SrJuanox Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Hello all. This is what happened to me a few days ago: 2 months ago I met the girl of my dreams by Tinder. She likes the same music as me, we are atracted to the same academic area, she has a conception of the life and of the things that is admirable, and so many other things that really make this girl absolutely amazing and lovable. The thing is, when this "Friendship" started we take ourselves super good, we talked about every day, and we always had a topic of conversation, it was amazing and the best months of my life. Then we date, and we had an amazing time so I knew she was "the one"... I cant see her a lot because we have to study a lot and dont really have time for each other, but anyway, we keep talking via text all the time. A few days ago, and struggling by the fact that i cant see her, I decided to tell her I like her by text (Dont know if it was a bad idea). So I told her (In a long message) that I really thought she was amazing and that I was attracted to her. Then she replied saying that she thinks that I'm an amazing guy with so much talent, so much "mistery" and a lot of cute things, wich was amazing, but then she said "Sadly, we havent spent so much time together to become a Girlfriend-Boyfriend thing, but that she really cared about me and about our relation. It was weird, and I dont know what to think. She didnt "Friendzoned" me by saying "No, I just want to be friends". But she didnt say "Yes, I want to have something with you". So I'm really confused right now and I think I screwed up things by telling her how I felt. She said it wasnt a bad idea... but I dont really know. I need help guys, how do I take this? Thanks, greetings from Colombia
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 It means she likes you but doesn't want to be BF/GF yet... She probably just wants to keep dating. Honestly sounds like you jumped the gun a bit... Just relax and let things run their course. If she wants to be exclusive she'll bring it up. Don't be too needy or try and move things along faster than she is ready. 1
Redhead14 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Hello all. This is what happened to me a few days ago: 2 months ago I met the girl of my dreams by Tinder. She likes the same music as me, we are atracted to the same academic area, she has a conception of the life and of the things that is admirable, and so many other things that really make this girl absolutely amazing and lovable. The thing is, when this "Friendship" started we take ourselves super good, we talked about every day, and we always had a topic of conversation, it was amazing and the best months of my life. Then we date, and we had an amazing time so I knew she was "the one"... I cant see her a lot because we have to study a lot and dont really have time for each other, but anyway, we keep talking via text all the time. A few days ago, and struggling by the fact that i cant see her, I decided to tell her I like her by text (Dont know if it was a bad idea). So I told her (In a long message) that I really thought she was amazing and that I was attracted to her. Then she replied saying that she thinks that I'm an amazing guy with so much talent, so much "mistery" and a lot of cute things, wich was amazing, but then she said "Sadly, we havent spent so much time together to become a Girlfriend-Boyfriend thing, but that she really cared about me and about our relation. It was weird, and I dont know what to think. She didnt "Friendzoned" me by saying "No, I just want to be friends". But she didnt say "Yes, I want to have something with you". So I'm really confused right now and I think I screwed up things by telling her how I felt. She said it wasnt a bad idea... but I dont really know. I need help guys, how do I take this? Thanks, greetings from Colombia She wants you to manage your emotions and expectations. She feels you are pushing things a little because you haven't spent enough time together. She's being smart. However, if I were you, and you really are interested in her, I'd start figuring out ways to be able to spent time with her. Yeah, you're busy, but a guy who really likes a girl will figure something out . . . 1
clia Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 She means exactly what she said. She hasn't spent enough time with you in person to know whether she wants a relationship with you. How many dates have you taken her out on? Did you kiss her? Anyway, get off the phone, stop texting and start seeing her a couple times a week in person and see where it goes.
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Never try to discuss emotional subjects via text. Just keep talking to her & seeing her when you can. Ramp up the contact if possible. Since studying is a priority, study together if you have to. Stop with the long emo texts.
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