So Confused about what I'm feeling.

[Teag]

I'm not really sure if this is the best place for this or not but whatever. My husband & I have been having alot of problems lately & i'm getting where I don't feel much for him anymore. I hate feeling this way. He's had alot of "bad luck" lately due to his stupid choices & he's starting to become an alcoholic. I feel like I have to walk on egg shells around him sometimes b/c he has more mood swings than I do when I'm PMSing. He takes out all his anger on me, he doesn't physically abuse me or anything but when he's mad, he completely ignores me & when I try to say anything to him including what do you want for dinner he snaps at me. I hate being around him when he's like that & the ONLY people that can get him out of his moods are his 2 BEST friends.

 

He doesn't ever want to be home anymore, he doesn't help me out around the house anymore. He's gotten SO lazy w/in the past year. Everything use to be so perfect. Now I work 8-9 hours a day, gone 10 hrs a day take care of our child, cook dinner & keep the house clean. He works 4 hours a day, sits home & drinks beer until his friend gets home from work, goes & hangs out w/ him. He comes home when I get home only to leave again after we put our daughter to bed & stays out until 12-1am in the morning. When I say something about it he's like well I sit home all day w/out you (while I'm at WORK) & when you go off on Sundays (I go to my grandmothers & gone for about 4-6 hrs that day) so therefore he should be able to go out if he wants to. He says I should be glad he goes over to his friends house instead of going out to a bar or strip club blah blah blah. I have cried more w/in these 3-4 months than I have our ENTIRE relationship. I feel like he does it intintually sometimes. He wrecked his car about 2 months ago so right now we're running on only my which I NEVER get to drive anymore b/c he always has it.

 

OK, now my problem, I've just recently met back up w/ my ex-step-mom. I haven't seen or talked to her in about 12 years, well she has a nephew that I grew up with. He's not ANY blood to me, but I haven't seen he was about 8 years old (he's 2 years younger than me). Well I went over there & the nephew was there & boy was he HOT. He grew up to be very handsome. & it was almost like we never parted from one another. We instantly hit it off. My husband hasn't met them yet b/c he's doesn't really go the extra mile to meet my family like i do his. But I've been over there to visit about 5 times for about 4-5 hours each time & I have gotten this huge crush on him. He just makes me feel so good when I'm over there. He gives me so much attention I haven't gotten in a long time. I went over there last night & I just feel like a teenager again. When I left I went to give him a half, one arm hug & he just grabbed me & hugged me tight & just held me for a few minutes & was like ya know, its really good seeing you again, I've missed you all these years.

 

Now he doesn't go & try to flirt w/ me or anything but there just feels like there's something there. He doesn't know about any of my problem w/ my H, as far as he knows (right now) is that I'm happily married so he's not taking advantage of THAT situation. But I just feel so confused about what I'm feeling right now. I dreamed about him ALL night last night. I feel SO guilty feeling this way. I really want things to work out w/ my H. I have never cheated & don't tend on starting now. I have NO intentions of acting on these feelings. I haven't felt this way in a LONG time & having a hard time dealing with them. I don't even hardly like having sex w/ my H anymore, its become a chore almost & I HATE feeling this way. If you've made it this far thanks for taking time to read this & any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[laRubiaBonita]

you need to work out what you and your HUSNAND are gonna do........ you have to think about what is best for your kids right now, and knowing whether or not they will have to see daddy explode on mom, cause she is smitten with another guy.

[whichwayisup]

Sounds like your husband is depressed and getting worse falling down the ladder. He needs some help and fast! He needs to get into AA and some councilling too.

 

You still love him and want to be married to him? Both of you should get to a marriage councillor.

 

I'm sorry for what you are feeling and going through. Sounds like you have a crush on this guy, which is OK as long as you don't allow your feelings to develope into something more. And don't tell him either!!! (that you are crushing on him.) I know you wont' cheat but if this guy DOES realize what is going on in your marriage he could just put on the charm abit more...Not saying you will fall for it, but being vunerable and not emotionally connecting with your husband will make this man look more attractrive.

 

You've been feeling neglected and alone for a while now so ofcourse a nice man, a good looking man will catch your eye...But just leave it at that.

 

Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. Make sure to show the love as I'm sure he's not feeling too good about - Seems like it from what you've described.

 

Hope this helps.

