cottom Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Went on a date on sat night, was decent, the full story is in "hot girl in gym: my story" thread. Today i messaged her saying "hey want to go out after the gym tonight? Go for drinks but not stay out till 3am this time :') x " Her reply: "I can't sorry I have college and won't be able to go gym either xx" Okay normally she doesnt go gym on wednesday at night, and i knew she had college but thought daytime but night sounds more likely when i think about it and she only ever puts 1 x, in fact started on 0 xs then 1 x and now 2 xs in that message? Maybe a typo ill have to get the reactiom from my reply, but what do i reply????
Gary S Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 It's easier to negotiate a date over the phone, I would suggest that next time. She rejected you - she did not counteroffer another day. 2
PegNosePete Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 "How about another time? When are you free?" If she doesn't come back with a specific date/time then move on. But I wouldn't expect too much since that reply is pretty much a rejection.
DivorcedDad123 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 IMO, you asked too soon after the Saturday night date. Wednesday is too soon. Shoulda asked her today for a weekend night date. I'd just follow up with " ok. Have a good day!" Then, let her come back with a counter plan for a date. If she doesnt, you go do your thing this weekend. Dont check in with her. Don't text her. If she's interested, you'll know soon enough.
Author cottom Posted May 13, 2015 Author Posted May 13, 2015 I dont want to reply with some beta male response asking her when and what time and i dont want to reply with "okay how about this date" cause that seems like i want her andeill fit hee in whenever im free
d0nnivain Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Divorced Dad -- Read The Rules. He's supposed to ask on Wednesday. However he's supposed to ask on Wednesday for a weekend date. The girl is supposed to reject all requests for a date the day of. cottom -- because she didn't give you an alternative time, I would interpret that as low interest. The next time you see her at the gym you can ask once more for another date but give her some advanced notice
Gary S Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Asking on Wednesday was perfect... he waited five days. Don't ask for weekend dates. Women are usually busy with friends and family. This is a ginormous tip.
DivorcedDad123 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 He asked on Wednesday morning for a WEDNESDAY date. That's a no-go and shows that he's too eager, and puts her on the spot to make a decision on short notice. Who can do that? People who have no life. It's been less than 4 days and he's already asking to see her again,today. 2
katiegrl Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 ***He asked on Wednesday morning for a WEDNESDAY date. *** That's a no-go and shows that he's too eager, and puts her on the spot to make a decision on short notice. Who can do that? People who have no life. It's been less than 4 days and he's already asking to see her again,today. Agree with DD...and it is perfectly understandable that she already had plans and could not make it... Giving her the benefit of the doubt, many women don't know they're *supposed* to suggest an alternative day...lest the man presume she is not interested.. My advice would be to not respond... her text did not require one. Wait a few ....see if she contacts you. If she doesn't ask her out one more time, but make sure you give her at least three days notice. But for right now DO NOTHING. To Gary --- read posts more carefully.
Gary S Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 That's correct, if you call on a Wednesday, you ask for a Thursday, Sunday, or Monday date.
Author cottom Posted May 13, 2015 Author Posted May 13, 2015 I replied with an "Okay have fun with those awkward 16 year olds xx" as in inside joke to a comment she made saturday - she is doing a college night class on sports massage and got a really awkward shy 16 year old the other day. As a reference the last time i asked her to do something when we mentioned we should do something that weekend, this time her answer seems a hell of a lot more blunt... 1 May 21:10 Me and ad are at mine now were gonna get a taxi about 11 o clock, you still fancy coming for 1 or 2 in slug or apres for a bit? Be a nice chill after a long work week x We can grab you in the taxi if your up for it were gonna go past anyway x 1 May 22:50 I'm out with the family then going back to my sisters after , can't tonight but defiantly another night ! X sorry x > compared to 7 hours ago Want to hang out tonight after gym without staying out till 3am? go for a drink in sol? X 3 hours ago I can't sorry I have college and won't be able to go gym either xx
fitnessfan365 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Like I said in the other thread, she was clearly interested at one point. Went out with you, got physical with you multiple times and playfully flirted asking who your ideal type of guy is, etc.. Then she initiated a kiss good night on top of that. Not to mention her wanting to be touched by you at the gym the next time you saw her. In addition to her giving you eye contact to come over and ask her out for another date in person. But you just left her hanging. Now you're trying to ask her out repeatedly by text message when asking her out in person before is what got her to go out with you. Should have stuck with what worked. That's why she has lost interest and is blowing you off. She's even saying that she won't see you at the gym. So you definitely had a shot up until recently, but you missed the window. I'd walk away and give the girl space. Don't interact with her at the gym, and don't text her. If she approaches you, ask her out once more in person right to her face. Otherwise, I'd say forget about her, and learn from your mistakes to date someone else.
katiegrl Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 (edited) I replied with an "Okay have fun with those awkward 16 year olds xx" as in inside joke to a comment she made saturday - she is doing a college night class on sports massage and got a really awkward shy 16 year old the other day. As a reference the last time i asked her to do something when we mentioned we should do something that weekend, this time her answer seems a hell of a lot more blunt... 1 May 21:10 Me and ad are at mine now were gonna get a taxi about 11 o clock, you still fancy coming for 1 or 2 in slug or apres for a bit? Be a nice chill after a long work week x We can grab you in the taxi if your up for it were gonna go past anyway x 1 May 22:50 I'm out with the family then going back to my sisters after , can't tonight but defiantly another night ! X sorry x > compared to 7 hours ago Want to hang out tonight after gym without staying out till 3am? go for a drink in sol? X 3 hours ago I can't sorry I have college and won't be able to go gym either xx Well on the positive side, she did add two kisses at the end of her text (xx)...which I highly doubt she would have done if she were completely blowing you off... She sounded stressed in that text....try not to over-think it. Wait a few, then contact her again and ask her out. If she continues to make excuses, okay then you call it a day. But don't judge her from that one text, you asked last minute and she sounded busy and stressed. And again she did add the xx at the end = good sign... Edited May 14, 2015 by katiegrl
joseb Posted May 14, 2015 Posted May 14, 2015 Divorced Dad -- Read The Rules. He's supposed to ask on Wednesday. However he's supposed to ask on Wednesday for a weekend date. The girl is supposed to reject all requests for a date the day of. Wow all these rules?! Where do I get my copy? I can see though asking for a same day date with someone you are not already dating might be pushing it.
Author cottom Posted May 14, 2015 Author Posted May 14, 2015 I see a sort of mistake, seeing her sat night/sun monring , gym monday together, spin class tuesday where i kinda blanked her tbh, and then asking to see her wedsday aswell hmmm take a step back let her wonder where i went? i most likely see her tonight though in the gym, shall i ask her out there for a night? We are supposed to be going to a drinks with the gym lot tomorrow too, so shall i avoid her at the gym tonight and turn up tomorrow and invite her for an after party at mine?
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