EmotionallyUnstable Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Hi all, First time here, and if I am starting a thread, it's because I honestly don't know how to feel regarding my case. So first, I met this young woman at a bar, and we had this constant vision crossings. A week later, I start talking to her and I figure she likes me so I invite her to dinner with me. I make an effort and prepare the supper. She loves it, ends up we kiss during the evening. She's a very busy woman and I get that. We agree to set the boundaries and what we look for in another person. I fit, she fits, it's all good. She also says the she feels empty since her last relationship, that she needs time and I get that too. I don't want to push anything she doesn't want. So far, the person I see is someone that has been through a lot and I really like who she is. Reason I am posting, is because I feel insecure as I feel any day, she could just cancel out on me. I don't know how to react to this kind of situation, as I've never been into one before. I find it unclear if she wants anything to do with me... Thanks for helping...
central Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 There is no point in worry about it, having insecurities or doubts. She accepted you invitation and apparently had a good time. It will move ahead or it won't, but the more confidence you have and the less insecurity and clinginess, the likelier it is that she will respect you and develop feelings for you. Bottom line: you will each discover that you are compatible, or one of you will find that you are not for some reason. Respect that, and yourself, and you'll be fine.
smackie9 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 If she can't give you what you truly want, then don't stay in this situation. Hoping for something will cause you anxiety, taking away any satisfaction you have. Caution: you are a rebound, and being used to help her go through the healing process, which results in a breakup.
elaine567 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 She also says the she feels empty since her last relationship, that she needs time and I get that too. She is warning you off getting too involved with her, as she isn't ready. If she WAS ready to move on from her past relationship, she would never have mentioned anything about needing time. Reason I am posting, is because I feel insecure as I feel any day, she could just cancel out on me. You are right to be concerned. Rebound alert! Be careful. All the above has nothing to do with how old she is. BUT How old is she? and How old are you? as that may also be relevant here?
Author EmotionallyUnstable Posted May 13, 2015 Author Posted May 13, 2015 Both 23, pretty young still...
elaine567 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Both 23, pretty young still... Ok, so how long was her last relationship, was it pretty serious, many years, engagement, talk of marriage maybe?
Author EmotionallyUnstable Posted May 13, 2015 Author Posted May 13, 2015 Her last and longest relationship lasted 1 year, and she was ready to move in with him, when he annouced that he didnt love her for the last 6 months.
phineas Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Would like to point out she can't be that busy if you've seen her out at a bar two weeks in a row plus had dinner with her. If she likes you she will make time for you. If she doesn't, she won't and you should move on.
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