[Cecelius]

At a minimum, you need to explain to your husband that you're so miserable in your relationship that you feel essentially abandoned and that you are alone, and that if steps are not taken immediately to fix it, you consider yourself free to do what you want.

[Ladyjane14]

I agree with WWIU. It could be depression, or even anxiety. It's possible that the increase in alcohol consumption is self-medicating. Of course, alcohol is a depressant, and so....it ends up being an emotional merry-go-round.

 

Maybe you could get hubby to see his medical doctor? The doctor can screen him for these things and determine if his situation warrents referral to psychological services. He'll need to be honest at his office visit though.

 

Things are difficult for you at home. It's tempting to allow yourself to be distracted by an attraction like the one you're experiencing. Don't beat yourself up about it. But don't act on it either. Acting on it would only exacerbate your problem.

[Teag]

Thank you for posting back, Like I said, I have no intentions of acting on these feelings or letting the other guy know how I feel or the problems I'm having. My husband is so hard headed, he doesn't think HE has a problem & i doubt he'll get any help. unfortualy he blames everyone else for his problems. We are still pretty much newly weds, we've only been married 3 years, but we've been together 5 years. I feel like I don't even know my H anymore, he has become a COMPLETELY different person. I hate the way I feel on both ends. I have never felt this way before while I was in a relationship. I've tried talking to my H but he ALWAYS turns it around on me so I've just finally given up b/c we end up fighting more. I just feel stuck. but I love him SO much, but my "in love" feelings are dropping fast if not already gone.

[Moose]

Don't do something you're going to regret later down the road. What's missing here is the communication. It's time to designate an evening, (send the kiddies to the sitters), and have a set down with your husband.

 

He needs to know right off the bat that the purpose of this meeting is to help you decide what you two are going to do for the rest of your lives.

 

He needs to know that you're not sitting back to be along for the ride anymore, and that you're not happy with the current situation.

 

Once you've got an idea of what he's thinking, then you'll have a general idea of where this is going.

 

You really haven't have any infidelity in your marriage as of yet, so there's no reason to suggest divorce.....but definitely communicate with him.

[Ladyjane14]

Originally posted by Moose

It's time to designate an evening, (send the kiddies to the sitters), and have a set down with your husband.

 

Good suggestion. You might also set some ground-rules for the conversation. For example, you might say that each person can only bring one topic to the table for the entire session. You can discuss his "mood-swings", and he'll have an opportunity to grind his axe about one thing that he might have an issue about.

 

You might also agree to end the conversation on a positive note, even if you haven't reached an accord....so that nobody goes to bed angry.

 

I think I might prepare my arguement regarding possible depression or anxiety by bringing some information to the table. You know, screening questionairres and that sort of thing..

[Teag]

Moose & Ladyjane-

Thank you. That does sound like a good idea, I've tried to talk to him before but always after we put the baby to bed, therefore we were both tired & ready for bed.

 

He has the worst temper of anyone I've ever met so its hard to talk to him anymore. I think alot is bothering, his "bad luck" & job situation, He is only working part time now so I make twice as much as he does, & he B*tches about money, that we don't ever have any extra but he won't do anything about it. He doesn't try to look for another job & won't get a second job. Instead of looking he says no one is going to hire me blah blah blah, therefore again its not his fault that he's not going anywhere in his life. Its not his fault his life sucks. (this is what he says anyway)

 

My mother in law took our baby (2yrs old) Wednesday night & we got movie tickets for Christmas that we haven't uses yet, so I thought it would be nice to go to a movie & maybe dinner since we didn't have our baby. Well we went to dinner but he decided he didn't want to go to the movie "b/c there's too many people hooping & hollering in the theater, thats why I have cable". So we go home & we check the mail & he gets a letter stating he was going to loose his license (this was a mistake) He got all pissed & instead of waiting (b/c he KNEW it was a mistake) he let it ruin our WHOLE night. He layed on the couch & fell asleep until it was time to pick up his friend from work & only when we got to his house did he cheer up. Its just SO frustrating.

[FolderWife]

GRRRRR....ditch your loser lazy husband. Keep YOUR car. Keep the house...he won't be able to afford it.

 

Kick him out. Tell him to take his beer and get lost.

 

Then see if he comes around. If not...you're better off without him.

[nyckey]

I wish I could be at your house to beat the crap out of your H, and show him how to treat a woman who will go out of her way for a real man. He a fool, sweety.

