smg15 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Met up with this woman from craigslist after work for drinks and we were sitting outside since it was a nice day. Then some random woman just appears out of nowhere and approaches me while I am talking to my date and says....."can I ask you a question? I'm like-"OMG is she serious" I was like....."don; you see us talking?" The lady had some kind of clipboard in her hand but regardless I didn't think anyone could be that stupid to interrupt two people having a conversation. My date didn't seemed bother by it but I could not hide my true feelings because I really wanted to be really nasty. Anyway we carried on with the date but that was totally unexpected Ladies just think about if you were on a date with a guy and some random woman approaches HIM and not both of yall togther. WEIRD
Phoe Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 No, it's not a pass to be rude. Just politely let the lady know you two are busy and carry on. I'd be very put off if a man acted nasty to someone while on a date with me. I'd be very embarassed, honestly. 16
PogoStick Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Your feelings on this are horrible. If you get so upset over something so small then it doesn't speak well for the real challenges you'll face in life. Hopefully your date didn't pick up on it or she would have been instantly turned off. 1
Jessie1231 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 It seems she was doing her job, whatever that is, so no it's not rude. If a guy I was with was rude to the woman asking questions, I would have a problem.
Author smg15 Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 It seems she was doing her job, whatever that is, so no it's not rude. If a guy I was with was rude to the woman asking questions, I would have a problem. So if some HOT girl approach your date and IGNORED you, that would be cool??????
Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 So if some HOT girl approach your date and IGNORED you, that would be cool?????? The fact she is hot is irrelevant. She was doing a survey and you were the person she wanted to speak to, no big deal.
Jessie1231 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 So if some HOT girl approach your date and IGNORED you, that would be cool?????? Yes, if this "hot girl" is holding a clipboard and presumably working, what is the problem with that?
Author smg15 Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 Yes, if this "hot girl" is holding a clipboard and presumably working, what is the problem with that? why didn't she say "can I ask yall a question?"
Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 why didn't she say "can I ask yall a question?" You will never know because you were too rude to listen to what she wanted. Maybe her question was aimed at men only. 6
Jessie1231 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 why didn't she say "can I ask yall a question?" Because maybe her assignment was to ask males a question about their experience there? Have you never been approached by someone doing a survey? Often these people are paid by the number of people they have participate in the survey so it is never ever an issue.
Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 smg15: When you're out on a date be nice to everyone around you. Women are very sensitive to the way you treat other people while you're with them. 3
Author smg15 Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 smg15: When you're out on a date be nice to everyone around you. Women are very sensitive to the way you treat other people while you're with them. All I did was turn around with a annoyed look and said.."not now we are talking"
lana-banana Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Why would you have a "pass" to be rude to someone who's just doing their job (or perhaps even volunteering)? Why isn't it enough to say "no thank you" and let the lady go on her way? She already has a very difficult task and is probably ignored by most of the people she approaches. If you were in her shoes, would you want to be treated poorly? My date didn't seemed bother by it but I could not hide my true feelings because I really wanted to be really nasty. This is just disturbing. Why do you want to be "really nasty" to someone who isn't causing you any harm? Why do you want to upset her and ruin her day? Why do you feel a desire to hurt people? Honestly, you sound unhinged. Normal people do not sit around wishing they could be cruel to complete strangers. 2
Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 All I did was turn around with a annoyed look and said.."not now we are talking" That's rude. Really you don't think that's lacking mannerism ??
Author smg15 Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 Why would you have a "pass" to be rude to someone who's just doing their job (or perhaps even volunteering)? Why isn't it enough to say "no thank you" and let the lady go on her way? She already has a very difficult task and is probably ignored by most of the people she approaches. If you were in her shoes, would you want to be treated poorly? This is just disturbing. Why do you want to be "really nasty" to someone who isn't causing you any harm? Why do you want to upset her and ruin her day? Why do you feel a desire to hurt people? Honestly, you sound unhinged. Normal people do not sit around wishing they could be cruel to complete strangers. Because she should have had enough sense to see that two people were out on a date and approached someone else.
Gaeta Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 Because she should have had enough sense to see that two people were out on a date and approached someone else. Are you antisocial or something? Do you suffer from something that keeps you from feeling empathy? 1
Author smg15 Posted May 13, 2015 Author Posted May 13, 2015 That's rude. Really you don't think that's lacking mannerism ?? You have to understand that I was thinking my date was glad I did that because I wanted to focus my attention on her. It really bothers me when other woman approach me when they see out with another woman. And if a man had approached her the same way I would said....."excuse me don't you see us talking?"
CarrieT Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 OP, if I had been on a first date with you and I witnessed you treating a complete stranger who was trying to do their job with contempt and rudeness, there would not have been a second date. 7
neowulf Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 "Being the bigger person" <= That's the way you show yourself to be a man of quality. You keep your cool, you're pleasant. You maintain *your* standards, even if others around you choose to lower theirs. Yep, ok. Lets assume for a second she was being rude. That doesn't give you a "pass" to be rude back. That's you just allowing yourself to be dragged down to their level.
Jessie1231 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 OP, if I had been on a first date with you and I witnessed you treating a complete stranger who was trying to do their job with contempt and rudeness, there would not have been a second date. Exactly. If the woman with you has any sense, there won't be a second date. Learn how to be nice to people. 1
Gaeta Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 You have to understand that I was thinking my date was glad I did that because I wanted to focus my attention on her. It really bothers me when other woman approach me when they see out with another woman. And if a man had approached her the same way I would said....."excuse me don't you see us talking?" Listen, you are seriously lacking in basic social skills and basic respectful manners toward other human beings. 'other women' are not all out to get you, cause you don't sound like a price right now let me tell you. When you are out and about people will address you for different reasons whether it's to get directions or to fill a survey. If someone comes and approaches your date than you let HER handle it as she sees fit. It's not up to you to decide who she can and cannot speak with. One day you will do that and she will happen to know the person and you will look like a real idiot. If I were out with you and I'd witnessed you being impolite to anyone or I'd witnessed you addressing anyone wanting to talk to ME, the date would not end nicely for you. 2
Author smg15 Posted May 13, 2015 Author Posted May 13, 2015 Are you antisocial or something? Do you suffer from something that keeps you from feeling empathy? far from anti-social
Author smg15 Posted May 13, 2015 Author Posted May 13, 2015 Listen, you are seriously lacking in basic social skills and basic respectful manners toward other human beings. 'other women' are not all out to get you, cause you don't sound like a price right now let me tell you. When you are out and about people will address you for different reasons whether it's to get directions or to fill a survey. If someone comes and approaches your date than you let HER handle it as she sees fit. It's not up to you to decide who she can and cannot speak with. One day you will do that and she will happen to know the person and you will look like a real idiot. If I were out with you and I'd witnessed you being impolite to anyone or I'd witnessed you addressing anyone wanting to talk to ME, the date would not end nicely for you. You maybe right because if you didn't see a issue with some dude approaching you, I would have ended the date and left. You would have made me think you were attracted to him especially if we was on a first date.
Phoe Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 You maybe right because if you didn't see a issue with some dude approaching you, I would have ended the date and left. You would have made me think you were attracted to him especially if we was on a first date. LOL. We're out on a date and just so happens my male cousin comes up. You're gonna pitch a fit and take off because I acknowledged him? 4
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