Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Our relationship was relatively short, 6 months, but it was all I wanted, he was all I wanted. We had no arguments, no different, he just left the country. He left 1 year ago. I moved on and dated plenty but still, every single day, I have a thought for him. Just wondering if it's normal.
DivorcedDad123 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yes. There's no time limit on feelings,but it's always time that helps the most. Everyone's is different. 1
Zapbasket Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Absolutely it's "normal" to think of people we care about, regardless of whether they're part of our daily lives or not. It doesn't mean you are hung up on the person, not moving forward with your life. Though I would ask, if indeed the only thing keeping you apart is distance and you still love him, what's keeping you from being with him if you both are what the other wants?
Author Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 We were suppose to do this together. He was going to come back in a year. After 2 months gone he wrote me a letter telling me it was too hard and he could not concentrate on his work and he felt the situation was unfair to me and I deserved better.
erklat Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Guilt relieving bnllsyit. He found someone else there. Yes, its normal. But more often you miss the way they made you feel at that point in time. 1
Author Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 It is possible he met someone. I would prefer if he didn't pop up in my mind so often.
erklat Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 My ex pops into mine too. But I know it's the way I felt then that I miss and not her because she's not a very good woman and she's practically a stranger to me now. You deserve better line gave him away. Everyone does things first with their own wellbeing first.
Author Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 Here's the funny thing. When he told me he was leaving for a whole year and we planned on keeping in touch, visiting and all, people were outraged that he would ask me to put my life on hold for him after only 6 months dating. When he decided it was too much to ask me and ended it then people were again outraged that he did so, because if he really loved me he would have done the long distance thing. What ever he did he was wrong in the eyes of every body. If he kept the relationship going he was being unfair, if he ended it he again was unfair.
Kamille Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Here's the funny thing. When he told me he was leaving for a whole year and we planned on keeping in touch, visiting and all, people were outraged that he would ask me to put my life on hold for him after only 6 months dating. When he decided it was too much to ask me and ended it then people were again outraged that he did so, because if he really loved me he would have done the long distance thing. What ever he did he was wrong in the eyes of every body. If he kept the relationship going he was being unfair, if he ended it he again was unfair. What matters is what you think - not what everyone else says. What do you think about his decision to leave and his subsequent decision to end things?
CheckeredGlasses Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I had a very similar situation to the one you're having TC. Had a 5 month relationship with a lady who was getting ready to move to go to school. We never got into any fights, met each others family, had amazing times together. She asked me to take a road trip across the states with her in order to get to her new town which I agreed too. Man was that road trip awesome! Saw a bunch of new and amazing things got to our destination safe and sound. I take a plane back home and everything seemed alright. Communication was great the first month and half and then I started noticing some changes in her mannerisms. I tried to tell myself that it was because of school but I knew deep down it was something else. One night we're talking and she tells me she's struggling with the whole LDR thing and we discussed things that we mutually agreed would help her get through this time. I asked her again how she was feeling a week later and she still said she was struggling with the whole thing for different reasons. In that moment, I knew that there was nothing I could do to fix it and after about another week we chatted and she said she didn't think it would work out. My guess? She found somebody down there that she's interested in. I will never contact her, never check her fb or her ig. I still think about her everyday... and every day I work towards eradicating all emotions where she's concerned. No love, no hatred, no regret. TLDR: If your bf and my gf thought we were worth it, the distance wouldn't have mattered; they would have fought for us. My advice is to mourn, pick yourself up, and never ever look back.
Author Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 I had a very similar situation to the one you're having TC. Had a 5 month relationship with a lady who was getting ready to move to go to school. We never got into any fights, met each others family, had amazing times together. She asked me to take a road trip across the states with her in order to get to her new town which I agreed too. Man was that road trip awesome! Saw a bunch of new and amazing things got to our destination safe and sound. I take a plane back home and everything seemed alright. Communication was great the first month and half and then I started noticing some changes in her mannerisms. I tried to tell myself that it was because of school but I knew deep down it was something else. One night we're talking and she tells me she's struggling with the whole LDR thing and we discussed things that we mutually agreed would help her get through this time. I asked her again how she was feeling a week later and she still said she was struggling with the whole thing for different reasons. In that moment, I knew that there was nothing I could do to fix it and after about another week we chatted and she said she didn't think it would work out. My guess? She found somebody down there that she's interested in. I will never contact her, never check her fb or her ig. I still think about her everyday... and every day I work towards eradicating all emotions where she's concerned. No love, no hatred, no regret. TLDR: If your bf and my gf thought we were worth it, the distance wouldn't have mattered; they would have fought for us. My advice is to mourn, pick yourself up, and never ever look back. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. Most couples break up for a reason, they see it coming, they hit head on things or are incompatible on some aspects. When they just leave our life like this it's difficult to talk ourselves in believing it's better this way because we have nothing bad to remember.
Foodjunkie79 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Of course its normal....your a human being with real feelings! It will get easier love n peace x
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