 

As for that hotty you meet I say have a talk with him, and set your rules with him. If you can not look back and think it was wrong, do it! Enjoy it and hold on to every ooh you can possible get. If not take a hold of that hotty and suck all the energy out of him so you can have some left when you get home.

 

Or do nothing and listen to everyone else, I'm just the other side of the book.

 

Good Luck!!

[Moose]

Here's my dicussion ball rules:

 

"Discussion Ball"

 

1. Set up a day, totally dedicated to discussion time with your significant other.

 

a. Make it during the day.

b. Try to have children, if any, at the sitters and out of ear shot.

c. Have lunch planned ahead of time, delivered if possible.

 

2. Find a ball, stuffed toy, pillow, or anything soft that won't cause damage if thrown. This will be your, "Discussion ball".

 

3. Flip a coin to decide who goes first.

 

a. For first timers, whoever initiates the discussion goes first.

b. Plan for monthly, bi-monthly, or quarterly, "Discussion ball", discussions.

 

4. Whoever goes first, holds the, "Discussion Ball" and therefore holds the table.

 

a. The other person is not allowed to say anything.

b. The other person is not allowed to interrupt.

c. The other person is not allowed to grunt, clear throat, or correct the holder of the, "Discussion Ball".

 

5. Once the, "Discussion Ball", holder is finished making their point, the ball is passed to the other person.

 

a. Responses are allowed a 2 minute rebuttal. (Keep a timer)

b. After rebuttal, responder can bring up a new issue.

 

6. Repeat until both parties feel satisfied with the, "Discussion Ball", discussion.

 

a. Take breaks when neccessary to avoid stress and comments made out of anger.

b. Never allow, "Discussion Ball", discussion go into the evening hours.

c. Each participant is to keep a notebook to write down areas of improvement suggested by their significant other.

 

7. Part from each other for at least 2 hours for personal reflection.

 

a. Keep your notebook with you to write down your thoughts.

b. Write down foreseen problems you may encounter in your area of improvement.

c. Make a plan to knock down obsticales in your way of accomplishing area of improvement.

 

8. Do something unexpected and kind for your significant other.

 

GRRRRR....ditch your loser lazy husband. Keep YOUR car. Keep the house...he won't be able to afford it.

 

Kick him out. Tell him to take his beer and get lost.

 

Then see if he comes around. If not...you're better off without him.

I dunno....that might cause him to drown himself in alcohol. Giving up is the easiest thing to do, but it could also be the most destructive.

I wish I could be at your house to beat the crap out of your H, and show him how to treat a woman who will go out of her way for a real man. He a fool, sweety.

This is how I feel about Monday's husband......if I were single, I'd drive out to Monday's and rescue her from him.........oh well......can't have everything and then some.....I'll stick with everything.....

As for that hotty you meet I say have a talk with him, and set your rules with him. If you can not look back and think it was wrong, do it! Enjoy it and hold on to every ooh you can possible get. If not take a hold of that hotty and suck all the energy out of him so you can have some left when you get home.

Right now the OP is in the right, this will cascade her into the, "other side", like you said. I say she has the upper hand right now.

[StillHurtin]

I am so sorry, I can relate to your story. My H was also an alcholic (which he says he wasn't) and also had some major anger issues. Everything that went wrong, he blamed me. He was gone 5 nights a week out w/ his friends getting drunk leaving me home raising our children. After 10 years of putting up w/ this crap I told him to quit drinking and get help w/ his anger or me and our children were leaving. He did it! He quit drinking, and got help w/ his anger. He has been sober for 2 1/2 years and doesn't have a desire to drink again. As for the anger issues, he stopped taking his anti-depressants and said he didn't need them. Well, I think he still does. He gets frustrated w/ not only us, but his co-workers and he has been talked to about it b4 by his supervisors. I think now he is starting to realize it is something he needs to work on.

 

You need to sit down and talk to your H about how this makes you feel. Do you like Dr Phil? I know some don't but I bought his book "Relationship Rescue" and it has been a good book. I also think that you and your H seek couple counseling. As for the step nephew, it's ok to think he is hot, but to act on those feelings would be wrong and cause more problems in the end. My H had an A shortly after I made him quit drinking (we didn't have a happy M b4 the A) and it has caused a lot of problems. I wouldn't recommened running to another person to get what your H isn't giving to you. You need to talk. GL!

