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So my ex and I recently called it all off. There were some crazy stuff that happened and I begged her and pleaded her.

It's embarrassing thinking that I stooped so low as to call/text a million times but eh. Whatever.

Anyways, I chose to go no contact yesterday and now she's texting me saying she tried to call me (I had her number blocked) and she's been thinking about it and that she's really upset that she never came to see me face to face but just texted me the whole we're over - I have someone new thing.

What do I do here?

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You are in a good position. You've managed to raise yourself by your own strength, you don't need her.

 

From her side, she understood what a pathetic way she's chosen to break up, and now she want's to feel better with herself and she needs you for that. If you want to help her as a friend, why not meeting her? But if you don't feel being a friend, why bother? Just ignore and let her eat her own cake.

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Well I definitely don't want to be just a friend. That's for sure. I also don't want to be a dick about it. Is there a way I can respond that's just saying I'm over it or should I stick to no contact?

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Ruby65 Established Member

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Ignore and either block her on your phone or change your number.

 

She feels guilty and wants to meet with you so she can break up again, face to face? No thanks. Sure, it'll help her feel better -- but you? Not so much.

 

If it makes you feel better, you can always send her a final one-line text just saying you're taking some time without contact so you can move on. Wish her the best and thank her for understanding -- then change your number and be done with it.

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Thank you for that advice.

I'll be honest, I hate this advice but you all are more experienced than I am with this and getting a females perspective helps. As much as I hate it, I need to do it.

 

Thank you!

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Just texted her and she said huh?

I told her I'm responding back to you.

She's all like Idk what I texted you.

Smh. What the heck?

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Ruby65 Established Member

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Just texted her and she said huh?

I told her I'm responding back to you.

She's all like Idk what I texted you.

Smh. What the heck?

 

What did you text her? Did you tell her you were cutting contact so you could move on?

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Satu Established Member

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She wants you to help her not to feel bad about what she's done to you.

 

Don't bother.

 

Let her feel the full consequences of her actions.

 

Block her from everything.

 

You will do fine without her

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So my ex and I recently called it all off. There were some crazy stuff that happened and I begged her and pleaded her.

It's embarrassing thinking that I stooped so low as to call/text a million times but eh. Whatever.

Anyways, I chose to go no contact yesterday and now she's texting me saying she tried to call me (I had her number blocked) and she's been thinking about it and that she's really upset that she never came to see me face to face but just texted me the whole we're over - I have someone new thing.

What do I do here?

 

She didn't say she wants to work things out so that only means she wants to relive her guilt and gain some sympathy from you. Don't give it to her because you will feel like **** afterwards.

 

Think of it as Osmosis, you have the power, she wants some of it.

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I said what are you talking about?

 

Then she said huh

 

I said I was responding to your missed call and text

 

She said Idk what I texted you.

 

I said oh okay. Lol. And that's that.

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Okay, time to stop all this.

 

Block her on your phone.... or change your number. No more texts, no more drama. :)

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I said what are you talking about?

 

Then she said huh

 

I said I was responding to your missed call and text

 

She said Idk what I texted you.

 

I said oh okay. Lol. And that's that.

 

TMI to your ex. She wants to know how hard she has to yank before you feel the chain and call her.

 

She got her answer with a text....

 

Now you are going to be tested again from her when she gets bored or lonely...

 

If you like yourself then slam the door...other than NC you are allowing her to have control over you

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Satu Established Member

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OP:

 

This is the point where you need to call on your adult faculties, and apply some self-discipline.

 

You can do that, can't you?

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She just texted me saying that:

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"I might have said somethinf about face to face "

Ruby65 Established Member

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She just texted me saying that:

And I quote

"I might have said somethinf about face to face "

 

Best of luck to you. :rolleyes:

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Yes Satu. I can and I will

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She just texted me saying that:

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"I might have said something about face to face "

 

am i the only one that feels this is flat out insulting? You might have??!

 

Cut her off, until she is definite about what she says.

 

I might have said something about face to face [translation] = yeah i am trying to be civil but i could give 2 sh*ts about it.

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Best of luck to you. :rolleyes:

 

 

Oh thanks haha

Time to man up and let go

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am i the only one that feels this is flat out insulting? You might have??!

 

Cut her off, until she is definite about what she says.

 

I might have said something about face to face [translation] = yeah i am trying to be civil but i could give 2 sh*ts about it.

 

 

 

How is it insulting? Mind you. I do hate the games but I just want your perspective on it

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Oh great. This would be my life.

My ex before my ex decides to text me saying a year ago how we were together and she was coming to visit me.

What the ****. Like really? Today.

This is actually funny. I'm ignoring that one for sure.

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No offence intended vinchenzo, but this is your second thread on the same topic, where you've been given the same advice. You don't listen and you don't do what you say you're going to do, so I will say good luck and goodbye to this thread.

 

Bye :)

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Okay! That is fair. I did start no contact. I got yanked and fell for it. I'm not sitting here and having a full on conversation with either of them.

I ignored one

and like you all said - just cut it off. Following that. Just confused by all of this.

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Going back into no contact right now. Not responding to anything anymore

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How is it insulting? Mind you. I do hate the games but I just want your perspective on it

 

you don't find it insulting to your person when someone says something to say one second and the next doesn't own up to it?

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