mongo Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 anybody ever done this? theres one local thing here that does this for 30s folks. theres a fee to pay. im not sure its worth my time tho. i would think most women there are looking for men with more awesome careers. mines not stellar at the moment. i have a full time job and im like 70% of the way to my engineering degree. the reason im looking at this is, im done with online dating. ive done it for 7 years. it sucks, its depressing, you send out messages all day to get a few replies which go nowhere. i had one date thru ok cupid 2 weeks ago. never heard from her again. i cant do it anymore cuz its hurting my confidence. im terrible at cold approaching women in public in random places. i need something where i can meet women who actually want to meet someone.
40 Fonzarelli Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 I've done it. It's actually pretty fun. I would do it often but it's a bit expensive. You really have nothing to lose.
johndoe2 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 I've done it for free a few times and I would only do it if it's free personally. Admittedly I had more success than with other things like online dating. But it depends a lot. A couple times I got a few dates, one of which went somewhere; a couple other times I got nothing. Once I met a couple women who I got along with and shared interests with more than any women I've ever met, and neither of them checked me off. So your mileage may vary I guess.
neowulf Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Just another tool I guess. In some respects, it seems like a great way to meet people who might normally not be in your radar. On the other, it's an expensive way to be forced into a social situation with people you might not have a thing in common with. So I guess it really depends on the attitude to go in with. Personally, I take a little bit to warm to people, so the idea of having to be "on" with each person, in rapid succession is kind of daunting.
d0nnivain Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 I wanted to do it & paid my money. It kept getting canceled because there weren't enough men. They said no refunds but after 6 months of no event I finally wrote to them & told them I didn't think they had the ability to deliver what I paid for. They sent my money back. In the few minutes you have to chat, I suppose career will come up. It's an ice breaker Q. Come up with a pithy, vague stock answer. It doesn't matter that you say the same thing to every woman. You also need to come up with an interesting, not boring cliche, open ended Q to ask them. Mine was going to be be How do they feel about roller coasters? I happen to like them so I thought the answer would tell me something about the man's risk tolerance. If you are shy this may be an excellent way to force you to talk to strangers. Go into as practice for the real world. Even if you don't get a date but you do get more comfortable with your small talk, it will be money well spent. 1
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