[deemanct]

Hi there. You've got lots of good insight from most everone. My 2 cents says a few things... your H appears unhappy, and unwilling to address the unhappiness. If you are expecting him to display a willingness to work things out, you need to be prepared to possibly wait a really long time and endure many degrading episodes of 'hitting bottom' until he gets honest with himself. Some people take longer than others to reach this point. If you are committed and willing to suffer long, forget about your crush, and do your best for your H...consuling...doctors...etc... If you are not committed to that extent, you may feel better about yourself in the long run if you divorce and reach closure before fanning the flame of your crush. But beware...crushes go straight into wildfire mode with the smallest amount of fanning. It's nice to know you're free to burn like a wildfire when you finally can fan it. Good luck making your choices. Dee.

[TMCM]

Please consider the following:

 

1. Many affairs start with an innocent friendship in which marital boundaries [i.e. spending time alone, and confiding your marital problems] are slowly crossed and a dependence of emotional needs [i.e. affection, conversation, attention] gets established. Your ex-stepmom's nephew's attractiveness, physical and emotional, will begin to draw you closer and closer to him as your marital problems increase. Do not fool yourself that you can have a platonic friendship with this man under your present circumstances, for he is too much of a temptation and a crutch that you can use as an escape from your marital problems [like alcohol is your H's 'friend' and crutch]. With him in the picture, any attempts to repair your marriage will be either futile or ,at best, half-hearted. So if you truly are serious about giving your best to save/rebuild your marriage, then you must end all contact with this man, NOW.

 

2. You must sit down and talk with your H and express that you are reaching the point where his behavior is killing all the love you have for him and the temptation to divorce him is becoming more attractive as time goes by. Explain to him that you cannot and will not force him to change back to the man he was and whom you fell madly in-love with, for that is a choice only he can make, but if he truly loves you, he will make the effort to confront HIS issues by going with you to marital counseling. He must be made aware that just because you married him, does not mean that you will tolerate staying in an unhealthy and unhappy marriage 'til death do us part'. If after some time he is still the same person, then you must start to plan what you want to do with your life. You are NOT a slave, you are a woman with free will who has the power to choose the life she deems best for her self and her child, and if that includes ending a dead marriage, then so be it.

 

Lastly, please read the posts of women who had affairs, like Cis and Joyce, and you will see how destructive affairs really are, not only to their husbands and families, but to themselves as well. Don't allow yourself to become a victim of your own folly.

 

TMCM

[Teag]

You advice has gotten me thinking this morning. I went to my ex-step-moms this weekend & I saw him. He knew I was comming over b/c I come over every Sunday & he made us all dinner which I thought was really sweet. He flirted alot, but I reframed as much as possible from flirting back. He would sit beside me & & playfully push me ect...like the teeny bopper stuff but it felt good. But I finally just got up & went to sit by myself in a chair so I wouldn't be so tempted to flirt back so much. He lives w/ my step mom so unless I just stop going over there I can't completely avoid him. I'm not willing to push her back out of my life again.

 

Moose- That "discussions ball" idea sounds like really good midea, I'm going to print it out & try it this weekend. I'll ask my mother-in-law to watch T. (my daughter-her name is Trinity) I'll post again to let you know how it worked.

 

TMCM- Thank you also, I have read some of the other people who have had affairs & I use to hate people who had them & couldn't understand how someone could cheat on someone they loved...until now. I know nothing good can come of one. I'm completely devoted to my husband (except my wondering thoughts) sometimes I wonder if I'm TOO devoted. I sometimes let him run all over me & let him talk me into anything.

 

His best friends has a saying about him..." he can talk a zebra out of his stripes if he wanted them" and its true. He would be the best car salesman or somthing like that & he has such a great personality (when it comes to other people) I just don't understand why he doesn't want more & is letting his "problems" take over his life. He use to be such a happy go lucky person, someone who didn't believe in depression, he couldn't understand how other people could let something like that take over them...now he's letting it happen to him.

 

deemact- I am completely sommited to my H & am willing to suffer if it means he's going to get better. If I knew things would change back to the man I fell in love with. I would love to go to marriage counseling but they are too expensive, I've called around & most want like $100 per session which is nowhere near anywhere I can afford so that unfortantly out of the question.

 

Stillhurtin- I'm glad things are better w/ you & your husband & I hope me & mine will be able to w=ork things out, I think I will look up that book & get it. Right now I'm up for anything.

