krunchers Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 my ex and i have been separated for 6 months. we've been still spending time with each other. Till one day she said she met someone on the personals. well to try to make a long story short. She is still seeing this person. My ex went to go see her last weekend and before that we had discussed about moving in again trying to start over. Well, she got back and said she still wants to continue this relationship with the other person and still see me. See the thing is she thinks she's this big player now because we both want her. also what shes doing is telling the other person different things on what is going on between us jsut to keep them in contact. Well i had called this person and told her some stuff. My ex then says to me that she doesn't love me anymore and she loves them. Now they only been talking for 6 weeks and us 7 years. Did she really mean what she said(she was drunk when she said it) or was she mad because i called the other person. I dont want to loose her again. Ive been up and down these past days and dont know what to do. I'm not very good with breaking up. also when i ahd found out that my ex started seeing someone else. well online. i freaked out then she didn't talk to me for about 3 weeks then contacted me for exchange of some articles. Thats when we started hanging out again and she said she was still inlove with me. also she told that to the person shes talking to online.
Merin Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 Is your GF/EXGF Whatever she is seeing another Woman now? You keep referring to the other person in question as "Her" I guess I shouldn't presume anything anyway... are you a Female as well? Just trying to understand what the deal-e-o is...
Author krunchers Posted April 22, 2005 Author Posted April 22, 2005 I'm a women. I guess she is with the other person. the thing is she says shes single and she doesn't want to be with anyone. Well when i talked to the girl she was like shocked that she said that.
Merin Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 Originally posted by krunchers I'm a women. I guess she is with the other person. the thing is she says shes single and she doesn't want to be with anyone. Well when i talked to the girl she was like shocked that she said that. Oh okay... Well regardless.. IMO your EXGF is playing some mind games with both of you (You and the other Girl involved here) Seems she isn't being honest with either one of you... While I don't know if it was your place to call this other Girl in question because technically the 2 of you (you and the EXGF) were not really seeing each other exclusively from what you've said, but were more hangin out again with the possibility of maybe getting back together.. I also can understand why you did so... you felt you were being lied to. At this point even though it isn't probably what you want to do.. I would leave this Girl alone... it seems the more you chase after her the further away she runs... I would tell her this... IF or WHEN She makes up her mind as to what she wants and who she wishes to spend her time with to let you know and IF you're still available you'll let her know.
Author krunchers Posted April 22, 2005 Author Posted April 22, 2005 Do you think the other girl will hang in there after what i told her? I just wonder if she's thinking about me. How can you one day say your inlove with me . Then the next you dont. I dont know if the alcohol was the one talking. she doesn't handle her alcohol that well either.
Merin Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 Originally posted by krunchers Do you think the other girl will hang in there after what i told her? I just wonder if she's thinking about me. How can you one day say your inlove with me . Then the next you dont. I dont know if the alcohol was the one talking. she doesn't handle her alcohol that well either. Bottomline IMO.. when you love someone REALLY love them you don't treat them bad, you don't take chances and risk loosing them, you don't lie to them AND you don't use them... It seems to me your EXGF has done all of this and more.... Do I think things will work out with the other Girl in question... I don't know but I would say it will fizzle out fast.. reason being... your EXGF met her online and jumped right into something fast with someone she really doesn't know... YOU deserve better than this...
Author krunchers Posted April 22, 2005 Author Posted April 22, 2005 That is very true.. I told her that we've been through alot in our 7 years together ,and we always worked it out. There were times she thought I cheated on her and I never did, but she never believed me. I really thought this was going to work out this time. The things we talked about. I Just don't know what is going through her head these days. The other girl to she should also see what is going on and just leave before she gets hurt also. I've been trying to take it day by day. Its hard. I have my good days and then theres those bad days. Thanks so much for all your advice. ill let you know what happens:) you can even contact me on the side if you wish. Thanks again.
Merin Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 Originally posted by krunchers That is very true.. I told her that we've been through alot in our 7 years together ,and we always worked it out. There were times she thought I cheated on her and I never did, but she never believed me. I really thought this was going to work out this time. The things we talked about. I Just don't know what is going through her head these days. The other girl to she should also see what is going on and just leave before she gets hurt also. I've been trying to take it day by day. Its hard. I have my good days and then theres those bad days. Thanks so much for all your advice. ill let you know what happens:) you can even contact me on the side if you wish. Thanks again. You're Welcome... it will all work out how it's suppose to:)
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