Thermals Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 So I met someone today and I'm going to ask her out on a date, but I'm trying to tread lightly this time around. The attraction was instant, she flirted with me and I flirted back. I could almost lean in and kiss her and it would have felt just right. But now I'm feeling a little anxious. On the one hand I'm starting to second guess every move I make after http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/526364-what-happened. On the other hand I normally like to follow my gut feeling on things like this. Suppose the date goes well and things escalate quickly, do I let her get into my pants or do I explain that I'd like to get to know her better? What if that makes her lose interest?
todreaminblue Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Dont be forced into anything that goes against what you feel is right that includes sex....if its not right for you ...it isnt right.....just like a woman has the right to say no so do you have the same rights without feeling coerced or a lesser person for not having sex....thats negging in my opinion...manipulation to a degree............if she backs off because you wont have sex with her...she is not really interested in you long term....good luck..and be true to you.....deb
David87 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Suppose the date goes well and things escalate quickly, do I let her get into my pants Of course you do......don't think twice about that.
Redhead14 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 So I met someone today and I'm going to ask her out on a date, but I'm trying to tread lightly this time around. The attraction was instant, she flirted with me and I flirted back. I could almost lean in and kiss her and it would have felt just right. But now I'm feeling a little anxious. On the one hand I'm starting to second guess every move I make after http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/526364-what-happened. On the other hand I normally like to follow my gut feeling on things like this. Suppose the date goes well and things escalate quickly, do I let her get into my pants or do I explain that I'd like to get to know her better? What if that makes her lose interest? Be upfront and honest always. If she loses interest because she couldn't bed you, so be it. It just means you two weren't really on the same page. If it appears that she wants to become intimate, you tell her you are attracted to her in that way, but that you are looking for a long-term, committed relationship with someone in the future and that you'd like to wait for a while before becoming intimate. She should understand and respect that. As long as you at least confirm that she's attractive in that way to you, she won't be "hurt" or offended. Sometimes a woman will want to be intimate and is refused and she thinks it's because the man didn't find her attractive enough.
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