 

I wish I could be at your house to beat the crap out of your H, and show him how to treat a woman who will go out of her way for a real man. He a fool, sweety.

 

Thank you, that put a smile on my face.

 

GRRRRR....ditch your loser lazy husband. Keep YOUR car. Keep the house...he won't be able to afford it.

 

Kick him out. Tell him to take his beer and get lost.

 

Then see if he comes around. If not...you're better off without him.

 

I wish I had the guts to tell him this, but I'm afraid of what will happen if it somes to that. We got into a fight one night & I told him if he hated his life(w/ me) so much & I made him that miserable to go find someone who can make him happy. That didn't go over too well, he left & went out to his friends house & the next day he left work early b/c he was too upset (WTF!! I work all the time w/ tears running down my face) He went to his other friends house & called me telling me how much he loved me & he didn't want us to split up for something stupid blah blah blah.

 

When he talks to his friends about our problems he turns it around on me. I don't ever let him do anything & when he does I bitch & makes me sound like the bitch. I understand everyone has there on side to the story but he eggsgerates the truth, like he'll tell them he goes over to his friends for an hour & I bitch about it althoughhe's really over there for 4 hours & doesn't come home til 1 or 2am. Then he comes home & wants to cuddle & fool around and wonders why I turn over & go to sleep. Our sex life has become so pitiful b/c of this. I mean who wants to have sex at 1am when you've been at work for 10 hours

 

This weekend we pretty much did our own thing and didn't see much of each other, only a few hours which at this point was fine. Its almost like the more I'm gone the better b/c thats his excuse why its ok for him to go gone all the time. n=But if I do stay home he says " well its not my fault you stay home so why should I" kind of thing.

[Teag]

Ya know, my husband is pushing me futher & futher away from him. He called me this morning bitching about not having any money & blah blah blah. grrr, I am so sick of this, we'll be fine as long as I keep mmy mouth shut & let him bitch & let him do what he wants, I sick of it. Right now I just wish he would leave for about a week & leave me the hell alone. He had a chance to make his life better & come work w/ me making good money but he wouldn't do it b/c he couldn't work w/ his mom. We'll get along great for a week then boom all hell breaks loose.

[nyckey]

Originally posted by BabyBluAngel

Ya know, my husband is pushing me futher & futher away from him. He called me this morning bitching about not having any money & blah blah blah. grrr, I am so sick of this, we'll be fine as long as I keep mmy mouth shut & let him bitch & let him do what he wants, I sick of it. Right now I just wish he would leave for about a week & leave me the hell alone. He had a chance to make his life better & come work w/ me making good money but he wouldn't do it b/c he couldn't work w/ his mom. We'll get along great for a week then boom all hell breaks loose.

 

Well, might we think you go on spending spree's? and while he was out on business, he had trouble getting what he needed?

[Teag]

Well, might we think you go on spending spree's? and while he was out on business, he had trouble getting what he needed

 

Spending spree's? The only kind of spending spree I go on is to get my baby diapers. No we have no money b/c he only works part time while I bust my a** working 40 hours a week. He gets what he needs, his ciggerettes, beer & weed. I get to go tan for $30 a month. I don't smoke ciggs or weed, & I don't drink.

[nyckey]

Originally posted by BabyBluAngel

Spending spree's? The only kind of spending spree I go on is to get my baby diapers. No we have no money b/c he only works part time while I bust my a** working 40 hours a week. He gets what he needs, his ciggerettes, beer & weed. I get to go tan for $30 a month. I don't smoke ciggs or weed, & I don't drink.

 

Not even any wine?

[Teag]

Not even any wine?

 

I'll drink if we go out but we very seldom go out. My husband will drink a 12 pack a NIGHT if he could & sometimes does, He drinks at LEAST a six pack everynight, THAT gets expensive. I hate the taste of beer. I use to do all that stuff (except ciggs) but I don't anymore, its too expensive & pointless.

 

But please read my first post before you judge ME. I'm the one who works 40 hours a week & takes care of the house & our child. I stay home to be with him & cook him dinner everynight only for him to leave & be w/ his friends 6 nights a week.

 

I do NOT care if he did his own thing once or twice a week, hell I've even encouraged him to make a "guys night out" but he won't, he would rather just go hang out whenever he wants.

