Clarkwg Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 I'm trying to do LC, as we have a child full NC is not possible. I have her blocked on all forms but she can leave a voicemail for emergencies. Anyway I just recieved a pic message from one of her families phones which she has sent & it's an invitation to mummy & daddy to go to see my child singing at nursery next week. The hand writing is hers & not something a teacher has written by accident. I have not replied to the txt & i won't be doing. The thing is I don't know whether or not to attend. The biggest part of me says I am still angry with my ex about how she purposefully hurt me & used & emotionally abused me even after we split & I don't actually want to spend any time in her company however, a bit of me says my child is the priority in my life & if I was to go it is for my child that I would be going for & not my ex. She is in a new relationship so I really do not know why she has sent me this as she didn't even consult me when looking at nursaries to send her to & didn't tell me she even had a nursery until after a month of her attending yet now she is sending me this. It is not 100% essential that I attend but feel I should put our differences aside for my daughter sake. What do I do????
Satu Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 I would maintain basic civility and go. It's an opportunity to see your child taking a step forward in life, and you deserve to be there. Each moment comes only once. 1
dangerbang Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Can't be easy, but you're in a difficult situation here. I guess you will have to go and be as civil as possible. You'll get used to this sooner or later, it's going to be a hard process but there's no way around it. Lots of separated parents are there for their kids, and if you can do a good job you can be proud of yourself. 1
brokengirl85 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 go!! It's your child!! Think about him, please!! 2
sandylee1 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Can you have yourself as another contact at the nursery and see if they can notify of these things directly.
Author Clarkwg Posted May 14, 2015 Author Posted May 14, 2015 In addition to the invitation yesterday about half hour later I also recieved a call from her (someone else's phone) asking me the answer to a question on a form that she was filling in, I answered the question & ended the call. Then 1 hour later my mum got a call from her (1st time in months) saying she was just ringing so my daughter could say hi to her. This lot doesn't seem like coincidence that we hear nothing for ages then 3 different contacts in an afternoon. I don't know the motive or trigger behind this but I do know I will not be getting drawn in to her manipulative games, not now & not ever.
Ruby65 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Hmmm.... nursery school recital? Meh. Not exactly high school/college graduation level importance, and not something you or your child is likely to remember the rest of your lives. Speaking as a mom, I say if it causes you any emotional distress just skip it. Honestly, there are going to be so many more meaningful milestones in your child's life! Pick your battles. 1
Moley87 Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Ruby is wise, personally wouldn't go and not something which will be that important compared to later things in life On the other hand if you don't go it may cause issues for future events Can you go but not be in the vicinity of your ex?
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