ms_incognito Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 If a date went well, do you think a woman should send a Thank you text follow-up after? My sister says to never send anything and let the man initiate so that they can show you they're interested and that you show your interest through your actions on the date. What are your thoughts? Should a woman say thank you or wait for the man?
clia Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 I always sent a thank you text if I wanted to see him again. 1
Hawaii51 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Tomorrow afternoon? Let 'em know you enjoyed his time and get another date set. Catch that handsome butterfly.
fitnessfan365 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 It's funny. Even on the BEST first dates I've had that lead to LTR's, I've never gotten a post first date text. The fact that she said yes to a second date is how I knew she was interested..LOL But the women I date do tend to be more old fashioned usually. So it's understandable that they like the guy to initiate.
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Your sister used to be correct before the proliferation of texts. Now if the woman does not send the thank you text, the man concludes she is not interested & never reaches out again. 1
Peachland Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 This is no harm in sending a follow up text. I've done it recently telling the guy I had a nice time. He was delighted and immediately asked me out on another date.
fitnessfan365 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Your sister used to be correct before the proliferation of texts. Now if the woman does not send the thank you text, the man concludes she is not interested & never reaches out again. This just shows a lack of confidence on a guy's part. If the date goes really well, ends in a kiss close, etc then she shouldn't need to validate anything IMO. I know some guys will say "How do you know she is really interested without the text?" The fact that you kissed is a good indicator..LOL That's why I just use common sense and take things at face value. 1
Redhead14 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 What did people do before there was texting? The woman thanked the man at the end of the date and kissed him good night, if she really liked him. If he liked her enough, he scheduled another date then. Or, the guy called her at home the next day or a couple of days later and asked her for another date. 2
clia Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 It's funny. Even on the BEST first dates I've had that lead to LTR's, I've never gotten a post first date text. The fact that she said yes to a second date is how I knew she was interested..LOL But the women I date do tend to be more old fashioned usually. So it's understandable that they like the guy to initiate. Thanking a guy for a nice evening isn't initiating anything. It's just polite. 2
fitnessfan365 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 What did people do before there was texting? The woman thanked the man at the end of the date and kissed him good night, if she really liked him. If he liked her enough, he scheduled another date then. Or, the guy called her at home the next day or a couple of days later and asked her for another date. Ding..ding. We have a winner! 1
d0nnivain Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 This just shows a lack of confidence on a guy's part. If the date goes really well, ends in a kiss close, etc then she shouldn't need to validate anything IMO. I know some guys will say "How do you know she is really interested without the text?" The fact that you kissed is a good indicator..LOL That's why I just use common sense and take things at face value. FF you have more self confidence then most men. I stand by my assessment that the average guy will conclude a woman is not interested if she doesn't text thank you. Guys already have it rough. They are the ones who have to risk rejection. As women, there is no need to make it harder for him. If a woman liked the guy & the date, a simple thank you is polite. If it also helps assure the guy that a next advance will be welcome, it's a win-win.
katiegrl Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 (edited) If a date went well, do you think a woman should send a Thank you text follow-up after? My sister says to never send anything and let the man initiate so that they can show you they're interested and that you show your interest through your actions on the date. What are your thoughts? Should a woman say thank you or wait for the man? I would but never had to.. When I have really clicked with a guy, he always beat me to it!!! But then again, when I really dig a guy and we're clicking, it's pretty obvious, which makes it easier (and safer) for him to send a follow up text...without fear of rejection. If we didn't click, then no I wouldn't for obvious reasons and would not want one from him either. Edited May 12, 2015 by katiegrl 1
fitnessfan365 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 FF you have more self confidence then most men. I stand by my assessment that the average guy will conclude a woman is not interested if she doesn't text thank you. Guys already have it rough. They are the ones who have to risk rejection. As women, there is no need to make it harder for him. If a woman liked the guy & the date, a simple thank you is polite. If it also helps assure the guy that a next advance will be welcome, it's a win-win. Fair enough and I can see your POV. I just personally see it as redundant. If the date ends in a kiss, her stressing she had a lovely time, and both of us agreeing we want to do it again, that is all I need to know. But I also know that some guys have a hard time kissing a woman on a first date. So they feel more unsure about where a woman stands and appreciate the text. Just like a woman in that scenario would probably be left feeling unsure as well and sends the text to leave the door open. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Nearly every guy that I go on a first date with, sends a "I had a great time" text right after (within an hour). Having said that, there is no harm in sending one yourself. If a guy is interested, it will make him smile. Forget the games. 1
Hawaii51 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 Maybe people need more affirmation in this super stimulated world :/
jen1447 Posted May 12, 2015 Posted May 12, 2015 If you feel like sending a text, send a text. It's not a big deal.
johndoe2 Posted May 13, 2015 Posted May 13, 2015 If you feel like sending a text, send a text. It's not a big deal. Would be great if everyone could think this way about most things. Nowadays every date and its aftermath feels like a high stakes game of minesweeper. Except that I'm actually kinda good at minesweeper. Edit: btw, what is a poly girl? Polyglot? Polymath? Polytheist?
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