 

I have just had to pay $1000 worth of HIS tickets b/c of his stupid choices. he only works about 20 hours a week. I'm doing my best to provide for my family to be a good wife & mother. His paycheck pays for daycare & grocerys & I pay all our bills. Thank goodness after this week he can't smoke weed anymore b/c he's got to go through P.T.I., but that extra $$ he saves on that will only go towards beer.

[nyckey]

Originally posted by BabyBluAngel

I'll drink if we go out but we very seldom go out. My husband will drink a 12 pack a NIGHT if he could & sometimes does, He drinks at LEAST a six pack everynight, THAT gets expensive. I hate the taste of beer. I use to do all that stuff (except ciggs) but I don't anymore, its too expensive & pointless.

 

But please read my first post before you judge ME. I'm the one who works 40 hours a week & takes care of the house & our child. I stay home to be with him & cook him dinner everynight only for him to leave & be w/ his friends 6 nights a week.

 

I do NOT care if he did his own thing once or twice a week, hell I've even encouraged him to make a "guys night out" but he won't, he would rather just go hang out whenever he wants.

 

I have just had to pay $1000 worth of HIS tickets b/c of his stupid choices. he only works about 20 hours a week. I'm doing my best to provide for my family to be a good wife & mother. His paycheck pays for daycare & grocerys & I pay all our bills. Thank goodness after this week he can't smoke weed anymore b/c he's got to go through P.T.I., but that extra $$ he saves on that will only go towards beer.

 

Don't get the wrong impression, I just always like to see where your coming from, I am in no position or in the right frame of mind, to judge anyone. And yes you do alot for your family, you should.

 

I'm just sorry that the rewards are not what you are excepting. I think it that time you show him that you really are not going to take his cr@p anymore....

 

You sound like you had enough, but on the other hand, not enough to get a divorce....

 

Try to beleive me when I say I think I understand......

 

I think your just waiting for it to be behind you, and move on already.... It looks to me you are already halfway there!

 

Let's see if I understand....

 

1st - You waited long enough and started to notice his ways (very patient of you)

 

2nd - You loved him long enough to prove you can put up with his way (since you were patient)

 

3rd - You had a family with him, even though you didn't always agree with his ways (you have alot of love to offer)

 

4th - You are not only raising the kids but you are the bread winner in the house (not only do you care, but you work hard)

 

5th - You finally realise you can do this by yourself, but the kids need a father (not only do work hard, but you care )

 

6th - Now your wondering, what about me! since you take care of everyone, who is going to take care of you...

 

Am I getting close?....

 

Y or N

[Teag]

NYCKEY- Yeah your getting close, I love him So much but I don't think he's in a place in his life right now where he's willing to get any help. He doesn't see why I don't like him to go to his friends EVERY night b/c "I'm sleeping so what does it matter". (which I'm not but am when he gets home) He doesn't understand why it worries me he drinks SO much b/c "he doesn't stumble around or beat me when he drinks". He doesn't see anything wrong with what he's doing, instead I'm the one being a bi*ch. We use to be so "perfect" for each other, we could almost read each others mind. He use to be a hard worker & was the "bread winner", we both had our own time for ourselves, we helped one another but w/in the last year he has completly changed. Alot has happened this year so I guess I'm just hoping he'll at least want to come up w/ some kind of compramise, thats all I ask but right now he's not willing. & I almost want to give up trying.

 

Thank you for replying & trying to understand.

[nyckey]

Then take over woman, know is the perfect time. (ROLE CHANGE)

 

He's at his weekest and he see nothing wrong with it! Tell him to shut up while you are speaking, to listen and learn, you will now have to teach eachother what eachother think's eachother likes. Just to know or maybe "BOOM", he wakes up

 

Some thing will come up while you start bring up the things you like, use some memorable moments in the bedroom, just to keep his attention, then hit him with every thing else....But don't forget to watch his attention span, once you loose his attention,start mentioning the hot stuff. And to show him your not fooling around, you attempt the best oral every!!!! (Guessing you do that)

 

When he's finished, remind him how he has to be, to want THAT again.... YOUR RULES!!

 

If he's a man, he'd want more!!!!!

[Teag]

So control him by sexual favors....I like it. I plan on talking to him this weekend while my daughter is at her grandmothers, so hopefully he'll want to at least come up w/ a compramise. I'll let you know how things go when I get into the office on Monday.