Toodaloo Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yep. No more for a while. I am taking a break from this whole little game. I have managed to scare off 6, 7 and 8... So now I am clear and free!! I stopped to get ciggys from the local garage and saw a chap looking glum over the weekend (I have probably mentioned this already) but anyway I gave him a small chocolate bar to cheer him up and the smile he gave me also gave me more joy and pleasure than all the dates I have had over the past few months. Sad eh! But I figure actually why do this when I could better spend my time and money doing things I enjoy even if it is feeding random strangers chocolate! Pft. Yep its time for a break and a bit of fun. 3
Gaeta Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Breaks are necessary. I am on a break myself, I deleted my profile before the weekend. I went on a couple of dates with a man. I pointed to him a couple of things, he told me I am so full of attitude no wonder no man sticks around lol, Then I went to the bank for business, as I do every Monday for 12 years, and was told by the 3 tellers that I am their nicest most patient customer, go figure. 4
Satu Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I had to go to the hospital with a minor injury, and both the Doctor and the Nurse spontaneously hugged me 3
SycamoreCircle Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Breaks are necessary. I am on a break myself, I deleted my profile before the weekend. I went on a couple of dates with a man. I pointed to him a couple of things, he told me I am so full of attitude no wonder no man sticks around lol, Then I went to the bank for business, as I do every Monday for 12 years, and was told by the 3 tellers that I am their nicest most patient customer, go figure.Is it possible you demonstrated tactlessness in the first instance and kind patience in the second?
neowulf Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Sorry to hear about the set back laddies. Meanwhile on the other side of the fence, I'm starting to think maybe a wife and kids just aren't on the cards for me... *sigh* Guess we all go through that huh. Why is it so damn hard to find the right person, the right relationship... 4
katiegrl Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Breaks are necessary. I am on a break myself, I deleted my profile before the weekend. **I went on a couple of dates with a man. I pointed to him a couple of things, he told me I am so full of attitude no wonder no man sticks around lol,** Then I went to the bank for business, as I do every Monday for 12 years, and was told by the 3 tellers that I am their nicest most patient customer, go figure. Was this the guy you contacted again after 2.5 years? If so, I am glad you spoke up! And his response? Given what you shared with us about him, it was par for the course.. Next. Toodaloo, I'm sorry....yeah breaks are good. G'luck moving forward!!! (((group hug))) 1
Author Toodaloo Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 Well my darlings I had a fantastic evening last night. I have a black eye from trying to do the "crow"... Its harder than it looks even when sober! I need to pull the furniture out tonight after a "bean flicking" contest which involved frozen beans and peas going all over the house... still not sure who won that one but thankfully the dogs mopped most of them up. And came to the conclusion between my friend and I that a. we are both regressing back to childhood so we need to practice getting cool again b. neither of us know what the hell people are on about with some of the terminology used these days and c. google can not answer what the term "frapping" means or where it came from so in the general confusion we figured it must be from a French fisherman making knots with his willy and not from Essex... d. "beating the beaver" could result in Green Peace handcuffing themselves to the bottom of your bed in error and that could be a good or bad thing depending on how old they are, when they last washed and if they are wearing angora hats... So I don't know about you but that little paragraph was and sounds FAR more fun than any of the dates I have been on! I have got in touch with another old friend today and we are going out soon... 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 When I got sick of OLD, I still kept my profile, I just didn't actively look or even reply to most messages. Despite all the setbacks I kept the door open in case universe wants to send someone my way. I think that keeping up the pace and meeting new guys every week is a sure fire way to dating burn out. Only meet someone if you REALLY feel the right vibe. Don't give up. 3
Author Toodaloo Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 Why is it so damn hard to find the right person, the right relationship... If we knew the answer to that we could come up with some sort of positive plan of action... I guess for now we are all screwed... or not as the case may be...
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Yep. No more for a while. I am taking a break from this whole little game. I have managed to scare off 6, 7 and 8... So now I am clear and free!! I stopped to get ciggys from the local garage and saw a chap looking glum over the weekend (I have probably mentioned this already) but anyway I gave him a small chocolate bar to cheer him up and the smile he gave me also gave me more joy and pleasure than all the dates I have had over the past few months. Sad eh! But I figure actually why do this when I could better spend my time and money doing things I enjoy even if it is feeding random strangers chocolate! Pft. Yep its time for a break and a bit of fun. You've come to the same (albeit temporary) conclusion that I came to a couple of months ago. The way I see it, this dating hiatus will do me a world of good - it'll refresh my mind and spirit, and it'll allow me to actually have FUN meeting and talking with new and interesting people WITHOUT *any* expectations of it turning into a date or into anything further. If there's no expectations of anything, then there's no possibility of any disappointment. I think the both of us will benefit from our dating hiatus and - who knows - we may even meet someone unexpectedly who might turn into a good friend or into a dating prospect! Hey, crazier things have happened to people, right?! . 1
Author Toodaloo Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 I know BlackOps. It just gets very tedious very quickly doesn't it! It was weekend before last I think where I just went a bit mad. I did thinks I would never normally do pushed myself way out of my comfort zone and yes it was fun but not as much fun as I could have been having! I am not even going to hope to meet someone unexpectedly. I am just going to go and have some fun and enjoy myself for a bit. My profile hasn't been deleted but deactivated. So it can quietly sit there and think for a while. Ironically I was being nosey, remember I was on that other site where no one wanted to talk to me? Well its still the same old men logging on time and time again. The women have changed about a bit but its still the same old guys. The last 10-15 to log on are still the same as 6 months ago! Makes me laugh really. Who was it that said doing the same thing and expecting different results was madness???
Cinnimon Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I've had no luck in the dating world lately and have decided to just give it a rest. My best friend said the same thing but has since dated several men over the past couple months. The most recent seems to be progressing nicely. I'm happy for her but at the same time I really want to duct tape her mouth lol. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 You're a bad girl for smoking and you know you need to quit. But it's good that you've had a self realization and doing what's right for you. Maybe it's all those jokers in the UK that can't handle you. Ever thought about giving the US a try?
central Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 It's often good to back off for a while, and regroup. It took me nearly 2 years, over 800 unique contacts, and about 50 unique meets to find my ideal match. She was somewhere around 860 in the contact sequence, and 45 in the meeting sequence, where I was the FIRST person she contacted and dated. We both met and dated a few others a while before deciding to make it official. Basically, you never know when that good match will happen - it could be almost immediate, or take a lot of time and effort. When it does happen, it's worth whatever it took. 2
Author Toodaloo Posted May 12, 2015 Author Posted May 12, 2015 But it's good that you've had a self realization and doing what's right for you. Maybe it's all those jokers in the UK that can't handle you. Ever thought about giving the US a try? Last time I was in the US the only man not scared of me was 80 and Italian!!! The rest all looked at me with fear in their eyes!!! I guess I could work my way through each state! 1
neowulf Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 You're a bad girl for smoking and you know you need to quit. But it's good that you've had a self realization and doing what's right for you. Maybe it's all those jokers in the UK that can't handle you. Ever thought about giving the US a try? Pft, get in line. Australia is where it's at 2
Author Toodaloo Posted May 13, 2015 Author Posted May 13, 2015 hey toodles, you are headed down the right path Mmm - why does the little devil on my shoulder tell me that path is crusty old knickers and picking my nose while watching Jerry Springer???
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