCH, I'M SORRY".. But, what how will that go if I do see her?? What are her intentions? I mean, these 2 weeks NC have been good of clearing her out my mind, but if I see her again and then leave off for AF won't she be all I think of again? IDK...

[Simon Phoenix]

She wants to alleviate guilt. Don't meet. Keep trucking in No Contact.

[Twigyy]

She's not looking for you because she wants you back. She just want to see if you're fine so she doesn't feel bad or guilty. This is the most selfish thing someone could do. If you said that you did NC why is it possible for her to text you.. Better block her number and do proper NC.

[trebrah]

She wants to alleviate guilt. Don't meet. Keep trucking in No Contact.

 

Okay, you're right. I read all the "NC Guides", should I only break it if she is begging back? Or just not at all? Because I know she probably creeps on my instagram and stuff so she's probably feeling regretful IDK. Why do you say she wants to alleviate guilt? Because she broke up with me in such an important time of my life?

[trebrah]

She's not looking for you because she wants you back. She just want to see if you're fine so she doesn't feel bad or guilty. This is the most selfish thing someone could do. If you said that you did NC why is it possible for her to text you.. Better block her number and do proper NC.

 

Dang, you're totally right man, it all makes sense. Right, she wants to see if I'm okay and feeling fine and sh*t, this was my first serious relationship BTW, so it's all new to me the games and tricks girls play. Well, at least I know this wasn't a call for reconciliation on her behalf, just wants to raise guilt off her part. Well, she should go F herself. I'll stick with NC now that I understand.

[aloneinaz]

Listen friend.. She kicked you out of her life. She said "I don't want you around anymore and I want to meet and screw new people".. So, do you owe this person anything? I'd think not.

 

F-her! Block her number on your phone. Give her what she requested. You to leave her life. Disappear and go enjoy our new career in the Air Force! There are plenty of good gals out there and you'll find one who NEVER think of losing you.

[sandylee1]

Okay, you're right. I read all the "NC Guides", should I only break it if she is begging back? Or just not at all? Because I know she probably creeps on my instagram and stuff so she's probably feeling regretful IDK. Why do you say she wants to alleviate guilt? Because she broke up with me in such an important time of my life?

 

She ended it and with you leaving the country soon, there's no reason to contact her. Best you go away as a single guy and do what you want. Ignore her and any begging she may do.

[Simon Phoenix]

Okay, you're right. I read all the "NC Guides", should I only break it if she is begging back? Or just not at all? Because I know she probably creeps on my instagram and stuff so she's probably feeling regretful IDK. Why do you say she wants to alleviate guilt? Because she broke up with me in such an important time of my life?

 

Since you're leaving in two weeks, not at all IMO. And her creeping your Instagram doesn't mean she wants you back. It might mean she misses you, which is natural, but missing you does not mean she wants you back.

 

And she wants to alleviate guilt so she doesn't feel like she's the "bad guy" for breaking up with you. If you tell her it's ok, you've absolved her. If you tell her off, then she feels better because you're clearly a jerk in her mind. If you are a weepy, pathetic sap, she'll feel sorry for you but be disgusted by you at the same time. None of those scenarios help you out at all.

[trebrah]

Listen friend.. She kicked you out of her life. She said "I don't want you around anymore and I want to meet and screw new people".. So, do you owe this person anything? I'd think not.

 

F-her! Block her number on your phone. Give her what she requested. You to leave her life. Disappear and go enjoy our new career in the Air Force! There are plenty of good gals out there and you'll find one who NEVER think of losing you.

 

Thank you so much, I will countinue NC and forget her, she blocked me out her life YOU'RE RIGHT FU*K THAT GIRL! I was good to her too, could of brought her along with me in the AF! haha Thanks man, she's ignored!

[trebrah]

Since you're leaving in two weeks, not at all IMO. And her creeping your Instagram doesn't mean she wants you back. It might mean she misses you, which is natural, but missing you does not mean she wants you back.

 

And she wants to alleviate guilt so she doesn't feel like she's the "bad guy" for breaking up with you. If you tell her it's ok, you've absolved her. If you tell her off, then she feels better because you're clearly a jerk in her mind. If you are a weepy, pathetic sap, she'll feel sorry for you but be disgusted by you at the same time. None of those scenarios help you out at all.

 

AHHH, that's true Phoenix, you're a genius, either situation I'll be a loser and she'll win, so the cards I'm dealt right now I'm winning and they only way for me to continue to win is to keep NC and IGNORE her!! YES, got it bro! It's just breadcrumbs she's throwing at me. Thanks!

[aloneinaz]

AHHH, that's true Phoenix, you're a genius, either situation I'll be a loser and she'll win, so the cards I'm dealt right now I'm winning and they only way for me to continue to win is to keep NC and IGNORE her!! YES, got it bro! It's just breadcrumbs she's throwing at me. Thanks!

 

Think of it this way.. She ended the relationship. She made that call. Now, you can take the power back by NOT communicating with her what-so-ever. Block her number, email, social sites. Again, Disappear from her planet. You then regain all the control and power post break up. She thinks she has you wrapped around her finger and views you as a "fall back" plan.. Her hearing NOTHING from you or about you will end that view quickly..

 

Everyone HATES to be ignored, especially by people we thought we controlled or would never ignore us.. Karma is a bitch..

[dave_1966]

Every reply here is correct, she's trying to alleviate her guilt. By not replying AT ALL you regain power which will really p!ss her off. Stick with no contact unless she phones you in tears begging for you back, and even if she did that make her work for your time. Watch some Corey Wayne on YouTube as well, it's quite interesting. Take care of yourself in the USAF.

[trebrah]

Think of it this way.. She ended the relationship. She made that call. Now, you can take the power back by NOT communicating with her what-so-ever. Block her number, email, social sites. Again, Disappear from her planet. You then regain all the control and power post break up. She thinks she has you wrapped around her finger and views you as a "fall back" plan.. Her hearing NOTHING from you or about you will end that view quickly..

 

Everyone HATES to be ignored, especially by people we thought we controlled or would never ignore us.. Karma is a bitch..

 

Yeah, that's very true. I blocked her off everything, even my instagram so she can't creep and see what I'm up to and all. It's her lost you're right. I'm learning though, I'm a fall back plan in case something doesn't go right she can go back to me, F that. So that must be what's happening now, she's gettin irritated that she's contacted me 2 times now during this NC period and I gave no response like I don't care and moved on. Perfect! Thanks so much, it makes me feel so much better reading all these helpful advice.

[trebrah]

Every reply here is correct, she's trying to alleviate her guilt. By not replying AT ALL you regain power which will really p!ss her off. Stick with no contact unless she phones you in tears begging for you back, and even if she did that make her work for your time. Watch some Corey Wayne on YouTube as well, it's quite interesting. Take care of yourself in the USAF.

 

Thanks Dave, I sure am excited to leave this place and leave it and her in the past. But, right, if I don't contact her, it'll really get under her skin because she probably thinks she has me on a leash, ready to come back to her. But, she let me go, so I have to uphold her decision and give her that much, by not giving in. It'll probably kill her like a week before I leave and I still haven't replied, she'll probably blow me up, I'm calling it. Thanks man!